Had sex with friends GF on holidays

LegacyUser

Ok i am in a pickle!

Basically just back from a weeks holiday in the med, went with a group of lads from work.

My good friends gf was also there though i didnt know this until i bumped into her. I would know her quite well but didnt even know she was going on hols!
so on my 2nd night there i bump into her and tbh she pretty much dragged me back to her apartment,tbh i didnt even put up a fight. and we did the deed a couple of times. She txt me then the next night to meet up and we pretty much went at it like rabbits for the hoel holiday. Now ive always thought she was hot but never liked her in a romantic way. But she says she has liked me for about a year and she heard i was going to a certain place and she convinced her friends to go to said place.

So apart from being a wanker of a friend what do i do? She is not looking for repeat performances from me but now i am back in real world.

biko

A. Own up
B. Continue like nothing happened, knowing it might come out during a fight.

Petey2006

Be a man, own up and face the consequences you rightly deserve. I hope your friend ends your 'friendship' there and then. And then dumps his slag of a girlfriend.

Mr. Presentable

intime wrote:

the hole holiday. .

Hehehe

Fess up. It'll come out otherwise. Also, is she what you want your mate to be going out with?

bugler

You're a bad person. But aren't we all.

Question: Why is she still going out with your "mate"?

If you really value your friendship I'd say nothing, but chances are this might come out from her to him anyway. So I'd keep my mouth shut and realise it's probably out of your hands.

Also, are you really his good friend? Because if you're not then maybe you should put distance between you two as well.

The Bollox

troll tbh

either that or a complete asshole of a 'friend', or both

aequinoctium

remember, she did it too....you're not alone in it all

LegacyUser

Your a horrible person man and his bird is a slapper.

andrew1977

Confess to the crime..it better that way because it will all come out in the wash some today and bite you in the ass.

Owning up now saves you a lot fo worried time and nights out afraid somebody will blab

nice1franko

it it really your good friend or an associate/drinking buddy? Reason I ask is if a good frind of mine's gf was off on hols I think it'd have come up in conversation.

anyway, either way, I'd punch yer head in. I mean, if it happened once while u were both locked you could fess up and hope he can forgive you but repeat performances and all that... for shame. punch yer own head in op!!

Miss Fluff

intime wrote:

But she says she has liked me for about a year and she heard i was going to a certain place and she convinced her friends to go to said place.

Flaming Nora, a stalker AND a slapper, you really can pick em eh? I'd be inclined to tell your friend. I think you owe him that, he needs to know what kind of tinker his GF is.

Dragan

bugler wrote:

If you really value your friendship I'd say nothing, but chances are this might come out from her to him anyway.

I think the evidence would point to the him not????

OP, own up, take whatever Karma brings your way.

John_Mc

I'd say nothing anyway. You're mate will catch the slag with someone else sooner or later (probably the former) so there's a good chance you'll get away with it.

You're still a c*nt tho

Beruthiel

The Bollox wrote:

troll tbh

either that or a complete asshole of a 'friend', or both

Another comment like that from you and you're banned from this forum.
B

LegacyUser

nice1franko wrote:

it it really your good friend or an associate/drinking buddy? Reason I ask is if a good frind of mine's gf was off on hols I think it'd have come up in conversation.

anyway, either way, I'd punch yer head in. I mean, if it happened once while u were both locked you could fess up and hope he can forgive you but repeat performances and all that... for shame. punch yer own head in op!!

Well he was a good friend but tbh we have kind of drifted apart in the last couple of years though we would still meet a few times per month.

cold_filter

OP, fess up. First of all he will be majorly pissed and probably want to give you a couple of good thumps. Second of all has she had many of these holidays without her boyfriend?? Maybe shes always at it?

Thirdly he needs to get rid of her asap!

tbh

I think you need to sit down, take some time out and really think about this.This is'n't something you can dismiss with flippant remarks. You should spend some time thinking about how this came to pass, with one over-riding question

"What did my mate ever do to me that I could treat him in such a sh1tty manner?"

If you can't think of an answer, you should start thinking about what a lonely, unhappy life you're living.

davyjose

intime wrote:

Well he was a good friend but tbh we have kind of drifted apart in the last couple of years though we would still meet a few times per month.

