Got that horrible feeling again

LegacyUser

I caught my boyfriend making plans to meet up with some woman in a hotel in march. I found out cos i was sending a message off his phone(he knew about it) and in where u write the message the last one was saved- it basically said what hotel and a time.

Anyway long story short we split up and i took him back after a LOT of talking and begging(i know im an idiot)

Anyway tonight he took a lovely picture of his niece and i asked him to send it to my phone- He said he would and never did so when he got home i told him id send it through bluetooth and he said ok.

I went into the pictures and in his pics folder was a picture of his private parts. I was bemused and called him and asked jokeingly "Were you measuring it ha ha" He went bright red and said "Thats not me it must have been one of the boys messing when they were drunk.

Now honestly i know what his cock looks like and i know it was him(his tattoo on his thigh also gave it away) When i pointed it out he went quiet and said "Oh ya i was just mesing around"

Now in my experience you dont take pics like that just for a laugh- The thing was it was also in his drafts- He had obviously been going to send it to someone

I have that horrible feeling again that hes been sending pics of himself to women that hes planning to meet up with

Miss Fluff

Why would he take pictures of his OWN privates for his OWN viewing pleasure? If you weren't privy to it, someone else certainly was unfortunately. No innocent explanation for it tbh:(

Chucky the tree

Miss Fluff wrote:

Why would he take pictures of his OWN privates for his OWN viewing pleasure?

Sometimes if your on a bus or something you obviously cant take it out, so its nice to be have a picture of it so you can glance at it every so often.



The word doormat springs to mind, dunno why you took him back in the first place.

Wibbs

As I see it you tried to make this work and that's a good thing. It is possible he could just have made a mistake*. It can happen and if you can get through something like that and emerge on the other side on the same page, that can make a relationship stronger.


But....

Leave this guy. I think your suspicions and instincts are correct. His reaction to the picture sounds off and that's from just your telling across the web. If it was him larking about, he wouldn't have changed his story. Given that he betrayed you that recently speaks to me of major muppetry.

At this stage you've tried and it looks like he's failed at the first hurdle. Anyone deserves more than that.

Do not be too surprised if he starts the begging again. Never take a man back if he begs more than normal IE beyond the initial shock. It's showing he's not taking responsibility for his actions and is weak. Not good in a man.

Do not be too surprised if when you dump him, he goes straight into another relationship.

Do not be too surprised if he crawls back to you when he sees the grass isn't always greener elsewhere(2-6 months after you split).

By that stage you should be in a far healthier place and will have no problem showing him the door.



*The hotel business is a little more than a drunken fumble or furtive snog. Far too much planning for my liking

davyjose

I can't disagree with what any of WIBBS is saying. I'm afraid you picked a bad one. It might hurt to leave him now, but it'll hurt a helluva lot more in the long run, to keep him.