do men want to get married?

StormWarrior

I was just wondering, do most men actually want to get married, or are they pressured into it? If a bloke wants to get married, what is it that makes him want to?

Nasty_Girl

My boyfriend asked me to marry him without me ever mentioning the subject.
He says he just wants me to be "his" forever and it is really important to him.
So if he's being pressured by something, at least it isn't me!

Manaris

I'm getting married in two weeks (I'm a man by the way)... I can't wait to get married and am certainly looking forward to it as much as my fiancee. As to why do men want to get married? I would hope that it has something to do with wanting to spend the rest of his life being faithful to and loving his wife, and wanting her to do the same for him.. Everyone has their own reasons to want to get married, but IMHO if this isn't the basic underlying reason then there's something wrong!

Contrary to popular belief, men aren't all that different from women - we do have emotions of our own you know, and sometimes when we tell you we love you, it's not just to get you into the sack The common belief seems to be that all women are desparate to get married, and men eventually give in to their demands for a peaceful life. That is not true (although some men will say it is)

You asked what makes men want to get married - what is that makes women want to get married? If any man is getting married only because he feels he is being pressured into it, he is not ready for marriage! (For that matter, neither is the woman doing the pressuring).

Just my 2c

A Primal Nut

Hmm reminds me of this rather, eh, contraversial, site

http://www.nomarriage.com

and in particular this article:

http://www.nomarriage.com/marriedsex.html

This bits scary:

"
My GF was damn good to me, in and out of the sack. We probably had sex, on average, 10-15 times a week. Anywhere and everywhere. Even a once a day BJ on average. Things were great.

That was, until we got married. A day later, everything had changed. Got it once on the honeymoon, and she told me to "hurry up and finish". When I ask her why she never initiates anything, never even flirts anymore, when she used to before, she says "I was trying to get you to marry me then".
"
And the funniest bit:

"My wife reached a point where she only uses sex to get something, and she doesn't happen to want anything at the moment. "

As for me, I'm not sure if I'd want to get married, it would take someone really amazing for it to happen. As in, I could never meet anyone more amazing. Its not that hard to believe, because it already happened just she wasn't really into me

Talliesin

Funniest thing about this thread is the fact that lesbians aren't allowed to get married in this country yet, though presumably the OP thinks they are only people couples where both want to.

AlmightyCushion

StormWarrior wrote:

If a bloke wants to get married, what is it that makes him want to?

Tax benefits?

CathyMoran

In my case it was me who was scared of marriage, my husband wanted to marry me within 7 months of meeting me, we finally got married almost 9 years later when I settled down.

stinkybum

God knows - i'm ****ting it and have tried to call the whole thing off about 10 times but he is adamant and very persuasive !!! He is so sure that its right and the right time and we're forever that just to tell him about my wobbles calms me.
I love him to bits and cant wait to be his wife but JESUS do i get the willies about it all.

barrett1965

A man (in his seventies), told me once, had he waited until his thirties, he wouldn't have got married. Something to ponder.

Ickle Magoo

stinkybum wrote:

God knows - i'm ****ting it and have tried to call the whole thing off about 10 times but he is adamant and very persuasive !!! He is so sure that its right and the right time and we're forever that just to tell him about my wobbles calms me.
I love him to bits and cant wait to be his wife but JESUS do i get the willies about it all.

Lol! I was the same, I kept telling him "Errr, forever is an awfully long time, you know - are you sure?" but he was adamant that it was exactly what he wanted...glad I listened to him now!

mrs_kav

My boyfriend asked me to marry him 6 months after we got together i was only 18 and he was 21 so it def was not me putting ideas in his head 4 and a half years on we still cant afford to get married but know that if we could we would be married in the morning

bostonian

barrett1965 wrote:

A man (in his seventies), told me once, had he waited until his thirties, he wouldn't have got married. Something to ponder.

Indeed!