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ending a friendship

  • 30-06-2007 4:04pm
    #1
    deise-lady
    Closed Accounts Posts: 130 ✭✭


    I've had a friend for nearly 20 years. She used to be my 'best friend' and we saw each other every day, told each other everything etc.
    Over the years, we've grown apart and about 5 years ago, I moved out of dublin to the country where I have made a new life.

    I want to end the friendship. She doesn't. She insists on us meeting up about every 2 months, it usually involves an overnight trip, lots of wine and 'big chats'. I don't enjoy these get togethers at all, it can be very intense and I usually end up getting drunk and feeling generally unhappy (out of character for me).

    I believe it's perfectly natural for friends to lose touch, fade away, out grow each other - it's part of normal life. And I've tried to let that happen, but she just won't let go.

    what are my options? writing her a letter feels cowardly to me. I'm terrified at the thoughts of a face to face 'chat', I feel like I'm breaking up with someone!

    Does anyone have any advice or experience they can offer?


Comments

  • #2
    PeakOutput
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,639 ✭✭✭PeakOutput


    is accidently not answering a few calls from her not an option??

    I assume if she is in anyway normal she will eventually call less and less


  • #3
    patrickolee
    Closed Accounts Posts: 890 ✭✭✭patrickolee


    Good god, don't write to her anyway, whatever you do. That would be terrible. I think a gradual breakup would be best. Like Peak says, a few missed calls, a few cancelled arranged meetings. Let it gradually peeter out. Think how you would feel in her situation. How would you feel... and what would be the easiest way to swallow?


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