How do I approach this?

LegacyUser

hi. I have just started college and moved into my new accomodation where I'm living with a few others. The first person I met was this girl who was friendly, chatty, helpful, bubbly and very attractive. We automatically hit it off and seem to be getting on very well. We spent a couple of nights just chatting to each other and having a laugh.
I know its very early days but already I really like this girl. Normally takes me a while to be confident around girls I like but its different with this girl. We still know very little about each other but we (maybe I'm imagining it) seem to have just clicked.
The thing is I don't know how to play it. As I said she is a really nice, down to earth girl and I know she will more than likely be a great friend. However part of me wonders what if? I'm obviously not going to do anything in the very near future, and realise I don't know her all that well but it has happened me in the past where I become the really great friend, who is always there etc. but I want more and it doesn't happen.
I'm under no illusions, and chances are she isn't interested but I've been hurt in the past and am apprehensive ever since.
Do I wait it out and see. How do I let her know that I like her without making things uncomfortable or am I to stick to my trusted ways and keep quite and for ever hold my peace?

MrBaseball

Have you considered asking her out? Ask her on a date, go for a meal, chat, if you've gotten on well at the end of the date, kiss her. This is a tried and tested formula, and it works,if she likes you. If it doesn't work out, you'll live.

You need to get over all that "she probably isn't interested" stuff. If you like her, just bite the bullet,be a man and make your move. Sticking around chatting and holding your peace will certainly find you back where you've been in the past, "just friends" with some girl you want to be more with. So, yeah, if you like her, ask her out. Take a risk, even if it doesn't work out, you'll be proud of yourself for having the backbone to go for what you want. Fortune favours the bold.

Good luck.

Agent J

Point of Clarification.

Is this girl living in the same place that you are? As in the same house/flat?

If so then maybe consider living arrangments should things screw up. Personally i would always have a guideline to avoid entanglements with people i live with.

If not then see above post and go fo it.

Star Lord

Agent J wrote:

Point of Clarification.

Is this girl living in the same place that you are? As in the same house/flat?

If so then maybe consider living arrangments should things screw up. Personally i would always have a guideline to avoid entanglements with people i live with.

If not then see above post and go fo it.

Seconded.

If you live in the same house, you probably shouldn't go there, if you don't, then go for it, ask her out BEFORE you get to become too much of a good friend!

muppetkiller

Trust me matey the earlier you sort this out the better ..She may feel the same and if you don't make the move she'll think your just interested in friendship. And the last thing you want to see is someone you fancy all over someone else...


So ask her out on a proper date ..bring her for dinner somewhere nice.
oh and buy her lots of wine

4Xcut

lcae16 wrote:

The thing is I don't know how to play it. As I said she is a really nice, down to earth girl and I know she will more than likely be a great friend. However part of me wonders what if? I'm obviously not going to do anything in the very near future,

WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!!! Sorry to shhout but this is the worst thing to do. You will hit the friend zone and be trapped there for ever. You have already seen this happen to you before. Best way is to just ask her if she wants to go out one night next week, throw out one or two suggestions that she'll like.

This may run the risk of making things awkward but the assertivness can hardly do damage to any attraction and you'll have an answer straight away. Just make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend. And on the off chance she says no, well then just put it down to not being her type. If you don't act awkward, then she most likely won't.

EDIT:If she's living in the same place as you, don't even think of asking her out or ever making a move on her. Never, and i mean never, break the "Don't sh1t where you eat" rule.

the_god_swan

[QUOTE/] If she's living in the same place as you, don't even think of asking her out or ever making a move on her. Never, and i mean never, break the "Don't sh1t where you eat" rule.[/QUOTE]


Sorry to say but that is a load of crap, i for one ended up going out with a girl i lived with for a few months and we had a blast. We clicked straight away after moving in, there were about another 6 people in the house who were happy out for us.
A good friend of mine was in the same situation in a house here in dublin with a french chick and they hooked up and became one of the coolest couples i knew.
In both these examples people moved on due to work, college or travel after 4 or 5 months. But the times spent together will never be forgot. Lifes to short for 'what could have been' thoughts :cool:

4Xcut

That's all well and good but i can't imagine living with someone you broke up with or that broke up with you is a nice experience, especially if its a bit into things. The other thing is that if there are other people in the house they can get caught in the middle if there's a fight/messy breakup.