How do you know when its love?

LegacyUser

So, how did ye all know when u had fallen in love? Was it a gardual feeling of a graeter bond or how would describe it... At what point in the relationship did the "I Love You" words appear?

I'm with a great guy at the mo, been going out a while. He has hinted that he is falling in love with me but I don't know what/how I'm feeling... I've never really had a proper long term relationship before... :-(

This is just light hearted and out of curiosity really....

sjaakie

my opinion is that you know it when you feel it, liking somebody or having a crush on somebody is very different then being "in love".
for me it was like really walking on clouds ( you actually feel that you float ), having a huuuuuge feeling in your body when you hear his voice, want to have a shirt he slept in and sniff it and go all gooey, looking at this picture and feel overwhelmed with warmth and happiness and i can name a few more silly things.

Thats what happened to me, the words "I love you" will then follow shortly, you dont even think about it, just say it.
I said the words and thought: oh my god i now really said THE words, but it was all ok cos he was in love too

sjaakie

forgot to say: you can also gradually start to love somebody, his wisdoms, his funnieness, his relaxness, etc.
but you asked about the fallin in love bit and i can only speak from personal experience.
in my case it was instant, i guess i was lucky. happily married and 4 kids now.

Ickle Magoo

wondering... wrote:

So, how did ye all know when u had fallen in love? Was it a gardual feeling of a graeter bond or how would describe it... At what point in the relationship did the "I Love You" words appear?

I'm with a great guy at the mo, been going out a while. He has hinted that he is falling in love with me but I don't know what/how I'm feeling... I've never really had a proper long term relationship before... :-(

This is just light hearted and out of curiosity really....

You'll just know. If you have to ask then you ain't - that's the best advice I can give. I have had several long-term relationships but I never felt about any of them the way I feel about my husband - but I didn't realise that I'd never been in love before until I met him, lol. See, it's complicated & I imagine different for different people in different circumstances. Just because you're not in love with someone at some stage of your relationship doesn't mean that won't fall in love with them later either.

I didn't fall in love with my husband the first time I saw him but after a couple of dates we just wanted to spend all our free time together, we moved in 3wks later, married 4yrs after that & now have 2kids & are still very, very happy. I'm not sure if I could give you the date that mutual attraction & respect turned into love but the foundations were built fairly early on & are still being built today. We're soul-mates, he's my lover & my best friend. I trust him implicitly. I know he would never do anything to hurt me or endanger our relationship. We seldom argue & we laugh a lot. I can't imagine life without him - that's love for me anyway.

Crumble Froo

dont worry about the destination, just sit back and enjoy the ride!

hehe, i remember with my fella, we were really close mates (long distance), and twasnt til one of our rare phone conversations where i literally skipped instead of walking when i heard his voice, and the two of us were just so excited to talk to each other, and when we got cut off early, both of us were really really disappointed that we hadnt gotten to say bye, or to send love/hugs (the platonic kind ) , and that was kinda when we realised how we felt about each other.

funny though, looking back at old emails and PMs and stuff... it was so obvious we were in love we just hadn't realised it yet.

stipey

I've said it before, but I'm sure David O'Doherty nailed this one in his song FAQ for the D.O'D

I'm pretty sure it has something to do with not wanting to get off with other people

star-pants

ahhhh jeepers people... i'd nearly cry reading such cute stories... especially yours there narco.. you hadn't realised...

I'm glad to see there's people with real love out there though -- because everyone deserves it ...

CathyMoran

As Icke Magoo says, you just know. It is a feeling of there being something in the world being bigger than yourself and that thing is your love for the other person. My husband is my life, my heartbeats, I would die for him, thinking of him makes me feel warm inside, he feels like home. I feel safe when I am with him, he can always make me smile. He is the best thing that has happened to me in my life. I fancied my husband the moment I met him but then did not fall fully in love with him for a few years later, though I always knew that he was the man for me.

First I'd like to point out I know this is mushy and odd, but anyway... He said the dreaded L word and I said it back half out of panic, but then that night I was lying beside him watching tv, and I just turned away from the tv and cuddled into him. I wasnt tired, its just that I realised I was far happier to just lie there hearing his heart beat than doing anything else, least of all watch tv. I realised that I had loved him for a while. I had explained after he had said it to me that I wasnt sure how I felt and that I was sorry but he would just have to wait, so when he got up to get some food durning the ad break, I pulled him back to me and told him, and I swear to god Ive never felt such a nice kind of nauseous
Good luck with everything

axer

wondering... wrote:

So, how did ye all know when u had fallen in love? Was it a gardual feeling of a graeter bond or how would describe it... At what point in the relationship did the "I Love You" words appear?

I'm with a great guy at the mo, been going out a while. He has hinted that he is falling in love with me but I don't know what/how I'm feeling... I've never really had a proper long term relationship before... :-(

This is just light hearted and out of curiosity really....

For me, my girlfriend after about 6 months (I think) said the 3 words and I felt a warm feeling starting in my stomach and spreading but I didnt say it back as I didnt know what had happened. I hadn't wanted to say it until I was sure - of course I didnt know what I was waiting for to show me I was in love with her until then. I said it the next time we talked though.

How long are ye going out?

challengemaster

you'll know..

LegacyUser

'Ah bless, glad I started this now... Kinda thought it would be a nice one, as oppsoed to alot of the gloom found in this forum

We're going out nearly four months... Obviously knew him for a little while before that.

A mutual friend keeps going on about how "adoring" we are of eachother... (he jokes about us staring at the other person without realising it or just sitting there listening to them talk about anything and agree and smile...) And i guess we are...

Just don't know if/when it will be anything more but hey, its great at the mo, I certainly aint complaining or anything of the likes, was just thinking about it and thought I'd share... '

LegacyUser

'I think as alot of other users have said, you just know. I wasnt sure I loved my ex until we broke up and I realised how bad it hurt. Im with someone new now and weve said the I love yous but Im wary of the whole thing...once bitten and all that'