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LegacyUser

For medical reasons myself and my girlfriend cannot have penetrative sex for a long time (don't ask!). Anyway, we have contented ourselves with oral sex for the last few months, but even still things can get a bit boring. I have a really high sex drive, and the lack of penetrative sex is really affecting me. Can anyone else recommend something else we could do to try and spice up things in the bedroom?

Marksie

hmmmmmm111 wrote:

For medical reasons myself and my girlfriend cannot have penetrative sex for a long time (don't ask!). Anyway, we have contented ourselves with oral sex for the last few months, but even still things can get a bit boring. I have a really high sex drive, and the lack of penetrative sex is really affecting me. Can anyone else recommend something else we could do to try and spice up things in the bedroom?

What a wonderful time for you to learn that penetrative sex is a tiny part of the whole experience. Dont get hung up on it and overcome the social conditioning.

Actually there are threads in teh s+s forum which you would find interesting.

Step back and take time now to learn about your partners body, there are so many erogenous zones that respond to touch, breath, massage any number of things, not just the genitals.

This is an ideal opportunity to actually begin to learn and experience many forms of non-penetrative lovemaking.... commonly called foreplay, but thats a misnomer because it doesn't mean its a prelude to something else.
It runs the whole gamut from soul gazing through to g-spot, perineal and clitoral stumulation to energy play.

Really its limited by your imagination and your ability to communicate. "oral".. or as i prefer to call it "mouth magic" is a wonderful means of expression, but in itself spans a wide range of activities, not juts limited to teh genitals. And even there it can be varied to such an extent that it does not become routine.

There was a wonderful comment recently about "spicing things up" and its origins, much as i would like to plagarise it, i am not going to.

But raher than looking to spice things up, consider it as a wonderful opportunity to rewrite what you thought you knew. Go right back to the basics and leran everything afresh.

togster

It can get frustratin when all you want to do is....
Would anal be out of the qustion?

Oryx

togster wrote:

It can get frustratin when all you want to do is....
Would anal be out of the qustion?

2nd this. Also, mutual masturbation, toys, massage, theres actually lots you can do, and as Mark said its a good time to widen your perspective and learn more about each other and what works sexually for you both. Dont be afraid to experiment.;)

Ekancone

I recommend those 'tingle' gels for spicing things up

biko

hmmmmmm111 wrote:

but even still things can get a bit boring. I have a really high sex drive

Does she agree? Is she bored too? My experience is that girls actually prefer non-penetrative sex as then the boy has to concentrate harder on the other erogenous areas.

el tel

Is brown-love out of the question here or does 'no penetrative sex' mean 'ABSOLUTELY NO penetrative sex'? If you could shed some light on the mysterious medical condition then we could see who has the faulty equipment and make suggestions on that basis.

the_syco

el tel wrote:

Is brown-love out of the question here or does 'no penetrative sex' mean 'ABSOLUTELY NO penetrative sex'? If you could shed some light on the mysterious medical condition then we could see who has the faulty equipment and make suggestions on that basis.

I think the guy may have had "the snip", and was told by the doc no sex for a few months. Although it's not always a long time, sometimes it may be.

OP, look into "dry humping", and also look into having fun with ice-cream.

tSubh Dearg

Slightly off topic OP, but if you want to PM me in confidence with your main boards account (if you have one) I would be happy to give you access to S&S so you can read some of the current threads on just this topic.

On Topic, I'm going to slightly repeat something I've posted there which is that the best sex I have ever had involved no penetration at all as it also couldn't happen because of medical reasons.

It's wonderful to explore each other's bodies in minute detail and find erogenous zones you never knew existed before. I never knew my forearms were so sensitive!

LegacyUser

tip.
girls take longer to turn on. pay attention to the goose bumps on her skin as you explore her body, (stroking, rubbing and breathing .....;)

get started on her.....see what happens.

just think as this period of time as a chance to tone up on ur foreplay skills for when you can have sex again, which will make your love making as wild and as passionate as ever.