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Men-are they really only after one thing?

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'He is not interested. He gave it a go, you didnt put out so he moved on. Wiping his sim card is an excuse backed up by the fact that he didnt ask for your number.

    Dont waste any more time on him. There are honest guys out there....'


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,294 ✭✭✭Jack B. Badd


    Victor wrote:
    Cooking and cleaning are two separate things.

    :D


  • Posts: 7,542 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 584 ✭✭✭hallelujah


    I'm really depressed about this at the moment. Was out the other night with a few friends. One of these friends was a lad I'd got it on with a few weeks ago. He seemed really into me, was always chatting to me and seemed really nice until I went home with him one night. he took my number the next morning.
    Because i'd known him a while i thought that meant he wanted to see me again, i mean its not like a stranger asking for your number just to be polite. Then he wiped his sim card by accident the next day.
    When i saw him a few days later he explained that was why he didn't text me but he never asked for my number again. We didn't even have full sex that night but he hasn't been the same since.
    He rarely tries to initiate any kind of conversation, basically he used me. I had to get one of my friends to tell him not to be so rude to me and to even look at me. I found out recently he'd been seeing another girl and that he'd asked her out for a drink etc. Then we were all out the other night and he kept going on in front of me about all the girls he wants to score (i think he said the girl he was seeing had stopped calling him but he didn't care). The other lads all joined in about how they just want to score girls and aren't that fussed about relationships. Are all men just after one thing? Does nobody want proper relationships anymore?

    You shouldn't do anything you dont want to OP. Stick to your standards. You seem like a nice girl. PM me!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,341 ✭✭✭✭Chucky the tree


    ^


    here loser, this isnt the dating forum.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 496 ✭✭j0e


    Lol


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,754 ✭✭✭oleras


    ^


    here loser, this isnt the dating forum.


    Linky ? ? :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 831 ✭✭✭Laslo


    Everything a man says you when chatting you up is masked behind the words "I eventually want to have sex with you".
    my 2 cents.

    Mystic Meg strikes again.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    Stick to the original topic. If you have nothing worthwhile to contribute, then don't post.

    dudara


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'similar scenario to original poster.

    was out last week got talking to a guy i vaguely know through friends. kissed, ended up going home with him. absolutely nothing happened at all. NOTHING. (my choice)

    now he gave me his number but never took mine. bit unorthodox? or is it? is that just laziness on his part? do guys give out numbers working on odds of one girl bound to call them?'


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,334 ✭✭✭extra-ordinary_


    He tried it on, didn't get anywhere, so he's moved on. Maybe you can learn from this.
    Next time take your time with whoever it is to find out if they want the same things as you.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,341 ✭✭✭✭Chucky the tree


    'similar scenario to original poster.

    was out last week got talking to a guy i vaguely know through friends. kissed, ended up going home with him. absolutely nothing happened at all. NOTHING. (my choice)

    now he gave me his number but never took mine. bit unorthodox? or is it? is that just laziness on his part? do guys give out numbers working on odds of one girl bound to call them?'



    oh ffs.

    whats the difference between him asking for your number over him giving you his? Dont like it because it puts the ball in your court and you prefer the man too do the chasing?

    Guys give out numbers hoping the girl will ring them sometime. Excact same reason women give guys there number. :rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,294 ✭✭✭Jack B. Badd


    'similar scenario to original poster.

    was out last week got talking to a guy i vaguely know through friends. kissed, ended up going home with him. absolutely nothing happened at all. NOTHING. (my choice)

    now he gave me his number but never took mine. bit unorthodox? or is it? is that just laziness on his part? do guys give out numbers working on odds of one girl bound to call them?'

    Did you offer him your number? Personally, I'd be more inclined to give someone my number than ask for theirs as I find asking outright for someone's number to be a bit more intrusive. And so what if he's landed the ball in your court? These days women are "liberated" apparently...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 267 ✭✭joeybloggs


    To answer your question. No were not all like that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    OP- I only read your posts. One thing sticks out like a sore thumb. Why the fúck havent you asked him what the lie of the land is? Put him on the spot and let him tell you a) he is interested or b) it was a one nighter and he doesnt really give a flying fúck about going any further.

