A "break" in a Relationship

LegacyUser

Ok, with BF nearly two yrs. Lately being finding things well.... a little boring. We get on great and I love spending time with him but neither of us are working or anything or the likes (Both going back to college in Sept) so we don't really have anything to talk about most of the time.... And he never has any money so we can't go and do stuff together (I have some savings but not enough to pay for both of us all the time)

So, while thinsg are "fine" at the mo.... I'm wondering if a break would do us good? I've never taken a break ina relationship before. We actually get on great and to be honest, in nearly two yrs we have only had one real "row" as such and even that wasn't major....

So, my question, what do ye all think about taking a break? Does it inevidentably lead to a break up? Should I just leave things as they are, its just a blip? I'm a bit confused really....

Victor

Perhaps what you need is a spark.

ntlbell

row more, bit of passion!

jellie

well it depends on what you plan to do with this break.

is it so you can see other people? or is it just to have a bit of space?
if its to see other people i would think bad bad idea.

you seem to have no actual problems in your relationship other than having nothing to do. maybe you need to just do something different, doesnt have to cost anything.

Miss Fluff

Unreg'd4now wrote:

Ok, with BF nearly two yrs. Lately being finding things well.... a little boring. We get on great and I love spending time with him but neither of us are working or anything or the likes (Both going back to college in Sept) so we don't really have anything to talk about most of the time.... And he never has any money so we can't go and do stuff together (I have some savings but not enough to pay for both of us all the time)
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Why don't you both go and get some promotional work or some type of job for the next few weeks and stop living in each other's pockets. What DO you spend your time at?

LegacyUser

'Yes you could volunteer with a charity or get a part time job doing something, anything, even if its only for a week here and there...

What exactly would you be doing on this break?
Just not seeing each other as much/ever until college starts again or going out and seeing other people who have money to thrill you?
If so then, yeah it probably will lead to a break up.
I have never known any couple to survive a "break"

I can understand your frustration, but if ye can't find anything to talk about after two years its a bit strange.'

LegacyUser

Oh, the break would just be some space... Def NOT to be seeing other people or anything of the likes. Just take a step back and look at things. Like as said just above, there isn't actually anything wrong with the relationship as such...

Regards working or volunteering or whatever, I would love to do that but I have stuff on at the mo regards college etc and also play alot of sport which I'll have to be given up when I return to college (Due to long distance to travel to college and going into my final year of a tough course)

Here's one for ya, how often would ye all talk to ur other half? We don't see eachother very often, we live about an hr and a half away from eachother.... We'd generally send the odd text during the day and then would usually ring eachother most nights.... Is this too much?

jellie

Unreg'd4now wrote:

Here's one for ya, how often would ye all talk to ur other half? We don't see eachother very often, we live about an hr and a half away from eachother.... We'd generally send the odd text during the day and then would usually ring eachother most nights.... Is this too much?

I wouldnt think its too much, but if youre feeling the way you are maybe you should cut it down a bit

Mighty_Mouse

WTF! Sounds like an opportunity to spend every waking moment in the sack!
Alternating with frequent €10 boozin sessions & parties!

Talliesin

Unreg'd4now wrote:

Here's one for ya, how often would ye all talk to ur other half? We don't see eachother very often, we live about an hr and a half away from eachother.... We'd generally send the odd text during the day and then would usually ring eachother most nights.... Is this too much?

You know, some people actually live with their partners and see them every day.

I think you need a break, but not from each other.

Strange that you first say neither of you are doing anything, and then that you are too busy to do anything. That makes me wonder if maybe you're busy doing lots of things but none of them are interesting you. Maybe that needs sorted out more than anything else.