Keep drifting dude. I'm not gonna say your an a$$hole cos we all f*ck up, although this is a doozy. I tink you should say it to your mate as it will come out. If your part of a group of friends you'll probably be thrown out of that group, but hey, if you can't do the time....

AnonoBoy

If you just did it once and felt terribly bad it might be in some small way forgivable. But you didn't - you and her went at it for a whole week.

Maybe this guy is a friend of yours but you are not a friend of his. Honestly - it's just a low thing to do.

At least have the decency to let him know what sort of girl he's going out with so he can dump her before he catches something nasty.

Marksie

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stooge

you should let your 'friend' know if you have any sort of decency.

I'm inclined to think this post is a troll but if it isnt I hope the OP owns up and receives a kicking for being such a cnut. Mates g'friends are no go areas, just like younger sisters.

Caliden

Ignorance is bliss, don't tell your friend.

The white lie in this situation is less hurtful than the truth. All you had was a bit of fun onholidays and as long as she doesn't want anything from you now that you're back home then it's fine.

Sparing your friend's feelings is the smarter choice here. I mean what exactly have you to gain from telling him?
If you tell him, you lose a friend, become known as a sleeze for sleeping with his GF and not only that but you will lose the respect of the girl you slept with and girls spread gossip like wildfire.

Keep your mouth shut and be glad you had a nice holiday!

Marksie

Stooge: Banned 1 week advocating violence etc.

Folks please take time to read the charter

nice1franko

Caliden wrote:

...not only that but you will lose the respect of the girl you slept... Keep your mouth shut and be glad you had a nice holiday!

Firstly, lose her respect?? WTF are you on about?

Secondly, you're a dead sound fella, aren't you? I bet they all say "ah you couldn't meet a nicer chap than that Caliden".

Caliden

The respect to keep it to himself.

Also it's my opinion so you can simply disagree with it without saying what you think of me even though I don't really care what a randomer behind a keyboard thinks of me

Look at it this way. You're friends with a couple and the guy asks you can you keep a secret. That secret being that he had sex several times with another girl but it's over now. Would you go and tell his girlfriend (who you are also friends with) ?

What exactly would be the point?

Maybe the girl wanted to see what the greener grass was like and didn't like it?

a-k-47

What a sly bitch, had it planned in advance, seduction is a fker!. Any woman can do it to any man!. Once you start thinking with your dick youd shag your best mates mother

on a serious note though i dont think telling your friend is going to achieve anything, but he does need to know that hes got to dump the slut.

nice1franko

intime wrote:

Well he was a good friend but tbh we have kind of drifted apart in the last couple of years though we would still meet a few times per month.

Yeah, that is a pickle alright. If he was any closer I hope you'd think you'd have to tell him tho. As it stands, it *might* be better off if you say nothing and have the decency to keep out of his way and lose touch with him altogether.

I hope you realise that blokes who do what you did are, justly, hated by all.

busted flush

cheesedude wrote:

Your a horrible person man and his bird is a slapper.

im afraid cheesedude is right!

justsomebloke

hell even if you don't tell him at least have the decency to stop pretending to be his friend

projectmayhem

intime wrote:

So apart from being a wanker of a friend what do i do? She is not looking for repeat performances from me but now i am back in real world.

at least you know what you did was absolutely awful, but you have to sit down with your friend and tell him everything.

like you said she's not looking for a repeat performance, so just bite the bullet. if she tells your mate before you there's no going back. at least if you own up like a man there's a chance for forgiveness sometime in the future.

Tar.Aldarion

Just follow my motto of the day:
Spill the seed, own up to the deed.

Secondly, you're a dead sound fella, aren't you? I bet they all say "ah you couldn't meet a nicer chap than that Caliden".

lmao

Gary ITR

Stay quiet about it, it'll kill your friend. I mean you didn't get drunk and have an aul ride and leave it at that, you spent the rest of the holiday at it too.

nice1franko

Actually, considering she planned it so well and everything you really should tell him.

She's stringing him on for whatever reason and as a parting jesture - and in a small way make up for what you did - you could at least tell him what she's like behind his back.

