hairy issue

LegacyUser

hey,

i've been seeing this girl for a few weeks now and we're getting on great but there is one little thing that bothers me. To be blunt, she has a small bit of facial hair...not a full blown ronnie or anything just a few dark whiskers...
i'm not normally a shallow person and i like her a lot...just looking for some advice how to approach the subject with her without hurting her feelings...
so anyone that has been in a similar situation i'm looking for your advice...

thanks

stone_soup

you could wax her while shes sleeping?

Esel

beeswax10 wrote:

..just looking for some advice how to approach the subject with her without hurting her feelings....

Probably can't be done.

lemansky

Stone_soup that is just horrible. How insensitive can you be. The man clearly has a problem and all you can do is take the p1ss. He needs constructive advice not this crap. He needs to be told how to approach the issue delicately with the lady not just whip the whiskers off.For shame.

I suggest telling her how you feel

and then while shes distracted get out the lawn mower

TEH REAL CDP

Just say it to her. Or innocently go "what's that!!?" in a playful tone. make her self conscious enough to act on it but not so much that you insult her.

Be playful. Then pray she shaves it off.

cormie

Rent out Intermission, she might think to herself when watching it and sort it out herself without you saying a thing;)

Edit: Intermission, not snatch, thanks Cptn!

Captain Chaos

It's not Snatch, but I know the film your thinking of.

Intermission, thats the one.

eddiehobbs

grow wan yourself. mite make her concious of hers

StephenC_IRL

just get a friend of yours drunk bring him back to see the girlfriend and make sure he says something tash related to her

WindSock

tell her straight out. If you had a hairy back and she didnt like it, you would probably hear about it.

biko

Take the easy way out - ask one of your friends to say it to her. Don't bring the wrath on to yourself.
If she asks you "Does it bother you?" you say "actually, yeah a little bit". Do not say "No, it's fine".

my2c

Meathcat

What difference should it make? I bet you're not perfect either!

zeusnero

biko wrote:

Take the easy way out - ask one of your friends to say it to her.

...Preferably one that you won't mind her hating for the duration of the relationship...

It is a difficult one allright OP but I'd be for the playful approach, followed by outright honesty.

spurious

All women have facial hair, some have rather a lot. I'm sorry if that shocks you.
Seriously, did you think they didn't? Your gf sound lucky in that she only has a small bit.

Some choose to remove it. some don't. If this is a make or break issue for you, I suppose you should end it with her, but women's bodies are going to give you a number of surprises in life if a small bit of facial hair is a big deal.

Really - if you had a patch on your face where your beard did not grow would you expect her to ask you to do something about it?

StormWarrior

Maybe you should phone up a laser hair clinic and get them to post her a brochure. She doesn't need to know it came from you!

The Bollox

as long as she's not in the Bert Reynolds league I wouldn't worry too much

AnonoBoy

If you've only been seeing her a few weeks I would not recommend saying it straight out to her. Some girls would take massive offence at it and be highly embarrassed.

michaelanthony

Meathcat wrote:

What difference should it make? I bet you're not perfect either!

He has to ride her.

Papergirl 1

Get her locked and put a bit of veet hair removal cream on her face after she passes out. Leave it for 10 minutes then wipe it of. Bobs your uncle!

Duff

Papergirl 1 wrote:

Get her locked and put a bit of veet hair removal cream on her face after she passes out. Leave it for 10 minutes then wipe it of. Bobs your uncle!

Why thats so crazy it might just work!

Electric

I think a bit of tact is required here. Most girls would be horrified if their bf told them they were too hairy!

The thing is that facial hair can be caused by PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome). I'm not saying that she has this (she might well do and not know about it approx 1 in 10 women have it) but there might not be anything she can do about the facial hair it maybe a hormonal thing.

Personally I have it and it is extremely embarrassing and I am very conscious of it. There is very little I can do about it. I get laser treatment from St James' hospital and there is no guarantees that it will work.

If I were you I wouldn't mention it. It would only upset her and if there were nothing she could do about it, it might only stress her out. (which in the case of pcos can make it worse!)

It's just the way she is. There might be things about you that she would like to change. A little bit of acceptance is needed!

ps. I'm not claiming to be an expert about PCOS or diagnose your gf I'm jst speaking from experience

silvine

Complain of stubble rash.

