Guy getting close to my girlfriend

LegacyUser

I've been with my girlfriend for over 5 years now, and I'm very much in love with her and I trust her. But recently she bumped into this guy at a meeting that she used to know, and she had to ring him for something related to that meeting a few days later.
After this he started just texting her at random times of the day to talk to her and she'd text him back. He also started ringing her.
I asked her to back off a little,to be friends is fine, but not be seeing/texting to him all the time and she blew up at me at first, but afterwards said she would.
Then one morning I got a text message off her saying she she had gone for a run with him before work, and that she wants to do it again. I had told her previously that I'd like to go for walks/runs with her but she didn't seem too interested, and then she had no problem going with him.

I'm very uncomfortable with the situation and I don't know what to think. She says she just wants to be friends with him and that she loves me, but its really hard for me to take this.

Any advice appreciated.

Thanks.

SarahSassy

Its hard to know - it does sounds a bit dodgy. I guess the big give away that she is somewhat interested in him is the pre-work jogging - if she is willing to go with him and not with you. I would sit her down and have a chat about it without coming across as possessive and paranoid. Even if there is nothing in it you deserve to be heard by her. She may alleviate your fears.

Skyuser

Affair Alert !!!!!

Fanny Cradock

She blew up like that because:

A) She was horrified that you would suggest that her behaviour was anything other than friendly

Well, you know...

The fact that she is still seeing the guy after you asked her to back off would, to me, suggests option B, i.e. she seems interested in more than simply a platonic way. Her guilt would explain her reaction. But what do I know?

Maybe you should try and rekindle your passion (assuming it has been lost) with a surprise romantic trip somewhere. Get her mind back on your relationship.

However you decide to handle this situation, you should choose your words carefully! Don't go around making baseless claims.

easyontheeye

how well did she use to know him?? 5 yrs is along time maybe now shes enjoying the alternative male attention he is presenting and she can use the aul "hes a mate" excuse ! certainly i'd be pissed about the jogging , as you have said you have expressed interest in doing it with her. I'd be looking out for any odd behaviour or distractions on her part.

Chinafoot

Fanny Cradock wrote:

The fact that she is still seeing the guy after you asked her to back off would, to me, suggests option B, i.e. she seems interested in more than simply a platonic way.

Tbh he shouldn't have asked her to back off in the first place. What gives him the right to essentially tell his girlfriend to stop talking to this guy? By doing so he's telling her he doesn't trust her.

Why should her friendship with this guy suffer just because her boyfriend is too paranoid to accept it? There'd be no problem if it was a female she was on the phone to.

guestuser wrote:

I've been with my girlfriend for over 5 years now, and I'm very much in love with her and I trust her.

If you trust her then you would have no problem with her being friends with someone, regardless of gender.

As for going for a run with him and not you. You've been together 5 years. Has it even crossed your mind that maybe every now and then she would like to do things by herself or with someone other than you? Maybe she views going for a run in the morning as some time away from you. Sounds very healthy to me. Again, would you have a problem if she was going for a run with a female co-worker? Would you still be offended that she chose to go with her even though you offered? Doubtful.

What this comes down to is your own paranoia and distrust. Perhaps you are right not to trust this guy. Maybe he is only out to get your girlfriend into bed. Then again, maybe he's just a nice bloke that she enjoys talking to and spending time with in a purely platoinic way. Perhaps you could try getting to know this guy before jumping to conclusions.

Even if the guy is after your girlfriend surely its your trust in her that's important. He can't steal her away. He can't make her cheat on you if she doesn't want to. Your girlfriend has told you she only wants a friendship with this guy and she has tried to reassure you that she loves you. If you trust her you'll accept that. If you can't accept it then you don't trust her. Simple.

By telling her to stop seeing and talking to this guy you look controlling, possessive and untrusting. Tbh, it's your girlfriend who should be annoyed here, not you.

Tails142

Blow him out of the water right now, I wouldnt even wait another few minutes.

Ring him up and tell him to back off; make a scene, have a dramatic standoff, do something extremely foolish so he gets the message - sure your girlfriend will probably be in a fowl mood for a while. But what's worse, a moody girlfriend or no girlfriend at all?

Be territorial it's what men are best at, and sub-consciously its what women are looking for.

Send this rat on his way!!

Fanny Cradock

Chinafoot wrote:

What this comes down to is your own paranoia and distrust. Perhaps you are right not to trust this guy. Maybe he is only out to get your girlfriend into bed. Then again, maybe he's just a nice bloke that she enjoys talking to and spending time with in a purely platoinic way. Perhaps you could try getting to know this guy before jumping to conclusions.

