Ways to meet?

LegacyUser

Hey all, i'm male and in my early twenties, during my teens I noticed myself having occasional thoughts about the same sex and never really did much about it, just last year I ended a long term relationship with my girlfriend of over 3 years, and since then i've thought about this more and more and im completely comfortable with the fact that i like guys

now i'm not going to classify myself as bisexual yet, because I haven't had a chance to actually experiment in that area, my question is: i have several friends who are gay/bi and i could go out with them to various gay/gay friendly pubs but im not really into the "scene" type thing and in general i dont like meeting people in bars.
I've also tried posting an ad on gumtree.ie and i got a fair few responses and one or two seemed like reasonably genuine guys, but nothing really came of it, I'd like to find someone to meet up with, not for a serious relationship or anything, just some fun and experimentation, any recommendations on how to meet people?

azezil

http://www.gaydar.ie/

LegacyUser

hmmm... thought about gaydar, but was thinking it would be more aimed towards gay and less friendly for bi/bi-curious

Stark

Actually it's probably one of the more friendly avenues towards bi/bi-curious. It can be very cruisy though. That said, I do know some people who have made friends through it.

azezil

Although I stopped using it well over a year ago, back in the day I did make some good friends through it and I have talked to guys much like yourself, bi or bi/ bi-curious who are just looking to experiment, I'd say it'd be a good place to look.

LegacyUser

'Thanks guys.. Ill give it a go '

Kazobel

www.gaire.com has a fair few Bi guys advertising too

spurious

Steer clear of any sort of classified ads. There be monsters.

You could go along to one of the walking groups, or support the football or rugby teams at their matches.

anotherlostie

Actually Gaire.com could be a good place to meet people, since although it calls itself a gay community, it contains many straight people, and also some transsexuals.

Indeed some of those who start off as straight, may eventually move to 'bi', and because of the social mix of the site, it may be easier to do that (they have regular get togethers). Your best bet is not to post a thread saying you are curious about guys, but rather to get involved in their discussions (so some people know your cyber persona) and then head along to one of their meets, where you might just meet someone.

The other alternative is queerid.com, but I think their meetings are much less frequent.

azezil

Perhaps I'm wrong here, but the guy said he's just looking to experiment, that doesn't sound to me like he's looking for a "life partner" :rolleyes: Thus, I suggested gaydar, because it is an easy way to meet guys to "experiment" with!

anotherlostie

Well maybe none of the 'straight' members of Gaire have ever left one of their meets with a gay companion. But I seriously doubt it. And at least get to see what the person really looks like before taking the plunge. But gaydar is the obvious suggestion.

Kazobel

anotherlostie wrote:

Actually Gaire.com could be a good place to meet people, since although it calls itself a gay community, it contains many straight people, and also some transsexuals.

Indeed some of those who start off as straight, may eventually move to 'bi', and because of the social mix of the site, it may be easier to do that (they have regular get togethers). Your best bet is not to post a thread saying you are curious about guys, but rather to get involved in their discussions (so some people know your cyber persona) and then head along to one of their meets, where you might just meet someone.

The other alternative is queerid.com, but I think their meetings are much less frequent.

I can confirm the Gaire meets are without a doubt the best fun you can have, they're really sound people that vary from Gay, Straight, Bi, Lesbian and trans and are very open to new people. No-one goes to a meet with the intention of "scoring" because thats not what they're about. Some people do hook up but in the end it's just alot of friends getting together for a drink and a laugh. It's no different to you's all meeting up for drinks from here.

JupiterKid

I will support Kazobel - Gaire is a great message boards and website. In fact, it's one of the busiest Irish web based forums, up there with boards.ie

While some of its classifieds are cruisey, you'll find that the Gaire message boards are the complete opposite. I'm a regular poster and the crowd on Gaire, mainly LGBT but a lot of supportive straights too - are fantastic and very warm and friendly. The meet ups are really great too. Gaire would be an excellent introduction for any young gay or lesbian person coming out.:)

Stark

I think the forums are alright; I don't use the classifieds. They would really want to upgrade that crappy forum software though; it's very hard to use.

Boston

Stark wrote:

I think the forums are alright; I don't use the classifieds. They would really want to upgrade that crappy forum software though; it's very hard to use.

maybe things have improved. I remember years ago there was a major departure of moderators fro mteh site over the direction it was heading.

anotherlostie

Boston wrote:

maybe things have improved. I remember years ago there was a major departure of moderators fro mteh site over the direction it was heading.

LOL, there has just be another major departure (3 admins) because someone was let back who had previously been banned.

Gaire used to be a great place for sarcasm and wit. Now it is a place to hug each other in the cyberworld, and woe betide anyone who does not take the view of Kazobel and her clique - they will probably close their account...for a week (like she does when someone says something to her that she doesn't like, LOL).

But for a young guy who is a bit confused, it is a way to get to know some gay people in a non-sexual environment, and like I say, if he attends a meet and finds someone attractive (and they he) then there is nothing to stop them having a little bit of fun, and should help him make his mind up. Gaydar is instantly sexual, and when you decide to go meet someone for the first time, it can be hard to walk away.

Talliesin

JupiterKid wrote:

While some of its classifieds are cruisey

Some? I got propositions after an advert; and it wasn't in the personals section.

The board itself is quite good though.