Send Flowers to her work

LegacyUser

Im gonna come across like a bleeding dope writing this. So Im going unreg. As with almost every post in this forum. There's a girl. er birthday is next Sunday. Im gonna be away. Planned trip months ago. Everything paid for. Were not seeing each other. Just "sniffing about ech other cinema, dinner. We havent even kissed. I was thinking of sending her some flowers. She works in a large department Store. Arnnotts BT's kinda place. So first off to the girls out ther would you be completely mortified if someone did this to you. Could she get in trouble in work, her birthday is this sunday. Anyone kow of aby florists that deliver on sundahy

spurious

Can't you send them to her home?
I would be scarlet but delighted to get flowers at work, but on speaking to some colleagues about this very thing, I was surprised how many of them would be annoyed. Sending them to her home is safer, but arranging a proper date for when you get back is a better idea I think. You can pull out all the stops then.

Dreamer 7

As long as I was interested in the guy sending them, I would be chuffed to have flowers delivered to work or home for that matter. Maybe work would b better as sending them to her house may be a bit stalkerish???? Depends on the situation I suppose but it will tell her u are thinking of her even though you can't be there with her

chuci

id love to get flowers id prob pretent to be mortified but underneath it all id be going woohooo but thats just me few people dont like these public displays. i think its a lovely idea

Owen

Any time I've sent flowers to her work, she's been delighted. Work away OP!

NextSteps

I'd be bowled over. Do it!

little miss

I think its a really sweet gesture. Go for it! Nice to see there are some romantics still out there...

hot fuss

My boyfriend has sent flowers to me at work out of the blue and I have loved it.. it's a great thing to do - go for it!

simu

I wouldn't like it tbh. All your co-workers would know about it and might go on about it. Although, I don't like flowers anyays so maybe I just don't get the whole romance thing.

The Corinthian

flowerpower wrote:

Were not seeing each other. Just "sniffing about ech other cinema, dinner. We havent even kissed.

Could you expand on this please?

Izzyone

Do it, do it, do it.... I love getting flowers. I once got Flowers, champagne, and chocolates sent to me in work. It was my birthday and I didnt expect anything because my boyfriend ( who is now my husband) was bringing me to Turkey. I was so delighted.;)

Firewalkwithme

Izzyone wrote:

Do it, do it, do it.... I love getting flowers. I once got Flowers, champagne, and chocolates sent to me in work. It was my birthday and I didnt expect anything because my boyfriend ( who is now my husband) was bringing me to Turkey. I was so delighted.;)

Are you trying to tell me something?

Izzyone

Always:p

Pepe LeFrits

If you aren't even going out, do not do it.

0utshined

flowerpower wrote:

Were not seeing each other...We havent even kissed.

Don't do it.

PinkPrincess26

Awww How sweet.......

I think you should defo send them....... It doesnt make a difference that use havent kissed, she's obviously interested if use have been out a couple of times.......

Go for it .....

Does being a gentleman run in the family.... Any brothers:D

Kell

flowerpower wrote:

So first off to the girls out ther would you be completely mortified if someone did this to you. Could she get in trouble in work, her birthday is this sunday.

Can you answer me something. Do you make any decision on your own or take any risks in order to achieve what you want?

If you want to send flowers, just send the fúcking flowers. You'll find our fairly fast if she likes them or not.

60 posters could tell you "send them. Thats a really nice idea" and she could hate you for it. Thats what you get when you listen to a bunch of strangers on the web instead of doing something for yourself. Nothing.

K-

The Corinthian

PinkPrincess26 wrote:

I think you should defo send them....... It doesnt make a difference that use havent kissed, she's obviously interested if use have been out a couple of times.......

Not necessarily. The OP has given us very little information on the nature of their relationship and even then that would be is perspective which could be completely out of whack with reality.

For all we know she may see him as a platonic friend, an intellectual whore, and view any kind of romantic entanglement as completely alien. Some guys go along with this, hoping that somewhere along the line the woman will come round and reciprocate their feelings for them. Nine times out of ten this is a completely delusional hope.

I would also think that the fact that they've gone out a number of times and not even kissed does make a difference, or more correctly is telling. If they've gone out three, four, five or more times and not even kissed then let's call a spade a spade, they're just friends at best. Nothing more.

And if they're just friends and one of them suddenly makes a significant romantic approach, how will the 'uninterested' party feel and react? That's why this flowers question can't really be answered without further information.

There's a fine line between seduction and stalking, after all.

muppetkiller

I say do it. Even if it doesn't work out you at least showed that you tried.
And 99.9999999 % of women love flowers ...
But maybe send Lillies or a mix ...not roses. It ain't valentines ....Yet

silvine

Kell wrote:

Can you answer me something. Do you make any decision on your own or take any risks in order to achieve what you want?

If you want to send flowers, just send the fúcking flowers. You'll find our fairly fast if she likes them or not.

60 posters could tell you "send them. Thats a really nice idea" and she could hate you for it. Thats what you get when you listen to a bunch of strangers on the web instead of doing something for yourself. Nothing.

K-

For someone who feels so strongly about using internet forums for advice why are you reading/posting in a personals forum?

I personally wouldn't do it - considering you haven't kissed her. But hey, what do you have to lose?

Kell

The Corinthian wrote:

There's a fine line between seduction and stalking, after all.

Horses for courses however. One persons stalker could be aloof for another. Defining the line comes when someone makes a significant move.

Step over it I say. Sitting in the wings waiting for something to happen doesnt sound like a nice place to me.

K-

Kell

silvine wrote:

For someone who feels so strongly about using internet forums for advice why are you reading/posting in a personals forum?