You can't call it paranoia if you accept that it is a possibility that this chap does want 'to get her into bed'. But you are right, there is no point in necessarily thinking the worst. Take your time OP, don't do or say anything rash.

dame

Maybe she doesn't want to go running with you because you're very fit and she'd feel she was holding you back or showing herself up, but feels she can keep up with other guy easily enough so feels happier running with him then?

I don't think many people would be happy if their other half told them to back off from contact with a friend.

spurious

"She says she just wants to be friends with him and that she loves me".

She is with you.

You either trust her or you don't.

Sit her down and tell her how you are feeling about this. Do not say you want her to stop seeing him, do not accuse her of anything. She has not done anything wrong. Just explain how it is making you feel.

If you don't trust her though, however unjustly, nothing she says will allay your fears. It's you has to change, not her.

Chinafoot

Fanny Cradock wrote:

You can't call it paranoia if you accept that it is a possibility that this chap does want 'to get her into bed'.

But the thing is, whatever this guy wants from his girlfriend is irrelevant if the OP trusts her which he claims he does.

If he truly trusted her, and you'd like to think after 5 years he would, then why would he tell her to stop texting and seeing this guy?

rebel.ranter

I'd find out if the other lad has a GF already, it might give you more of a clue what his intentions are even if your GF doesn't have the same intentions. How did she know him form the past?
Have you met him with her yet? I wouldn't be too hasty to cause a scene to be honest, like other posters have suggested why don't you sit down with her a tell her what you think about the whole situation. i.e. Not that you are peeved at her contacting this guy but that it's making you feel uncomfortable about the whole relationship all of a sudden. If there is nothing going on she will most likely do something to re-assure you. It is healthy for her to have other company outside of you too BTW.
Talk.

SarahSassy

Guestuser wrote:

Then one morning I got a text message off her saying she she had gone for a run with him before work, and that she wants to do it again.

I think she is trying to get a reaction from you. Has she mentioned to you lately that you havent been paying attention to her or have things gone stale in the relationship??? It looks like she is a bit bored and trying to get some notice from you.

You are obviously not living together. After 5 years has this come up? Have there been discussions about the future of the relationship??? It looks like she is not getting what she wants from you - maybe she has told you up front or maybe not. If not, then this could be her way of telling you.

LegacyUser

I would be offended and majorly pissed off if my girlfriend wouldn't go for runs with me and then went with some random guy. To be honest, it depends what the trend in the relationship has been like all along, if she always had friends with guys etc then no big deal but if she only just picked up this one guy and he is now her friend...i would feel pissed off and slightly concerned, of course I would never show it...always play dumb, don't let her know it bothers you.

Laslo

Under the circumstances, I would ditch her. Sorry to sound so flippant but:

• He is constantly texting and ringing her
• She doesn't want to go for a jog with you but does with him...
• ...after she said she'd back off

It could all be perfectly innocent but, as I say, the circumstances suggest differently. Personally I would use my best judgement in the situation.

empirix

Personally i would be pissed off big time and would have it out with her, run after work etc and doesn't want to with me. Fcuk that -ultimatum time (depending on how well you know her and trust her) but i'd be a bit paronoid she is bouncing up and down on this clowns cock. Has your sex life been affected at all in recent months/years?

judas101

empirix wrote:

i'd be a bit paronoid she is bouncing up and down on this clowns cock.

i'm sure thats exactly not what you wanted to hear but it is the harsh reality i'm afraid.

Flex

From personal experience Id have to say this doesnt look too good. I dont know your gf, but Id be pretty pissed off if all that stuff was going on; ESPECIALLY the part about not wanting to go jogging with you but doing it with him, and I definitely wouldnt be able to simply presume that its all good and innocent harmless 'just friends' stuff. Has she always been the type of person to have male friends?

Smiley012

Well the one thing I can say for her, is that at least she is telling you that they're texting and calling, and that she's going for jogs with him.

However, doesn't mean you should take it lying down. I would still kick up a fuss about it. I've been in this situation and still currently am in a way.

In my situation though, it was a passing interest (not in the sexual attractive sense, just in the ah interesting mate kinda sense) and I was right in the end.

Which, might I add, never happens!

However, look at the pluses and minuses to this situation - she has told u whats going on and not been secretive about it.

