Should I just leave this alone?

LegacyUser

Hey. This could be quite a long thread so apologies now, but its quite complicated. Basically, Im 22yo male, single. About 2 years ago, i was attracted to this girl, she was very good friends with one of my friends, but another one of my other friends also really liked her so I left it alone. Basically he got with her for a bit but nothing serious ever happened. I then started seeing a girl, got quite serious but ended last summer. Kinda lost contact with other girl during this time. Met her last week and was txting her for a bit, but just stopped then. Now here is where it gets complicated, she was also quite good friends with my ex, and she is still good friends with my friend. Should I try to take this further?

The problems are:
1. My ex would lose the head if I even tried.
2. My friend who was seeing her would also lose the head if I tried.
3. My other friend who she is friends with would also be a little pissed off with me.

Any advise appreciated, its very complicated and could cause lots of problems with certain people

jellie

it depends on whether or not you think the possible relationship is worth all the trouble it would cause. do you even know if this girl likes you?

LegacyUser

There has always been a bit of flirting between us, nothing major like but not normal for 2 ppl who wouldn't be interested in each other. Dunno if it is worth d hassle, only find that out after

Kell

Unr5556x wrote:

The problems are:
1. My ex would lose the head if I even tried.
2. My friend who was seeing her would also lose the head if I tried.
3. My other friend who she is friends with would also be a little pissed off with me.

If your "friends" react like this, they are not really your friends. Friends are supposed to want the best for you, not to drag you down with limitations. Fúck them and what they think. If you like the girl, go for it.

sar84 wrote:

do you even know if this girl likes you?

Do you kick tyres and pick your nose waiting for someone to inform you if they like you or not before making every decision? WTF has the girl liking you got to do with anything?? Do you wonder if the hot Italian in the pub likes you before you wander over and chat her up???

K-

estar

i really dont see any problem with asking this girl out

your ex is your ex for a reason - you are not compatible
and i don't think that you now owe her anything regarding
your future happiness.

if it was her sister, then maybe it might be a little raw

but really it all sounds a little childish on their behalfs.

my friend went onto to date someone who dated me
for a few dates, and i didnt have a problem. why would I?

i don't own him, and i didnt want to date him.

they will all get over it.............

it would be a whole differnet story if you were the reason she
broke up with your friend

but clearly its all in the past

they would look utterly ridiculous if they had a problem with it
and you would be well justified telling them this.

estar

maybe you need a few more friends from different circles though!!

its all getting a bit incestuous.

if you had a few more groups of friends

it wouldnt matter if one group were a bit annoyed for a while

Marksie

Unr5556x wrote:

The problems are:
1. My ex would lose the head if I even tried.

She is your ex. She had her chance. Tough, its her problem

Unr5556x wrote:

2. My friend who was seeing her would also lose the head if I tried.

He is her ex. He had his chance. Tough its his problem

Unr5556x wrote:

3. My other friend who she is friends with would also be a little pissed off with me.

She is no ones ex. Unless she has designs on you herself, tough, its her problem

Unr5556x wrote:

Any advise appreciated, its very complicated and could cause lots of problems with certain people

Why? and how?

In the end if they are your friends they will accept it.
Life is too short for you not to at least follow up on it.
It does sound a bit incestuous though, try expanding your circle of friends.