After the whole get to know you stuff in a relationship?

fly.on.the.wall

What happens after the whole get to know you stuff in a relationship?

I'm confused

I met a guy on line about 2 months ago now. For a month now, we have been meeting up a couple of times a week. It's been going really well. We’ve talked loads, and have started getting close.

We went out tonight, really love his company, and just being with him in general. He's such a lovely guy. Thing is, we've talked so much; we've kind of run out of talking points. So, there were long gaps of talk while we were out, and I was continually thinking of things to say...but it was hard.
We've done the whole cinema etc stuff...

What happens from here on?? What do couples usually do? I mean ive spoken about work, so has he, shared stories, so has he...etc etc But its getting tough to keep things fresh. I do really like him....

This is his and mine first proper relationship -

What to do? Please advice.

davyjose

Kiss, have sex, get passionate - the things that fill the gap in any relationship. Get drunk, get him drunk and make a move.

I'm not kidding - that's part and parcel of a full relationship.

Carrigart Exile

fly.on.the.wall wrote:

What happens after the whole get to know you stuff in a relationship?

I'm confused

I met a guy on line about 2 months ago now. For a month now, we have been meeting up a couple of times a week. It's been going really well. We’ve talked loads, and have started getting close.

We went out tonight, really love his company, and just being with him in general. He's such a lovely guy. Thing is, we've talked so much; we've kind of run out of talking points. So, there were long gaps of talk while we were out, and I was continually thinking of things to say...but it was hard.
We've done the whole cinema etc stuff...

What happens from here on?? What do couples usually do? I mean ive spoken about work, so has he, shared stories, so has he...etc etc But its getting tough to keep things fresh. I do really like him....

This is his and mine first proper relationship -

What to do? Please advice.

Being comfortable with silence in each others company is a stage to develop.

paulie.walnuts

The point you're at in your relationship is so cute, you;re really into each other and trying to make sure you have loads of interesting stuff to chat about to keep each other interested. You will always run out of the "so what did you think of that movie" "did i ever tell you about the time"
So what, that happens all the time. Tell him the truth that you've run out of all the little stories and relax with each other and enjoy each others company and talk about nothing in particular.
He likes you for who you are, not your anecdotes.
This is not unusual at all. Sounds like you're having a great time getting to know each other so i hope things blosssom. Enjoy!!

axer

You go out and have fun together. Dont just go out and meet up to talk all the time. Go bowling, walks on a beach or through a forest and other activities where you just have fun together without the need to talk much.

and Kiss, have sex, get passionate (you dont need to get drunk though).

Ruu_Old

Enjoy each others company and nothing more should need to be said to do that. Good luck.

Femelade

I was with my boyfriend for about 2 months when one night we went to the local, it wasa quiet night there, so wesat down and proceeded to talk about home and away for about 15-20 mins, after a while i said "oh my god, whats happening us? we have nothing left to talk about only home and away!" he told me months later that when i said that he was thinking in his head " oh crap, i'm boring her, she'll prob finish it soon"..
Of course i wasnt thinking that...it was just ine if those nights..it still happens us, together a yr now soon and some nights we have nothing to talk about...but we are comfortable in eachothers silence too...There is nothing wrong with it..its all gravy. good luck!

CathyMoran

I am with my husband on off nearly 10 years now You can talk about day to day things like "how was your day?" and "what is your opinion on?" to finding out about the hobbies than your bf has that you do not. We are still happily talking about things now but when there are breaks I find that I can look at his face and it makes me smile and feel all fuzzy inside and then there is also kissing and hugging and other things

fly.on.the.wall

Thanks everyone for your replies... :cool:

Seems that that silence that occurs from time to time maybe OK then

I think just in the initial stages of getting to know one another it can of course be a little awkward. I'm finding that I am very comfortable with him, and he with me. Thanks again for the little questions to throw in from time to time....

Anyone else with their 2 cents worth, please keep the advice coming in!

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davyjose wrote:

Kiss, have sex, get passionate - the things that fill the gap in any relationship. Get drunk, get him drunk and make a move.

I'm not kidding - that's part and parcel of a full relationship.

not fair, i was going to post that!!!

nothing breaks the silence better than sex, giggidy!