Because its the only bastion that remotely resembles fun on boards these days.

You dont read this particular forum very oft as, if you did, you would know that most of the posts are drivel from people who need an instruction booklet or friendly advice to tie their shoe laces in the morning. These posts dont really require thoughtful input.

There are also some genuinely some serious issues which obviously require tact and niceness. These are worth posting on.

K-

silvine

Kell wrote:

Because its the only bastion that remotely resembles fun on boards these days.

You dont read this particular forum very oft as, if you did, you would know that most of the posts are drivel from people who need an instruction booklet or friendly advice to tie their shoe laces in the morning. These posts dont really require thoughtful input.

There are also some genuinely some serious issues which obviously require tact and niceness. These are worth posting on.

K-

In YOUR opinion they don't require thoughtful input. What is important to one person is not always to another. Surely that is up to the mods to decide? Who are you to label a post drivel?

You say there are some serious issues which are worth posting on. You clearly think this isn't one and yet you posted anyway. Seems to me like you're wasting your time and OPs.

The Corinthian

Kell wrote:

Step over it I say. Sitting in the wings waiting for something to happen doesnt sound like a nice place to me.

Carpe diem and all that, however there is a difference between taking calculated risks and simply taking risks, which can be just as pointless as sitting around and hoping for the best.

Kell

silvine wrote:

In YOUR opinion they don't require thoughtful input. What is important to one person is not always to another. Surely that is up to the mods to decide? Who are you to label a post drivel?

Look, if you have an issue with my posts you can report them. Dont come whining to me. But please, debunk my thinking instead of just objecting to what I say.

silvine wrote:

Seems to me like you're wasting your time and OPs.

Why? The OP asked for advice. I suggested he pull his finger out of his rear and follow his gut rather than kick tyres all day thinking about it. How is that wasting his time? Who are you to decide how I should address the OP??

K-

silvine

Kell wrote:

60 posters could tell you "send them. Thats a really nice idea" and she could hate you for it. Thats what you get when you listen to a bunch of strangers on the web instead of doing something for yourself. Nothing.

K-

That comments seems overly negative and like a rebuke to the OP for putting his dilemma on the forum. If people here are a bunch of strangers who are not worth listening to I'm unclear why YOU bother, beyond your own personal amusement.

You advice was hardly constructive.

I'm not here to report your posts. I'm sure other readers can draw their own conclusions from such negative biased criticisms.

Kell

silvine wrote:

I'm unclear why YOU bother, beyond your own personal amusement.

Perhaps if you read my posts beyond "ooh I dont like his posting style" you would see why I bother.

silvine wrote:

I'm not here to report your posts. I'm sure other readers can draw their own conclusions from such negative biased criticisms.

Um- which bit of

Kell wrote:

Dont come whining to me. But please, debunk my thinking instead of just objecting to what I say.

didnt you get? Again, if you have an issue with my posts, report them.

K-

chump

don't do it

2 reasons

1. it's a shop, it's not the equivalent of sending it to a girls office, where will she put them - on her desk?

2. you're not 'there' yet.

silvine

Kell wrote:

Um- which bit of

K-

All of it. You seem irritated that the OP is taking up your time. His problem seems to piss you off, which is hardly a great position to give advice from.

Wossack

If you havent kissed her yet, I probably wouldnt...

but if you decide to go ahead.. dont get her anything too big, especially if she gets the bus/luas home etc as she'll be cursing you

Nevyn

silvine and Kell any futher off topic posting and ye will both be banned.

roberta c

In an office situation it wouldnt be too bad, but in a shop it could be awkward,esp if she'l have to carry them home!

But on the whole friends Vs. love interest thing... you can give a friend flowers on there birthday too! so it doesnt really matter. I'd say send them to her house, or make sure they'l be delivered at the end of the day

G&T

I think you should send them,
something smallish €20-€25 with a card saying something like,
after sending these flowers I had better get the ride when I get back...........
maybe not those words exactly,good luck.

Just as a matter of interest if some lovin comes your way abroad what will you do?

Pepe LeFrits

muppetkiller wrote:

I say do it. Even if it doesn't work out you at least showed that you tried.

Instead of sending flowers he could just try to kiss her next time he meets up with her, same result.

OP, if she's not interested in you, sending her flowers won't make any difference. If she is interested, it may work to your advantage, or it may backfire as she could very easily find it a bit strange or heavy. You haven't even kissed yet, after all.

If she is the kind of girl who doesn't get that much attention off guys normally, she may be appreciative. If she is the kind of girl that does, she'll probably see it as a little bit desperate and be turned off - Making grand romantic gestures in a relationship is one thing, making them when you (seemingly) don't know her that well and are in a 'friends' situation smacks of desperation.

abi2007

wish somebody would send flowers to my job, just be carefull what you write on the card, everybody will be asking her what did it say and who is it from. Oh and bring her something nice back too.

abi2007

oh and i get loads of attention from guys and i wouldn't see it as desperate... more toughtful.

edanto

Man I think it's a bit soon. It's a cool thing to do for a girl, but by choosing to send them to her at work you would be making it look to her colleagues that there's more going on than there is.

Take it ham and cheesy, bring her a nice flower when you go on a date after you're back from your trip. Or if you do start seeing each other properly a few weeks down the line, you could give her the birthday flowers then! Now, that'd be rosemantic. Flowers, out of the blue!

Oh and hey if you wanna kiss her best get the finger out before she thinks that you've got no cojones!

SarahSassy

No dont do it. Some people like to keep their work and private lives very separate and I would not like to receive flowers at work. Its also too soon.

Treat her to a nice meal or night out but I would hold on on the flowers til after you have kissed.....