This might be the last chance you have left to be a friend to him. She'll do it again and worse to him in the future and it really would be much worse for him if there were kids and house involved.

Blackpitts

i really don't understand how some girls can sleep with a friend's bf????
does attached men look sexier to them or what?
anyway, i think you are in big troubles, you might be dumped wheter or not you tell the truth...plus your "friend" put you in a difficult position, she can go and tell everything to your gf if you don't do everything she wants...
I think you have to break with your gf, she didn't deserve that

DRakE

definately dont confess.. why the **** would you want to confess something that might get your **** knocked in? thiink about it.

layke

Listen to 'Sugar Daddy' DRakE he's been there. A few times.

Now being super serial; say nothing to your mate if you want to stay friends and avoid him getting other mates to hate your guts. Dispite what others have said you own up, you ain't friends no more.

DRakE

lool layke ;D

SarahSassy

I think you should walk away from him and leave him and his relationship alone...

You are no friend to him and yourself and the gf deserve each other. I would suggest you avoid him and dont continue to meet him (and probably the gf) as if nothing happened....

Your actions were totally selfish but you try to blame HER - you are 100% responsible for betraying YOUR friend. She is 100% responsible for betraying her BF. As for your comment on her seducing you - cop on!!!! You let yourself be seduced and didnt exactly run a mile for the rest of the holiday.

Sully

If you dont tell know, id say you will get more of a "beating" (if any) if you never say out or say out to late.

He needs to be told she isnt right for him.

And this was no mistake; You did it more then once over the week.

Peyton Manning

Hope you get an STD tbh...

Dave!

Archimedes wrote:

Hope you get an STD tbh...

Hope you get BANNED tbh, muahahahah!!!!!!!!

OP..... that was not cool! Maybe you should do a bit of investigative work and try to find out who else knows already. I mean, yer one might have let it slip to one of her mates (ye know what women are like), and that mate may have gossiped it to a few of HER mates (ye know what women are like). Yer man could know already FFS!!! If she's certain nobody else knows, then take it to your grave. If other people already know, then tell yer man and prepare to get a dig.

Marcus.Aurelius

Fess up dude, win some respect for yourself for telling your friend. He deserves to know what she did, so he can make a choice in all this.

And for God's sake, test yourself for an STD, just in case she has a habit of this!!

maoleary

Victor

Behave!

Kindly stick to the topic and stop commenting on other posters.

Placebo

stooge wrote:

you should let your 'friend' know if you have any sort of decency.

I'm inclined to think this post is a troll but if it isnt I hope the OP owns up and receives a kicking for being such a cnut. Mates g'friends are no go areas, just like younger sisters.

i respect this. I think OP should walk away, although personally i think he is of very weak character. He should practice empathy. 24/7 maybe.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Don't tell your mate. Write an annoymous note if you will but this is the *worst* thing I can imagine going through.

Peter Collins

It would be different if it was a once-off, but the whole holiday?

The others are right, you're not a friend to this guy at all.

I hope he finds out and gets rid of you both.

LanceStorm

stop focusing on the negatives, it was one hell of a holiday wasnt it!!
consequences be damned!!

thecutter

You definitly need to tell your 'friend'. Two wrongs dont make a right, and rest assured, it will definitly come up in a future arguement.
You should be ashamed of yourself. Imo, you deserve each other.

_Kaiser_

Let's review.. She plans it, seduces him, and yet everyone thinks the OP's at fault eh?

Yea fair enough he's not entirely blameless of course, but the premeditated way she went about it suggests that he isn't the first, nor will he likely be the last.

The real question here is should he get involved in their relationship (he's not a counsellor) given that he and his mate aren't that close these days anyway (thus it's quite possible said mate won't believe him), or chalk it up to experience and say nothing.

I'd say the latter in this case.

damo

She is an absolute tramp, and deserves to be run over by a truck.

You also deserve the same fate, if you had been drunk and it had happened once, it would still be absolutely horrible, backstabbing behaviour, but it would be somewhat understandable. But going at it like rabbits for the whole holiday deserves castration & torture.

Awful, confess and be very humble.

Victor

damo, too far, banned for 2 weeks.