However, you need to talk to her about it, and tell her that you feel uncomfortable with this and if the situation was reversed and you were contacting another girl like this, would she be totally cool with it?

I highly doubt it!

Anti

Skyuser wrote:

Affair Alert !!!!!

I completly agree.

MonkeyTennis

from what you told us it looks bad. confront her. Be honest and tell her that it annoys the hell out of you. If she doesnt respond in kind its elbow time. Seriously

Mini

And maybe the whole thing is completely innocent! and just maybe you reacting in a way to suggest something may happen will infact just bring her closer to him and push her away from you.

My advice, leave her to her own devices with him, just let her know that you are there and that you are the better person letting her be friends with him, but remember she will come back to you at the end of it, just when she does come back from running or whatever, let her know that you care.

Then she will be yours. Freak out and react badly and you are driving her away from you and in to his arms.

romance I can't stress it enough !!

Laslo

Mini wrote:

And maybe the whole thing is completely innocent! and just maybe you reacting in a way to suggest something may happen will infact just bring her closer to him and push her away from you.

It would be worth it. She's acting completely inappropriately for a person in a relationship. If the guy was a long-standing friend for the whole course of the relationship then you could see her side of it. But this fellow comes out of nowhere after all these years and all of a sudden, they're bosom buddies again. Sounds fishy to me.

Mini wrote:

My advice, leave her to her own devices with him, just let her know that you are there and that you are the better person letting her be friends with him

Sounds a bit naive to me. Let's say the tables were reversed. Or better yet, let's say YOU were in the situation. Let's say your boyfriend was all of a sudden involved in a very intense friendship with some hot girl who lavished him with interest and who wanted to go jogging with him. Let's say he reciprocated and went jogging on a regular basis with sexy girl. Would you 'be the bigger woman' and happily sit there, waiting for your prince to return to you every day? Or would you accept the reality of the situation and know that the chances are that 1) she has designs on your boyfriend, 2) he has designs on her or 3) they're both consentually planning on f**king each other behind your back?

Mini wrote:

romance I can't stress it enough !!

I can only imagine that what you mean by this is "Being romantic constitutes having complete trust in your girlfriend even when she's acting completely erratically with a total stranger"? That's not romance - that's naivety.

SarahSassy

I totally disagree with you Mini. There is no place for 'softly softly catchy monkey' here. He needs to lay down bounderies... She is not acting appropriately. I guess I just wonder if they both left from separate houses the morning of that jog.....? Her behaviour is at best suspicious and at worst downright infidelity... He needs to know.

Bottle_of_Smoke

The jogging thing could suggest she does like him but doesn't realise it.

You got anyone you can make her jealous with? Might make her realise what she has to lose.

spurious

The issue here is do you trust her?

You obviously don't, so she's probably better off without you.

Mr. Presentable

Go running with them. Show her you're a good sport. If you think she's having extras, and the concensus here is that she is, stay calm, play unsuspecting, and catch her out. There may be nothing to find, so be prepared to be exposed as a bollo**s if she's clean.

grahamo

She's totally disrespecting you. Her 'Friend' is totally disrespecting you. Tell him what you think of him then blow her out!

Laslo

spurious wrote:

The issue here is do you trust her?

You obviously don't, so she's probably better off without you.

What a ridiculous thing to say. Her behavour with a relative stranger of the opposite sex is completely inappropriate for a woman in a relationship. If anything, the OP is better off without her.

spurious

Laslo wrote:

What a ridiculous thing to say. Her behavour with a relative stranger of the opposite sex is completely inappropriate for a woman in a relationship. If anything, the OP is better off without her.

She is going jogging with a friend.
She has told the OP (who 'trusts' her) that there is nothing in it, yet still he goes on about it.

If the OP needs so much control that her friendships are not 'allowed', well then, yes, she is better off out of it.

Laslo

spurious wrote:

She is going jogging with a friend.

Don't you mean 'a guy she used to know' of whom the OP seemed largely unaware? I think to call this 'friend' a complete stranger who has suddenly shown an unhealthy interest in his girlfriend would be more apt.

spurious wrote:

She has told the OP (who 'trusts' her) that there is nothing in it, yet still he goes on about it.

She's taken that trust and she's pi**ed it all away by acting incredibly suspiciously. I wonder could the OP tell us if she has other friends, you know friends that have been around for the last 5 years, that text her and ring her this much? Does she go jogging with them?

