erection problem

LegacyUser

here's the situation, I have a massive erection problem. I have tried everything there is, and I can't maintain an erection during sex or even foreplay.

I have been to see the doctor who informed me that it is a side-effect to my current medication.

My gf says she understands my problem, but even she has her needs

This will eventually ruin my relationship, which is going really well if you take away the sex. I am so depressed bout this. Please Help

Wibbs

Is there a possibility that your doctor could prescribe a different drug that would have the same benefits but without the bad side effect?

LegacyUser

I had a period of a few months when my dick just wouldnt work. (In my early 20's)

Even when I was alone it wouldnt work, the more I tried the more stressed out I got.

Me and my girlfriend stopped going to bed to "Have sex", we just went and fooled around whenever the mood caught us.

Over time, and with a few failed attempts along the way things just started working again.

Its nice that your thinking about your girlfriends needs but totally unnecessary (in a nice way). You have needs too, you need her to understand, which she does. If your girlfriend couldnt have sex because of a problem would you get frustrated????? Being paranoid about her needs will just put you in a vicious cricle.

Dont go to bed to have sex, dont organise to have sex. Just fool around with each other whenever the mood is right and try and take it further if you can. Dont worry about things going pear shaped.

Before this relationship I never had any problems. I think I just started thinking about things too much and there was other stressful things in my life. Condoms certainly didnt help either.

Anyway, everything works fine now but still condoms can sometimes still spoil the fun. (Is this a common thing for other men???)

Marksie

won't work wrote:

This will eventually ruin my relationship, which is going really well if you take away the sex. I am so depressed bout this. Please Help

No it wont. For the first part your g/friend is understanding and the second part there is a definite reason for ir vis-a-vis the medication.

I beielve the only reason it will ruin your s*x life is because you will continue to believe it will.

There are many things you both can do which do not involve the maintainence of an erection but which can greatly enhance your lovemaking if not make it even better.

Again, it is down to moving away from a penocentric (or phallocentric) viewpoint.

If you think of "fore"play as a misnomer and use it without the ideal of moving onto anythng else, making it the be all and end all, not only can it last for hours or days but it will greatly enhance both intimacy and pleasure.

LegacyUser

I had this problem, and panicked. I wasnt even in a relationship, but everytime I wanted to have sex "it" didnt work. <snip> cos I was desparate that it wouldn't keep happening. Ejaculating inside someone was even more impossible, I had never cum with a partner, and never thought I would.

I got into a relationship, and the Viagra helped me to have real good sex first time in my life. I continued to use it, and it gave me more and more confidence. Then I ran out and bought <snip> for a couple of moneths... my confidence kept growing, and eventually, I managed to ejaculate inside my girlfriend...!! amazing..

Then eventually I just stoped using them, and now I don't need any of them cos it's all about confidence. The boosters are good to give you a nice start, and you will help you satisfy your partner so you don't feel like so bad about things..

LegacyUser

'Had the same problem myself.. Out of operation and I couldn't keep an erection long enough for an reasonable loving. So off to the doctor and he recommended either Viagra or Ciallis.

Ciallis works far far longer than Viagra, 24-36 hours compared to Viagra 4 or so. Although I never tried Viagra..

Anyway as it worked out I chose the cialis cause it gave more of a scope. Within 30 minutes of taking it any thought or sight of a female gave me a full blown erection. Sometimes it wouldnt go away, i didn't care tho.

Now here the best bit. I only ever needed to take the one and wahtever it was that had knocked my confidence ( stress related I suppose cause of the Oo) dissapeared. Now I dont need it at all.. Althou I have 3 left I will be taking again at some stage for ****s n giggles!!

What a relief to find out that it is now gone. But dude I feel your stress, Nearly drove me crazy. Thought I'd lose my girlfriend over it. Although she was more understanding than I thought.

So if your Doc wont prescribe what you need, go get a second opinion. Hopefully it is nothing more than psychological. So yeah. I recommend a second Doc if need be.

Best of luck.'