Niamho!

god...whatever you suggest - DO NOT let her Wax/Shave it off.....she'll just have to keep doing it then.... you can buy Facial Hair Lightening Cream in Boots..... do that. that way its gone and you dont need to worry about Re-growth and all that!!

aish

as stated already- all women have facial hair, some just darker than others...
do you really think that she doesnt notice her whiskers?? obviously she knows they are there- but it is difficult to remove unwanted hair without having regrowth every 2/3 days- shaving, plucking, waxing will cause regrowth- laser (slightly expensive )is the only perminant option- which do you prefer- a few strands of hair or stubly top lip? seriously be very careful mentioning you concern to her- it can be highly embarresing for her- maybe say it in a joking way...

~nop~

Just wait till it's kind of dark or you're in different lighting or up close or something and then look at her and go "jeez if i didnt know better I'd think you had a ronnie"

Also point out other women with them and talk about how awful they are.

Marksie

Could i remind you all about the charter.
Keep the advice helpful

G&T

There is no easy way to bring it up,
Dont say anything while you have drink taken.
Try to say it in a semi-complimentary way
eg, "your look lovely tonight but i think your make-up is a bit smuged",rub the area and say you dont know what the problem is.

If she say's I have a few hair's there you can then say I think the make-up
makes them more obvious.They are not normally that bad looking....

You can suggest she goes to the fashion&appearance forum to see if anyone there can help.

JohnG2176

If i was in that situation i'd make jokes about it, just start calling her 'Natasha', and sayin 'I moustashe you a question' she won't really get offended, but it'll be the kick up the behind to get it sorted.

milkerman

No such thing as the perfect 10 i'm afraid. Your girl has some whiskers - big deal, she might also have a really nice ass. Take the rough with the smooth, it's an overall package remember - not a new car with optional accessories.

My wife has on occasion taken a tweezers to my ear and nose hairs while I slept - a VERY painfull experience.

Ickle Magoo

You like her better if only she'd wax her top lip? What if you prefer blondes or bigger boobs? I think most women would be delighted to have a man with a sculpted 6-pack but funnily enough there are very few about - obviously not enough women telling their men to do a few sit-ups & get sexy, lol.

I don't think you should ask anyone to change themselves to suit your own personal tastes or because you've grown up in a society where the top shelves are filled with women who are only deemed attractive if they are shaven, waxed & plucked within an inch of their lives. If you don't like women with obvious facial hair then find one that doesn't have any!

There are a few things I'd love to change about my husband to make him "perfect" (for my own selfish ends, obviously) but the bottom line is I love him & so I accept the bits I am not so fond of in exchange for all the things I am crazy about.

If it is likley she is going to be sensitive about it, then don't joke about it under any circumsances, you'll seem like a creul bastard.
Tell her straight and tactfully, Maybe she doesn't know what to do with it. You could tell her your sister bleachs or waxes at the beauticans.

Shanda

do not bring up the subject with her. it wud be horrible to hear that from your boyfriend. don't think it would go down well.

JIZZLORD

quite the predicament, as somebody else mentioned, never say anything after drinking!

LegacyUser

thanks for all the replies...even the joking ones..they gave me a chuckle...
I guess it does kind of put me off a little...its not really that bad but i still feel a little uncomfortable about it... i feel like a right pirck even posting about it but i dunno what to do...
i know if i mentioned it it wud be over straight away

~nop~

beeswax10 wrote:

thanks for all the replies...even the joking ones..they gave me a chuckle...
I guess it does kind of put me off a little...its not really that bad but i still feel a little uncomfortable about it... i feel like a right pirck even posting about it but i dunno what to do...
i know if i mentioned it it wud be over straight away

Hey, you shouldn't feel bad about being uncomfortable about it. I'm a girl and i know i'd feel the same way if a friend of mine had an obvious one and i couldn't say it to her. I know people are saying you have to take the rough with the smooth but it is something you and she'll most likely get slagging over and very easy to get rid of.

Maybe get one of her friends to say it to her, if you trust them to do it nicely?

ladylorenzo

Say nothing..seriously. If you're going to do anything, watch Intermission as was recommended above. If you say it to her, hurting her feelings, giving her an overwhelming sense of paranoia and taking a bulldozer to her self-confidence is inevitable. PLUS she'll alway s hold it against you if you do stay together!!(Cause that's what we women do best!!)
Good Luck!!LL