    It seems to me that you are not prepared for b) so you wander around trying to figure out his motives as opposed to taking a deep breath and finding out one way or the other. Then you come on here and ask us to figure out his motives for you.

    Why not just ask him and figure them out yourself? Is it that hard? Pfft.

    But to answer your original question, no we are not just after one thing, but all roads lead to Rome you know.

    K-


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 339 ✭✭little lady


    Depending on the age some guys can be after one thing. The younger the guy the more likely is that he is only after one thing but the older and more mature they become the more likely they are to realise that there are more important things to a relationship and to life than sex. Saying that physical intimacy is an important part of a relationship.

    If you want to know if this guy is interested in you ask him, but ask him to his face while you are both on your own. Unfortunately from what you have said in your post I would say that he is not interested; but the only way you will know for definite and probably the only think that will put your mind to rest is to ask him directly.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,312 ✭✭✭rediguana


    Many, if not all, men really ARE after only one thing.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,967 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    ...and what's that? Please do enlighten us, oh lord of the sweeping comments :rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    Oh ffs.

    If a guy likes a girl he'll ask her out. And taking her home and making out is opportunity enough. The only time I didn't ask a girl out I liked was when I thought she was out of my league.

    In my opinion he blew you off.


  • Hosted Moderators Posts: 10,661 ✭✭✭✭John Mason


    love, all men are after what they can get.....thats why you dont give it to them on the first night


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,764 ✭✭✭DeadParrot


    SetantaL wrote:
    In my opinion he blew you off.

    Must...Resist....Urge....

    Anyway, you are both in your early 20s and should be capable of at least talking to each other about this.
    OP, ask him what the story is, but from the sound of it, expect the 'dont want to ruin our friendship' speech. After that, its up to you to decide if you want to risk the friendship pursuing something that may be better, may be worse.

    Number 2.

    He gave you his number? Call him, text him, take 10 seconds out of your life and find out if the confusion and frustration you are feeling is worth it.
    Anyway, random snog seems to be all that happened so hats to lose?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23 crazy2000


    for your own sake and to avoid you getting any more gutted reactions, I think the best option here is to stay away from this guy.. he is obviously a player and only wants girls that dont want him.. he sounds to me like he enjoys the challenge of chatting up girls and once he has them he no longer is confronted with that challenge and therfore is not interested in them no more..

    it sounds to me like he knows that u are interested in him and therfore is not that interested in you at the moment... I reckon if you start acting like you dont like him anymore and are no longer interesed in him he will want the challenge of pursuading you back to liking him etc..

    no good will come out of this situation, best advice is to cut all loose ties with this chap.. b4 u really get hurt and do something stupid you might regret...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Dead parrot, i can't text him because i don't have his number.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,294 ✭✭✭Jack B. Badd


    crazy2000 wrote:
    it sounds to me like he knows that u are interested in him and therfore is not that interested in you at the moment... I reckon if you start acting like you dont like him anymore and are no longer interesed in him he will want the challenge of pursuading you back to liking him etc..

    Ah mind games...the mature option :rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'actually think dead parrot meant me.

    look op forget about this guy. I bet as soon as he sees you with someone else he'll be all interested which is a sure sign to walk away fast until he grows up.

    The last thing you want to do is chase him, back off, let him come to you.'


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,312 ✭✭✭rediguana


    Zulu wrote:
    ...and what's that? Please do enlighten us, oh lord of the sweeping comments :rolleyes:

    Your comment was just like something your avatar might say. Pretty impressive.

    Anyway, don't make me spell it out.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    He pretty much blanked me yesterday after being friendly the previous time I'd bumped into him, oh I don't know.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
    Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
    Have a nice day.
    Thaedydal


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,312 ✭✭✭rediguana


    If that's aimed at me, I originally posted my fifteen cents worth on the OP's query. My last post just responded to someone's comment on that.

    I haven't read the charter, I admit.


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