no social life

LegacyUser

i want to get out of the house and socialise more but i have no friends and no girlfriend but i want that to change.
basically all i have been doing is working come home watch some tv go on pc for a while then do some exercise and go to bed.
did this my whole life really which has destroyed me.

i tryed the whole pub/club thing trying to get a girlfriend but it sucks when your on your own.i probably come across as a loner.i dont feel very comfortable in thies places on my own either.
not a big fan of alcohol either but i just dont know what to do, where to go
i know i need to start going places in the evening after work to socialise but i have no idea what to do
i dont have much interests really,dont do sports,have a homebuilt gym.
i like cars and pcs but i want to cut down on that cause the amount of money i have waisted on them as hobbys.
i recently hit 21 there a while back and it really depressed me that i have never had a girlfriend
iam also kinda depressed that i have no real friends but its my own fault really i had a few friends about 2 years ago but they were kinda a bad influence on me i had to get away from that group and sort out my career

i am a good looking guy strong body build good job i am a very kind caring person to so really i shouldnt have any problems finding a girlfriend but i just dont meet enough wemon the way i am living at the moment its been months since i had a decent chat with a girl never mind a date

my biggest fear is that if i continue living the way i am ill be 30 years old with the same problems ill have feck all social skills no girlfriend etc i need to change my way of life now.
help me please

Cuddlesworth

Help yourself. To be friends with people you need to have some sort of common interest with them. To get a girlfriend you need to get up off your ass and ask some women out.

Pick up a hobby, or use existing ones. You say you have a interest in cars and pc's? Have you tried going to car meets? I can't say its my style, but some women will hit on a guy with a nice car.

Pc's will get you nowhere.

LegacyUser

Id say go to college for a year or two course, dead easy to make friends then, hopefully you will make some lasting ones too and maybe even meet a girl.

Stench Blossoms

Maybe you could try socialising with your work mates?

Or as krazy_8s said, go to a few car meets.

LegacyUser

the car meets is a good idea
my project car will take a few more months to finish unfortunately
should be a babe magnet when its up and runing might be an old man by the time its finished though
as reguards work mates everysingle one of them has a girlfriend except me i get an terrible slagging about it at times.i only really go out with em 3-4 times a year xmas etc

channaigh

why don't you get a myspace page put it up in your area contact people from your area and arrange to do something. i've been asked out loads on it its good fun on myspace. and u might meet a girl from your area or people with a similar interest

GhostInTheRuins

Go to places where you'll meet people that share simular interests as you. Like was said before, you like cars so go to some car meets.

Stench Blossoms

Becareful though, theres a lot of car whores out there.

If you want to pm me i'll give you a list of some good car websites.

randomname2005

21dude21 wrote:

i want to get out of the house and socialise more but i have no friends and no girlfriend but i want that to change.
basically all i have been doing is working come home watch some tv go on pc for a while then do some exercise and go to bed.
did this my whole life really which has destroyed me.
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help me please

You also say that you usually do some exercise - you could join a sports club and meet people that way. I know lots of people who partake in sport for fun (i.e not spending all hours training for a specific goal), to meet people, keep fit and then go for a few drinks after training. It might be worth a shot. You are only 21, its not too old to take up GAA/Rugby/5 a side soccer etc.

LegacyUser

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D.T. Jesus wrote:

Go to places where you'll meet people that share simular interests as you. Like was said before, you like cars so go to some car meets.

thats half my prob i dont have much interests need to start doing some new things that wont cost much money as i have started saving for the house
to be honest i am very mature for my age dont really fancy waisting money on cars or crap anymore'

macroman

Try Boards Beers, even if you don't drink go along for the craic and a coke