My mother attempted suicide, what'll I do with her now to help her?

LegacyUser

Just a few hours ago my mother attempted suicide. My sister (thank God) heard my mam drop to the floor with a thud, and herd her walking and mumbling around the house in the early hours. He went in to check her and she was slumped on the ground. She ran into me and called me and I ran in and tried to rustle her up, she was K.O.ed. I saw a note addressed to us on the table, it was a suicide note saying sorry etc. etc. So I told me sis to call an ambulance straight away. So she's now in hospital, and I'll find out later today if she's ok. I'm presume she's fine. She took a load of sleeping tablets/painkillers/anti-depressants and we got to her quite fast, so.

She's desperately unhappy with her life. She lives in a ****ty area full of knackers and people who just pick on her, she's in a ****ty, mundane job and lots of trouble with one of her daughters. When she comes back I want to change things for her, I want change in my own life too, maybe this is a good thing. But any ideas? I will mention her to sell this God forbidden home and go live in the country, I'll look after myself etc. etc.

Any ideas, kind words?

Marksie

Op: there are links to organisations in the charter, they may help.

Being there for your mother at this time is very important. She will need all the support she can muster.

Also ensure that the rest of your family, in supporting, dont drain themselves too much you will need to maintain your own balance.

Changing circumstances sounds like a good medium term goal, for the immediate though you need to get past this crisis point

Do get all the professional help that you can.

Best of luck

biko

Perhaps you can go away somewhere for a break once she is back from hospital? Discuss options like the one you've mentioned - moving to the country. Sometimes you just have to leave sh1t behind and start afresh in a better place.

Ask in the hospital for options of counselling or to get a priest to visit her.

Enright

i know that right now you feel low, things will get better! i'll say a prayer for your family

barrett1965

I hope your mother will make a full recovery and maybe this is a chance of a fresh start for you and your family.

Hmm_Messiah

Hello

I hope your mother recovers well, andsoon.

On a personal note, I had two very close friends who attempted suicide - both because the situation they were in was basically horrific. I am glad to say they are both fine and well , if anythign I might be jealous of their successes in life.

You and your mum need to realis eits ok to feel that much despair when your situation warrants it. But no matter how dark things seem, how cornered she feels in he present situation there is real possibilities.

I don't want to cross some line offering " solutions" which you and your mum need to agree for your selves ( with help) but some things come to mind

If a doctor advises that its required, presuming your mum can be given alternative housing by the local authority, or some other local authority if you think a further move would help. there is some Bureaucracy, but a little persevereness, maybe by yourself on her behalf .

And regarding " troubles with sister" a professional will help her place things in perspective and realise her own health is the priority, even if it means breaking ties with what is hurting her.

Never feel you have failled your mum, suicide is a result of very internalised thoughts. And re-assure your mum that things can get better. A few small steps will help show the possibilities.

I know in drug counselling there is this idea that you have to make changes before you believe in them - you forget about saying " this won't help" and just do it, realising later the how and why it works.

Best of luck

LegacyUser

Thanks for the help, we are ringing hospital to see how she is, I couldn't stay all night with her, had something really important the next day and I'm pretty sure she'd be knocked out for a day or so (hate to sound selfish).

She's been through every method of help ourside her own self for years....AA, Recovery, Mental Hospitals and various doctors and anti-depressants, and she's improved as a result, but lots of **** has just happened over the last few days and I don't think she was able to step back, look at it sensibly and deal with it easy. I will urge her to make a new life and leave all the **** behind.

I can only be so grateful that my sister heard her fall, otherwise I might have found her this morning in a less than comforting way. I'm so happy for that..