Right or Wrong

LegacyUser

If you left something in a house you once lived with someone and it was of no value or importance to them but meant a lot to you would you like to have it back? Even though you moved out nearly 4 years ago but now have your own place - is it too late to go looking for it back?

Beruthiel

Four years is a bit late to be coming back for it, no?
Did you agree at the time that you'd collect it when you could?
Was there no where else to store it in the mean time?
How badly do you need it if you've done without it for four years?
Finally, are you asking the question because you've tried to collect it already and you've been told to take a running jump?
You're not giving us much to go on here.

Marksie

depends on whether you are still talking to them or have had contact with them in teh intervening four years.

Wibbs

I suppose it's never too late in theory, but after 4 years? If it was that important to you surely you would have gotten it back or at least enquired after said object before now? For all you know it went out in the bin 2 years ago.

LegacyUser

Had not being talking to that person since I left the house. Was on very bad terms with them. It was something I made in school and it was about the only thing I had left from my childhood / teenager years and I had asked for it back since I left but never got anywhere. So decided to confront them last night.

Marksie

Unr178 wrote:

So decided to confront them last night.

By that terminology i guess it wasnt the most pleasant experience.

Let it go

LegacyUser

We have let it go as the item is was given back!
Needed a few strong words as the other side was claiming a substantial debt was owed! I in my most civil voice asked for the proof. It couldnt be proved so I asked for the painting or a solicitors letter was coming her way. The other side is a very devious and lying sort and I needed to show I was very serious.

On a side point my up bringing was non existent and this item was the only thing one of parents didnt destroy on me. This is the main reason for wanting it back

Wibbs

Agree with Marksie on this one. If it's leading to confrontation after 4 years, let it go. There seems to more significance attached to the object in question than everyday sentimentality. Letting it and the associated crap go may the best thing for you. I mean if a simply ringing them up or calling around for the object and just taking it hasn't worked getting dramatic about will hardly succeed.

Marksie

Unr178 wrote:

We have let it go as the item is was given back!

then why is it an PI issue?

The rest of what is being peiced together is a more serious issue altogether i think

4Xcut

If you're still in contact with the person then it should be ok, i suppose. If you're not in contact with them, then what does it matter what they think after you contact them this one time as you probably won't have reason to speak to them again after this. If its important enought that you still want it back then just ask, worst case scenario you're told no for what ever reason.

LegacyUser

I am just looking for other peoples opinions and was I right or wrong to get it back and what the way it was done OTT. I should have in my original post been more explanatory about other issues.