its gross

LegacyUser

I have a problem with my girlfriend. Well shes not really my girlfriend shes my ex but we started having a casual fling the last few weeks.

Anyway long story short we were in bed this morning and i got up to go to work. All of a sudden she says "You have a spot on ur back"- I was like "Oh do i ok so"

Anyway this is the bit that grosses me out- she went at it and burst it- cleaned it out with dettol and i went to work feelin gross.

How could someone just burst someone elses spot its disgusting.

i dont want her doing that to me everytime i get a spot it makes me sick

Anyone else have this problem or am i with a freak??

LegacyUser

My GF pops my zits all the time. I never did until I met her. She started doing it to me and now I am doing it to her too. It is a bit gross, but is also extremely satisfying.

Whenever I get a zit she has to pop it or else she can't stop thinking about it. Unfortunately she doesn't bother her ass with Dettol so she probably makes it worse.

If you want your fling her to stop then tell her to keep it under control. She is not your girlfriend so she shouldn't complain about it.

She may tell you that it is compulsive and she has some OCD tenancies. Inmy opinion, unless she is on meds for it then she is simply making that up as an excuse for weird behaviour and you should tell her that.

pickarooney

Freak, I would say, unless you can elaborate on what exactly makes it disgusting.

karen3212

Yes, the picture you've painted made me feel sick,

disgusting definately,

spurious

Is this your first girlfriend?
Nothing you have described is 'that' unusual.

King of Kings

ha ha
me and my ex used to that......it's actually quite intimate -in a non-sexual way - and shows a caring side to her (particular as she went to get dettol to clean it) that you and the some of the other replies seem to have missed or too pig headed to realise

Gyalist

Absolutely nothing wrong or unusual about her behaviour.

A few empirical studies of human social grooming exist (Nelson, 2006; Nelson, 2007). They rely on self-report survey and experimental methodology of adults living primarily in the U.S. and other Western cultures. People report grooming romantic partners more than grooming people they have other types of relationships with like family members, friends, and strangers. Grooming is associated with increased relationship satisfaction, trust, and experience of family affection while growing up. People who groom, as opposed to touch each other without grooming, are perceived to be better potential parents, more in love with the person they have groomed and more caring and committed to them. Women, but not men, tend to think people who have groomed one another are romantically involved. People also think that if people who have groomed one other are romantically involved, they are in a long-term relationship rather than one that has just begun. Human mutual grooming plays a role in pairbonding.

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dudara

I don't see anything wring with it at all. I would ask my partner to do it for me if I felt a spot on my back or somewhere I couldn't reach. It's only a spot.

Marksie

I am with duadara on this. Particularly if it one that hurts.

m83

There's nothing wrong with this at all OP. It's actually a good thing.

PeakOutput

my best mates mam used to burst his spots all the time i thought it was kinda gross but fuk it..........i wouldnt do it to someone else but i wouldnt particularly care if someone did it to me or not

The Walsho

I don't see it as that bad, probably a good indicator tbh, bur if you're uncomfortable with it then just tell her!

Oryx

I dont think theres anything wrong with it, I mean you're doing all kinds of sexual hoopla with a person, so why should a spot gross you out?

daveirl

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flanzer

Consider yourself privileged! I usually have to clean myself up afterwards! I think it's a intimate instinct going back to our neanderthol days. Monkeys do it all the time, albeit not squeezing zits!

Stabshauptmann

1)Pop your good damn pimples and wash properly/regularly.
2)If its bothering her yes she should do something to get rid of them, though asking you to should be enough
3)If you cant reach one cos its on your back be grateful of the help.

dudara

shepicksmyspots wrote:

everytime i get a spot it makes me sick

I just reread the original post and noticed this sentence.

OP, why do you have a problem with spots in general? We all get them, and they're just a result of our immune system working correctly. Nothing wrong with them

little miss

Phew, glad this is considered normal as I used to do it to my bf! I'd only do it to someone I felt truly comfortable with!

Piste

Ugh that's disgusting! I'd be grossed out by even touching someone else's spots, never mind picking it! Eww! if you're bothered by it tell her to stop, that it's nasty!

r3nu4l

KtK wrote:

I dont think theres anything wrong with it, I mean you're doing all kinds of sexual hoopla with a person, so why should a spot gross you out?

QFT. Exactly. If you actually thought about the potential biological consequences of half of the secual acts that we consider normal you would probalby feel far worse! The reason we don't is because these acts excite us. Having someone else bursting a spot may not be sexually exciting (for most!) but there is no real reason to be freaked out.

Boston

I'm more disturbed by the use of dettol. Thats really bad for your skins.

Slutmonkey57b

A lot of women seem to get some satisfaction out of this behaviour. Scientists are baffled. Popping spots is no good for your skin anyway, stick to scalding hot water. The zit isn't the problem, it's the bacteria in it.

