Major sex famine: "Revirginised"?

LegacyUser

I haven't had sex in a LONG time – over two and a half years to be precise. The last guy I was seeing was an asshole and made me feel self-conscious about my weight. He really damaged my confidence and I didn't think I was worthy of any sort of relationship for a good while. I also lost interest a long time ago in one-night stands and wanted to meet someone with whom I have more of a connection.
Anyway, I started a healthy eating and exercise plan (not just because that dickhead said I was fat but because of the benefits for my well-being – I know now that I wasn't that fat in the first place). I'm glad to say I'm really happy with how I look and I'm getting attention from more guys than ever. I'm also delighted to say that I've started seeing a really great guy. Things are really good but one small thing is playing on my mind: I really want to sleep with him but I'm also extremely nervous – feeling pretty much the same way as I did before my first time, if not more nervous since I'm older and a lot more is expected of me. Plus, I've also heard (could be nonsense) that absence of sex causes the entrance to the vagina to "tighten" and it can become as narrow as that of a virgin's, leading me to worry about sex being painful. The other story I've heard (and I'm pretty sceptical) is that lack of sex also leads to less lubricant being produced, therefore dryness and soreness.
Could anyone put my mind at rest or even confirm my fears? Thanks a lot.

vorbis

Most guys will have no problem with the fact you're nervous. Its a bit different for guys as nervousness can ahem soften performance! Buy soe lubricant in case its sore. Other than that, just relax he won't be worrying about it!

Nevyn

If you are relaxed an aroused enough the tightens won't be an issue and your vagina will lube naturally.

Really you don't dry up if you are put on certain meds by the dr, get trush or an sti or when you are going through menapuse.

Kinkykitty

If you are nervous about down there being tight I would get a vibrator and loosen things out a wee bit. Don't worry you'll be back in the saddle again in no time!!

Miss Fluff

Kinkykitty wrote:

If you are nervous about down there being tight I would get a vibrator and loosen things out a wee bit. Don't worry you'll be back in the saddle again in no time!!

My advice exactly. Get yourself prepared dear and then back on the saddle. You'll have a ball!!;)

LegacyUser

AFter I broke up with my ex who I was with for five years, I took a little 'break' from blokes for about nine or so months. I would have been nervous about getting back in the saddle too so to speak. Anyhow from both that time and my present situation, I think you should look forward to your next 'occasion'. At the moment my boyfriend works abroad for a month or so at a time. When he comes back, the first time is the one I look forward to the most Because it's the most...emmm... effective for want of a better word. Nothing grows back once you've lost your virginity, well in my experience, but things are tighter, I think and you feel more. Happy days Enjoy!

simu

Eh, once it's gone, it's gone tbh. I wouldn't worry about it.