Help Please- Advice Needed.

THE BISCH

Maybe somebody could give me some advice.

I have known this girl for about 7 years. I am friends with her brother and Dad and we are all in a sports club togther. I have had a crush on her for years. We have always got on great and I enjoy spending time with her. Last week we got it togther and we went on a date. I was really great. She told me that she had known for a while that I liked her. We textet each other every day during the week and things where going fine. We had plans for our next date. Last night though she sent me a text saying that she wanted to cool things and leave it for the weekend. She did't want to let things get too serious too soon.

Anybody have any advice. I am not too sure if she wants to break it off or not. I am confused.

I dont want to lose her.

Thanks

GhostInTheRuins

She just said she wants to leave it for the weekend, it doesn't sound like she's breaking it off. Just relax and see how things turn out.

Zillah

Back off like she said. That way she gets what she wants and you don't look over eager.

Gwenivere

From a girls perspective honestly it's kind of a make or break issue.

In my opinion the best thing you could do is say that's fine you don't want to rush things either but ask if there is a particular reason, did something happen? If she dodges the question don't push it! Play it cool to a degree, if you're too cool it'll piss her off and if you're too eager it'll put her off.

Either give her a call (if she doesn't answer leave a msg) or a txt and leave it at that until she makes some kind of move. The ball is in her court then and that's a good way for you to judge what her intentions are as a result.

Good luck!!

THE BISCH

Thanks for the Help people.

K-9

Gwenivere wrote:

From a girls perspective honestly it's kind of a make or break issue.

In my opinion the best thing you could do is say that's fine you don't want to rush things either but ask if there is a particular reason, did something happen? If she dodges the question don't push it! Play it cool to a degree, if you're too cool it'll piss her off and if you're too eager it'll put her off.

Well the girl said she didn't want things to get serious too soon.Do not ask her the why's or when's of it! That's how she feels, she's made her decision. Head out tonight and tomorrow, get on with things.

The issue is probably the brother and Dad. Don't make it an even bigger issue by pressing it.

Text or call, have fun and be yourself. Don't push her on it. You've only had one date. This will also show that you won't be needy and pressurising her.

b3t4

You've had a crush on her for years so you have probably thought over this possibility a good bit. She's only recently came around to the idea (else ye'd have gone on a date a couple of years ago) so give her the time and space she needs.

That or the reality of dating you is hitting her. Going out with someone who both her Dad and brother get on with is probably going to come with lots of pressure.

I'd say you've got to make things light and fun with little to no pressure from you.
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THE BISCH

Thanks for the help. I was in touch with her on bebo about something general and she replied so it looks a little better. I will be seein her tmrw night although it wont be a date so I will speak to her then.

davyjose

Because you know her Dad and her Brother, and particularly her DAD :eek: , there is a lot of potential for a few awkward situations here OP. I wouldn't be surprised if she wants to take this REEEAAALLLYY slow. I wouldn't be too worried about her doing a runner, but I would be very mindful of the possible complexities of this.

THE BISCH

davyjose wrote:

Because you know her Dad and her Brother, and particularly her DAD :eek: , there is a lot of potential for a few awkward situations here OP. I wouldn't be surprised if she wants to take this REEEAAALLLYY slow. I wouldn't be too worried about her doing a runner, but I would be very mindful of the possible complexities of this.

Everything seemed fine last week on that score. I cant make her out. It was all luvy duvy last week and this week nothing except bebo contact.

davyjose

That's what I mean though - she likes you and she wants to be with you, but everynow and again she checks herself maybe.
I cant be sure but I was in a situation not unlike this before, and that was kinda how I behaved.

THE BISCH

davyjose wrote:

That's what I mean though - she likes you and she wants to be with you, but everynow and again she checks herself maybe.
I cant be sure but I was in a situation not unlike this before, and that was kinda how I behaved.

I hope that's the case. It would be terrible if she just said that we could not continue.