Love2love

I hate spots but I would never pop them and I certainly wouldn't pop someone else's, no matter how intimate we were but each to their own!

I thought popping spots could scar your skin????

seamus

Love2love wrote:

I thought popping spots could scar your skin????

Depends on a multitude of factors. I've always burst my spots, and I've never ended up with scars. People with severe acne can sometimes get badly scarred purely because of the enormity of their spots. Urban myth is that bursting them with a pin will also lead to crater-style scars.

My gf will only ask me to burst one of hers if she can't reach it and it's really annoying her. I wouldn't do it for anyone else, because that would be disgusting.

Cateym

Do you know what really grosses me out is people who go around with one spot, not acne mind, just one mother of a yellow headed pimple on like the end of their nose or something for days! I'm like burst the goddamn thing please!!:D

kizzyr

Marksie wrote:

I am with duadara on this. Particularly if it one that hurts.

^^ exactly. Occasionally my boyfriend gets a painful spot on his back in a place he can't reach and has asked me to do the necessary. You squeeze it using a piece of tissue and put some Dettol / TCP/ other such thing on it and the job is done.
Given all the other kinds of things couples do together why balk at this

milod

Yeah TCP is the best! My g/f always uses that when she bursts a spot for me. Though she prefers me to use some fancy Dead Sea gunk on hers...

BTW, OP, it's perfectly normal grooming behaviour - how else are going to reach the middle of your back?! If you really love someone, you won't find their pus/ooze etc disgusting.

Judging by some of the reactions, I'm surprised at how anal some folks are...Get over yersleves and get squeezin'

HashSlinging

dudara wrote:

I don't see anything wring with it at all. I would ask my partner to do it for me if I felt a spot on my back or somewhere I couldn't reach. It's only a spot.

Spot on.

Lola123

Cateym wrote:

Do you know what really grosses me out is people who go around with one spot, not acne mind, just one mother of a yellow headed pimple on like the end of their nose or something for days! I'm like burst the goddamn thing please!!:D

Totally with you on that!! Pop it please so I can stop staring at it!!

LegacyUser

Do you actually call this a personal issue?

Can you not just say, don;t pick my spots u scumbag.

azezil

Cateym wrote:

Do you know what really grosses me out is people who go around with one spot, not acne mind, just one mother of a yellow headed pimple on like the end of their nose or something for days! I'm like burst the goddamn thing please!!:D

Oh god yeah, they're just sick and wrong!

I've no problem with other people bursting my spots, my mother used to clear my black heads and spots all of the time when I lived at home, always had nice clear skin as a result! ^_^

LegacyUser

'Meh, its not that big a deal, and it does show that the couple appear to be fairly comfortable with eachother.

I dont pop his spots, but my boyf had a boil or summat funny on the top of his ass cheek, which I've been cleaning and dressing for the past while. How else is he supposed to reach it? And its not that big a deal that he'd pay some nurse or doctor to tend to it every few days, so I dont mind doin it.

I just beg him not to fart while I'm doin it, I'd definitely be leavin it to himself then '

jubi lee

it's worse for the gf when she has to look at your spots, which may be big red/white/crusty or whatever!!! you mightened be able to see it or feel it! so best to get rid of it!!!

DaDa

IMO.. perfectly normal.

Tar.Aldarion

I also don'd see a problem.

Duggy747

Heh, reading this gave me a mental image of apes grooming each other, dunno why. I don't really see a problem, my sisters nearly tear me apart if they see a zit on me, they're always dying to pop 'em. Baffling stuff!

The_B_Man

Slutmonkey57b wrote:

A lot of women seem to get some satisfaction out of this behaviour. Scientists are baffled. Popping spots is no good for your skin anyway, stick to scalding hot water. The zit isn't the problem, it's the bacteria in it.

I wonder is it kinda the same as popping bubble wrap? They might get the same satisfaction!

johnnyrotten

To answer your Question - Yes, you are a freak

Marksie

Johnnyrotten: If you have useful advice please give it. Unhelpful posting will result in a ban

davyjose

King of Kings wrote:

ha ha
me and my ex used to that......it's actually quite intimate -in a non-sexual way - and shows a caring side to her (particular as she went to get dettol to clean it) that you and the some of the other replies seem to have missed or too pig headed to realise

Exactly - jesus some of the PI's here should be on after hours

tampopo

Oh yeah, I used to do this to an ex-gf many years ago. It was great. lyin' in bed, touching her all over! bleedin' deadly. She was diagnosed with MS and her eyesight was affected so she couldn't see them. I used ta help her out. She was SO grateful.

I wouldn't be so keen on using Dettol or owt. Just soak up any seepage and leave it be...let it form a scab if it gets bleedy. Chemicals on the skin aren't so hot imo.