How much time?

LegacyUser

Have a quick question what is the norm for couples lets say going out just under a year. How much time do you spend with your better half on average on a weekly basis.Couple of hours,couple of days. Do you get to see them every night??Weekends only. What is the happy medium.Think im not seeing enough of my girlfriend!!

Victor

You should definitely have some 'me and you alone' time at least once a week on top of some 'us and other people' time.

You should definitely spend 1 or 2 days doing your own thing.

Every relationship varies.

Dalfiatach

A healthy relationship (and this applies all the way from teenagers to old married couples) has, as Victor said, a nice balance. You need some quality chilled relaxing together time where the two of you talk. You need the active out and about doing stuff time, both just the two of you and with a crowd of friends. And everybody needs "me time" where they do stuff without the other half (and no, work does not count), again both alone and with friends.

Maybe the issue is not that you don't see enough of her, but the times you see her you aren't getting the right mix of relaxed/intimate time; the two of you out doing something together; and socialising as a couple in a group activities?

Or maybe you really don't see very much of her at all, in which case you have to think about why...what are the reasons you rarely see her?

LegacyUser

I've thought about this one too

My partner and i are together 4 months now - we usually spend the complete weekend together, either she stays in mine or i stay in hers. How often are you guys seeing each other?
i'd like to see more of her but i don't want to seem too pushy either!!

Femelade

Going out with my boyfriend for just over a year. He usually stays in mine on friday, sat and sunday night, we would go out for pints or just some dinner or else stay in with a dvd. Then he would call to mine or i would call to his usually 2 nights during the week for a few hours.

watna

I don't think there's a required time you should spend with your partner. Every relationship is different. I can see that even amongst my friends. I've been with my bf for a year and a little bit and we live together. We still find that even though we see each other every night and all weekend we need quality time set aside. We also both need time to see our friends without each other. We have a good balance and it works for us. one of my friends has been with her bf for about 8 months and is much different. He goes away most weekends and they hang out 2 or 3 nights a week, they're happy enough with that.

if you feel you'd like to spend more time with your gf do, if you're happy with the ways things are then leave it. There's no expected amount of time you should spend with her..... it depends on your relationship.

Talliesin

PAPADONTPREACH wrote:

Think im not seeing enough of my girlfriend!!

What does "think" have to do with it?

There isn't a rule. You will not have the relationship-police kick your door in and detain you if you don't spend the requisite X hours a week together.

Some people who have built happy lives together weren't seeing any of each other at all most weeks when they were a year in. Some where living together and seeing each other constantly.

What's more important is if you are happy with how things are? If not, can you do something about it and how would your girlfriend feel about this increase in time together? How much does practical concerns get in the way? How much does other aspects of her emotional life (family and friends) get in the way and are the two of you very different in how you deal with that (which can lead to one partner feeling that their partner is always with their friends instead of them while the other feels they are being prevented from being with their friends by a clingy partner)?

And as was said above, how are you spending the time together?