To use 'trust' as an excuse for behaving inappropriately is utter crap. You have to earn trust in a relationship.

spurious wrote:

If the OP needs so much control that her friendships are not 'allowed', well then, yes, she is better off out of it.

I'm not saying he should tell her what to do or tell her what's 'allowed'. Don't turn this into a silly debate about male control over women. :rolleyes: The fact is that her behviour is not that of a woman in a serious relationship and I personally feel that he's better off without her.

LegacyUser

'Hmm, well from my experience this could be a rather bad situation. I agree with SarahSassy in that there may be an underlying relationship issue that needs dealing with, certainly you should ask your girlfriend if she feels there is anything missing from your relationship or if she is unhappy.

Now, what I find troubling about your situation is not that your girlfriend is spending time with this fellow, but that she is actively increasing it after you expressed to her that it bothered you. I know that if I were in a similar situation and were a girlfriend of mine to be bothered by me hanging around a new girl, not to mention jogging with her, that I'd try to reassure her and reduce the amount of time I spent with that girl. After all, I'm sure what you're looking for here isn't to tell her she can't have male friends, or even to say she can't have this one, but only to get some reassurance that you and the relationship you have together is more important than her relationship with this guy. To that end her spending less time and having less contact with him would seem a fair comprimise, you're reassured without her having to "give up" a friend for you.

How you approach the subject is pretty important, as has been said earlier a particularly harsh reaction might have the exact opposite effect from what you desire, especially if you have unresolved relationship issues. If I were in your position I'd just be open about how I felt, that the amount of time she spends with this guy makes me uncomfortable, and ask if there is anything more to it, if she's unhappy with the relationship etc...

Essentially, and unfortunately, I believe that there are only two likely explanations for her newfound interest in this guy, neither of them particularly good. Either she's unhappy with the relationship the two of you have, which can most likely be fixed if both of you are willing to admit there's something wrong and address it; or there's nothing wrong with the relationship at all and she just feels herself growing attracted to someone else. I do not at all agree with previous posters who have said that you should trust her more and that you're at fault, frankly that's rubbish, this is a warning sign and one that needs to be addressed as soon as possible. As someone who's been in a similar position, I strongly advise you to sit your girlfirend down and talk calmly with her about how you feel. If you are reasonable and calm she should understand your point of view and agree to "tone down" her relationship with this guy somewhat to put your mind at ease (btw, trying to tell her to never see him again isn't a good idea). If she just gets stroppy with you and complains that you're trying to control her, then I'm afraid that your relationship may be drawing to an end, as if she isn't willing to make a relatively small sacrifice for the sake of your peace of mind, you must ask yourself how much she really cares about you. Hopefully though it's just a warning, and a good talk is all you two need to start sorting it out.

I wish you the best of luck!'

Esel

Try to have a rational conversation with her about how this makes you feel. It is obviously upsetting for you, quite understandably so.

Don't say things like: "I hate it when you text/go jogging with him.....".

Talk about your feelings like this: "When you text/go jogging with him, it makes me feel......". Unwanted, unloved, that you are going off me etc.

I have this picture in my head of horizontal jogging! Will the next thing be having a shower at his place after jogging because it's handier etc.?

IMO there is no such thing as a platonic relationship unless one of the parties is extremely ugly.

Irish_Army01

Anti wrote:

I completly agree.

X2.....contact him and tell him to get the boat....

LegacyUser

'Been there, done that, forget her.....sorry if truth hurts.'

phantom_lord

Skyuser wrote:

Affair Alert !!!!!

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BeardyGit

Sounds like you have a real wiley coyote bitch on your hands OP.

She's giving you everything you need to cause a bad reaction from you and that's just what she needs.

Then, when you act up the way she expects, the way you've started to already, she'll walk away from you.

The best part about it is that she can blame you for being jealous and possessive. She can tell everyone you tried to stop her having friends, and tried to control what she did. All true if taken verbatim by a stranger.... And she'll be able to believe the lie herself, which just makes it so much easier for her.

They'll all blame it on you, and encourage her to dump your ass.

You won't know what hit you....

Wake up OP, the next stops coming up soon, and it's time for this bitch to get off your train......

Laslo

Gil_Dub wrote:

Sounds like you have a real wiley coyote bitch on your hands OP.

She's giving you everything you need to cause a bad reaction from you and that's just what she needs.

Then, when you act up the way she expects, the way you've started to already, she'll walk away from you.

The best part about it is that she can blame you for being jealous and possessive. She can tell everyone you tried to stop her having friends, and tried to control what she did. All true if taken verbatim by a stranger.... And she'll be able to believe the lie herself, which just makes it so much easier for her.

