My ex gf

LegacyUser

I wasnt gonna post about this but a post i saw about getting in contact with an ex made me reconsider.

I moved from limerick when i was 14 and met Liz who was 16 at the time- we were together for 2 and a half years and after that random occourences of sex/friendship etc... Ill admit i treated the girl like ****. When i was 19 i had some trouble with my landlord and couldnt find anywhere to live and she being the great girl she is took me into her flat. during that time me and her reliased we still loved each other after all the friendship stuff and gave it another go- But 2 days into it she told me she didnt want me cos she couldnt forget all that i put her through(i hit her once in a drug induced rage)

Anyway i left town that night- i never told her i was going i just went.I was killed cos i know shes the one and cos of my past she didnt want me anymore.

ive been gone nearly 2 years- i changed my number and all- the other day i rang my old voicemail to check my messages and there was 1 from her wishing me a happy 21st birthday, and i broke down in tears. This is what it said

"hi steve its liz- im not sure if you use this number anymore but i know its r 21st birthday today and im just calling you to say happy birthday.Ill never understand why you left like that-I always thought our friendship was strong enough to survive anything but i guess that wasnt the case.Anyway have a great time honey.Bye"

I feel so sick- I think i still love her- After 2 years she still calls me to wish me a happy birthday - shes such a dote! Help me please, she didnt leave her number but i have it cos of the call back option on my voicemail

Help what do i do?

Shelly23

From how i see it i'd leave it be..
You getting back in touch would be a bad thing. she'd be wanting you to contact her to explain yourself and either get closure on the situation or to rebuild the friendship.
You on the other hand are in love with her so a friendship wouldnt be an ideal situation for you as it'd get messy.

You treated her badly in the past but i can assume now she's put most of it behind her and made her life work for her. i think you need to look at the situation properly.. can you rebuild just a friendship with her or do you think she is doing well for herself without you in the picture?
If you can handle the friendship side of it make very slow careful moves..
Or, if you think she's doing ok on her own then just put her to the back of your head and try to move on with your life and find someone/ something else that can make you happy?

Best of luck wit it

redfacedbear

You have to call her.

The fact that she left a voicemail for you means that she is open to some form of communication. It might not lead to you getting back together, but it sounds like you both need to talk over what happened. She needs some explanation for why you disappeared and you probably owe her that much. It will also give you the chance to tell her how you feel about her. If nothing comes of it, you at least will know that and can start putting her behind you properly.

Are you in a better position now? Do you have somewhere to live, are you not going to get into any more "drug induced rages"? If so, maybe consider calling her up and talking. If not, leave her alone.
Don't expect her to take you back either way. It may happen, but don't expect it.

MrBaseball

Even if she did take you back, the pain and possible resentment over the way you treated her will always be in the back of her mind. I suggest you find someone new and treat her right from the beginning.