They'll all blame it on you, and encourage her to dump your ass.

You won't know what hit you....

Wake up OP, the next stops coming up soon, and it's time for this bitch to get off your train......

I wouldn't have put it like that, but that's pretty much what you need to do here, OP. The longer you hang around, particularly if you're planning on having it out with her and trying to get to the bottom of this, the worse you can end up looking yourself. She seems to be fairly ice cold with you in this instance (i.e. promising not to see the guy as much and then seeing him more!). My advice would be return the favour - just leave her, don't give her an explanation (she'll know anyway) and just get on with your life. Find someone else. Life's too short for this s**t.

_Kaiser_

Agree with most people here. Definitely seems suspicious and her spending more time with this guy after you already brought it up, is only adding to it.

Sounds like she's setting you up for a fall alright, and in such a way that it'll be your fault too.

Dump her.

Wibbs

Gil_Dub wrote:

The best part about it is that she can blame you for being jealous and possessive. She can tell everyone you tried to stop her having friends, and tried to control what she did. All true if taken verbatim by a stranger.... And she'll be able to believe the lie herself, which just makes it so much easier for her.

Nail on the head. I've had this happen to me many moons ago and I've seen this kind of reasoning quite a bit. The ability of some to convince themselves of scenarios with little or no basis in reality in order to justify their actions or assuage guilt can astound.

They'll all blame it on you, and encourage her to dump your ass.

Oh yes you will be labelled at best the sad git who didn't give her enough attention(which may be the case) or at worst a control freak who wouldn't let her have male friends. Five years is a long time, but if you even sniff the "dear John" talk, run don't walk. If after five years the commitment(probably on both sides) isn't there then you both need to be out of it.

King of Kings

Gil_Dub wrote:

Sounds like you have a real wiley coyote bitch on your hands OP.

She's giving you everything you need to cause a bad reaction from you and that's just what she needs.

Then, when you act up the way she expects, the way you've started to already, she'll walk away from you.

The best part about it is that she can blame you for being jealous and possessive. She can tell everyone you tried to stop her having friends, and tried to control what she did. All true if taken verbatim by a stranger.... And she'll be able to believe the lie herself, which just makes it so much easier for her.

They'll all blame it on you, and encourage her to dump your ass.

You won't know what hit you....

Wake up OP, the next stops coming up soon, and it's time for this bitch to get off your train......

**** me dude. you described my marriage (or ex marriage!!)
rather than be honest with me she behaved so badly I reacted badly (or as expected) and it got to the point where she did leave and claim I was paranoid and controlling - which I was never till the texts, missing in action for weekends started, new male friends that i was never allowed meet etc...

OP - she is behaving badly. If she is not cheating she is not behaving in a correct manner. I'd have it out with her and tell her that you are thinking of ending things if the situation doesn't improve.

TBH you are not happy . The fact you posted here says that the relationship is making you unhappy. Maybe you should thinking about ending it anyway regardless.

LegacyUser

I think I should point out here that this is the internet, and as such you're going to get extreme views. Alot of guys here are coming from a position of being burned, so naturally enough their responce is harsh. However just because other people's relationships have gone down the toilet after this kind of thing doesn't mean yours has to as well. Yeah it could be over, but you don't know that for sure OP and you could still turn things around. What I'm saying is try to keep your head and don't listen to the chorus of "Dump her! Dump her!", communication is the most important thing here, doing something rash could just lead you to have more regrets.

SarahSassy

Not everyone is telling him to dump her and we only have his side of the story here.... Evveryone is telling him to TALK to her again and keep a calm head. It does sound like she is pushing him to get some kind of reaction - whether is the out of control possessive guy or just looking for his attention we dont know....

Dumping after 5 years is drastic but then ask yourself why there is no committment after that length of time.....

LeftVentricle

Gil_Dub wrote:

Sounds like you have a real wiley coyote bitch on your hands OP.

She's giving you everything you need to cause a bad reaction from you and that's just what she needs.

Then, when you act up the way she expects, the way you've started to already, she'll walk away from you.

The best part about it is that she can blame you for being jealous and possessive. She can tell everyone you tried to stop her having friends, and tried to control what she did. All true if taken verbatim by a stranger.... And she'll be able to believe the lie herself, which just makes it so much easier for her.

They'll all blame it on you, and encourage her to dump your ass.

You won't know what hit you....

Wake up OP, the next stops coming up soon, and it's time for this bitch to get off your train......

Man, you hit the nail on the head there. Give this post a serious read OP

event

Laslo wrote:

Under the circumstances, I would ditch her. Sorry to sound so flippant but:

• He is constantly texting and ringing her
• She doesn't want to go for a jog with you but does with him...
• ...after she said she'd back off

It could all be perfectly innocent but, as I say, the circumstances suggest differently. Personally I would use my best judgement in the situation.

christ man, you'd dump your girlfriend of 5 years, cos some guy was texting her and then went running with her?

jesus, i fear for your relationships in later life

there may be something going on, but on the other hand, there may not.

go for a run, meet the chap. Say that if she has a new friend(which may shock some people that have posted here, but people can make new friends), you'd like to meet him. Im sure if you made a new female friend, she'd want to meet her.

keep your cool though, dont fly off the handle, as you have nothing yet

sportswear

Man, you hit the nail on the head there. Give this post a serious read OP

x2


WAtch out. Lie low. Find out all about this fag and how they knew each other. Whats he like. If hes fat and ugly you have nothing to worry about if hes a fine strapping lad Id be worried.

Im going to get slated for this but if i was you Id read her text messages and her emails to make sure.

Chinafoot

event wrote:

christ man, you'd dump your girlfriend of 5 years, cos some guy was texting her and then went running with her?

jesus, i fear for your relationships in later life

there may be something going on, but on the other hand, there may not.

go for a run, meet the chap. Say that if she has a new friend(which may shock some people that have posted here, but people can make new friends), you'd like to meet him. Im sure if you made a new female friend, she'd want to meet her.

keep your cool though, dont fly off the handle, as you have nothing yet

Totally agree.

I'm absolutely amazed at people who say she's "acting inappropriately for someone in a relationship" So once you're in a relationship you can't make any new friends?! Or just friends of the opposite sex? Either way it's utterly ridiculous.

She hasn't done anything wrong. She's made a new friend and went for a jog with him. Big deal! The problem here is the OP's insecurity. There is nothing to suggest that this girl has done anything or has any intention of doing anything.

It doesn't appear that she's tried to hide anythign from the OP. She was honest about the run and she tried to reassure her boyfriend that she loves him and that nothing is going on. Yeah, she's obviously a cheating whore :rolleyes:

If the OP goes in all guns blazing after 5 years together he'll do nothing other than push her away.

As for reading her emails and texts....get a grip for gods sake!

smcelhinney

where's the OP? Has he read any of this? Would hate to think that all this VERY SOUND advice is falling on deaf ears.

event

sportswear wrote:

If hes fat and ugly you have nothing to worry about if hes a fine strapping lad Id be worried.

:rolleyes:

jesus, if he has an attitude like that, maybe thats why she might be having an affair

he should stop her going out too, and maybe place a bug on her, then he'd know definately

BeardyGit

meohmy wrote:

I think I should point out here that this is the internet, and as such you're going to get extreme views. Alot of guys here are coming from a position of being burned, so naturally enough their responce is harsh. However just because other people's relationships have gone down the toilet after this kind of thing doesn't mean yours has to as well. Yeah it could be over, but you don't know that for sure OP and you could still turn things around. What I'm saying is try to keep your head and don't listen to the chorus of "Dump her! Dump her!", communication is the most important thing here, doing something rash could just lead you to have more regrets.

Fair point. Maybe. But I wasn't burned - And it's the first thing I thought of when I read the OP's post. You know what though, the OP's gotta read the signs himself. Does it look to me like she's playing him? Yep, you bet. What do you think there OP, do you think she's taking you for a fool? It's not a pleasant prospect, to consider someone you love is toying with you....But is that what it feels like to you? Well?

Laslo

event wrote:

christ man, you'd dump your girlfriend of 5 years, cos some guy was texting her and then went running with her?

jesus, i fear for your relationships in later life

Did you even read this thread? For God's sake.

What you seem to think the OP is saying:

"My girlfriend is getting texts of some guy and went running with her."

What the OP appears to be saying:

"My girlfriend met some guy that she used to know after many years. Suddenly he's texting her and calling and showing her a little too much interest, even for a friend (I would imagine). She previously declined to come jogging with me. She's now going jogging with this guy. I told her I was uncomfortable with how much attention he was giving her and how she was reciprocating. She said she'd back off. She proceeded to see him even more"

RTFTP (Read The F**king Thread Properly) :rolleyes: