Is it ok to sleep with someone on the first date?

orchidsrpretty

i was just wondering what people think about sleeping with someone on the first date, or does it make then think you are cheap and only good for one-night stands. i'd love to hear people opinions on this!:D

Kinetic^

Meh......only if she got down on all fours and begged me tbh.

iwincosimcool

i think it's naughty and non cool. 3rd time is the best time for everyones hapiness to suffice

I don't know what I'd think, depends on the person

Probably respect them more if they make you work for it.

runswithascript

You can do it put your back in to it.

BoozyBabe

If a fella looked for sex on our 1st date, firstly:- he wouldn't get it, & secondly, he wouldn't get a second date.

I'd assume he's only after his bit, & not interested in me.

Someone who's interested enough in me to want to get into a long term relationship, will be interested enough to wait a while before getting the goods.

But then maybe I'm not the one to ask. I've never had a one night stand!!!!

EDIT: Shouldn't you make this into a pole? (Excuse the pun)

cold_filter

depends on the girl ideally it'd be great cos you get sex but then you think "shes a bit slutty" and then you start to think "should i bother taking this further"

funk-you

Makes f*ck all difference if you think you'll still get on in the morning.

-Funk

Kinetic^

BoozyBabe wrote:

If a fella looked for sex on our 1st date, firstly:- he wouldn't get it, & secondly, he wouldn't get a second date.

I'd assume he's only after his bit, & not interested in me.

Someone who's interested enough in me to want to get into a long term relationship, will be interested enough to wait a while before getting the goods.

Everyone is after their bit.......the fact that he choose you over everybody else should make you feel special.

BoozyBabe

Kenny 5 wrote:

Everyone is after their bit.......the fact that he choose you over everybody else should make you feel special.

Yea, real special!!!!

runswithascript

Ith do bhéal?

Fantastic Kaz

Nope, its cheap. If a guy even suggested it i'd be gone!

po0k

funk-you wrote:

Makes f*ck all difference if you think you'll still get on in the morning.

-Funk

QFT

Nevyn

Only you can make that decison for yourslef.

cheeky_guy

Surely any bloke who gets offered sex by a good looking woman is not going to turn it down, because i certainly would'nt. And if you think its slutty and you think shes a slut, why would that stop you sleeping with her, when you can just turn around the next morning and tell her 'Get dressed luv, your taxi's outside'! LOl

Fine looking hottie: Come back to my place and shag me silly
Edit: Sad Wierd Bloke: Oh your so cheap and slutty!! I think im just going to go home!! (alone) Hahahahahhaha!!!

runswithascript

Truth be told if I'm out with her I really want to sleep with her but if she let me on the first date I'd lose all respect for her.

justsomebloke

it depends on how good looking you are without the beer goggles on

runswithascript

dusf wrote:

Truth be told if I'm out with her I really want to sleep with her but if she let me on the first date I'd lose all respect for her.

cheeky_guy wrote:

Surely any bloke who gets offered sex by a good looking woman is not going to turn it down

Of course not but she'd still be a slag.

dusf

dusf wrote:

Truth be told if I'm out with her I really want to sleep with her but if she let me on the first date I'd lose all respect for her.

What do you mean "let you"? Why aren't you letting her sleep with you instead?

humanji

Not necessarily. I once met a girl for lunch and we kept talking from 1pm to 1 am. By the end of the night we were all over each other (and neither of use had been drinking). We ended up sleeping with each other and then were going out for some time afterwards. We never lost respect for each other and never will. You can get caught up in the moment and not be a slut.

anniehoo

I honestly dont think theres a rule for this one! If ya have to ask the question at all means that sleeping with someone on the first date wouldnt sit comfortably with you. Ive a friend who slept with her bloke on their first date, theyve been together 5 years now and bought a house! They were both comfortable with themselves and she didnt beat herself up over what he thought of her afterwards! Everyones different, so if you want to sleep with anyone on a first date, go for it!!!

A mate of mine was out on date the other night, now she's had the odd one night thing but had no expectation's other to see how it went and she's generally a 2nd or 3rd date kind of girl anyway.


The guy wasn't doing himself any favour’s as the night went on
After bringing her for a meal, he kissed her outside the place in the street and proceeded to kiss her and grope her tits like he was 14 when she pushed him away and asked him how old he actually was (meant as a sarcastic statement as in wtf do you think your doing touching me like that in public)

Then as they were getting into his car he asked her did she take it up the ass
Needless to say she asked to be dropped home straight away

i was in bit's laughing as i heard this as my mate said the guy was hot she would probably went back to his (as she’s not looking for a boyfriend)... had he not acted like the prize idiot

I think it depends on the date in question and whether you knew the person before the date or not as in how comfortable you feel around them
If it's someone you've picked up and arranged to see during the week then no wait until you've had a couple of date's but depends what your looking for tbh

petes

humanji wrote:

Not necessarily. I once met a girl for lunch and we kept talking from 1pm to 1 pm.

Thats some lunch.

melekalikimaka

petes wrote:

Thats some lunch.

yeah they probably 'ate out'

Nala

How far would a girl have to go with you on the first date before you thought she was a slag? What if you were friends and you just got it on one night? Is she still a slag to sleep with you then even though she knows you?

runswithascript

bluewolf wrote:

What do you mean "let you"? Why aren't you letting her sleep with you instead?

LOL, good point. Probably because most women use sex as a weapon.

humanji wrote:

Not necessarily. I once met a girl for lunch and we kept talking from 1pm to 1 pm.

Less than a minute? You must be sh!t hot smooth, bro

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Then as they were getting into his car he asked her did she take it up the ass
Needless to say she asked to be dropped home straight away

Classic

melekalikimaka

if its a friend unless its a few date, slag also imo...well slag is harsh, i'd consider her easy, and thats not a nice trait in a lass. do girls actually think 'no no just 2 more dates' when with guys on dates? pretty sure its my third or fourth tonight <checks wallet for ...consumables>

Kinetic^

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Then as they were getting into his car he asked her did she take it up the ass
Needless to say she asked to be dropped home straight away

So she liked it up the cadburys canal so much she couldn't wait and went straight to her place.....noice!!!!

melekalikimaka

melekalikimaka wrote:

if its a friend unless its a few date, slag also imo...well slag is harsh, i'd consider her easy, and thats not a nice trait in a lass.

But it is in a lad...?

Marksie

Damn double standards at times here. So you two sleep together on the first date and she is automatically a slag according to some of the guys. Phhht.

It depends on the dynamic between the two involved and what both are comfortable with.

It depends on so many factors certainly I wouldn't lose respect, neither would i push an issue. It would in the end be a mutual decision to sleep together or not.

runswithascript

Nala wrote:

Is she still a slag to sleep with you then even though she knows you?

No, that's different.

Kenny 5 wrote:

So she liked it up the cadburys canal so much she couldn't wait and went straight to her place.....noice!!!!

Where my nigga at? There my nigga

I don't know why all these hoes are getting their nickers in a twist over guys calling slags slags, it's not like we'd do it to their face and we'd probably let her ride the stick the next weekend too.

Nala

Whatever about if she's a stranger, then if she sleeps with you the first night she is a slag, but if she's someone you've known for a while she isnt.

Tak3n

hell yeh!

runswithascript

bluewolf wrote:

But it is in a lad...?

Quite, it's very admirable amongst men, don't you know any brothers? I'm not saying this is fair it's just the status quo.

dusf

dusf wrote:

LOL, good point. Probably because most women use sex as a weapon.



Less than a minute? You must be sh!t hot smooth, bro



Classic

NOT what I meant

melekalikimaka

bluewolf wrote:

But it is in a lad...?

playa

Nevyn

The usually young male rubbish about how they would want a girl to put out but then would revivle them.

Or is it that women who know what they want scare them ?

humbert

I've slept with strong, intelligent, women on the first night and haven't respected them any less. If it feels right why on earth not? Sex isn't wrong you know!!

Dragan

Thaedydal wrote:

The usually young male rubbish about how they would want a girl to put out but then would revivle them.

Or is it that women who know what they want scare them ?

I'll go for option B. When i was younger it scared the crap out of me. Dudes and there false bravado about sex always amuses me. Easy enough to feel like the real deal after a few drunken fumbles, then you hook up with a lass who know's what she wants..... always an education.

Marksie

Thaedydal wrote:

The usually young male rubbish about how they would want a girl to put out but then would revivle them.

Or is it that women who know what they want scare them ?

Both. Showing an average maturity age about the same as my shoe size.
Plus the very real possibility that they are not the ones being in that position so its just jealousy.

DUSF:
If that is really your attitude and not just either a troll, 12 or still a virgin, then you are in for one very very sad life indeed.

The number of times that guys have whined and moaned when their girls haven't "put out", then you wonder why.
Then they moan that the girls are uptight... you wonder why
Then they moan that they are "boring" .. you wonder why.

Of course all the guys here are superb lovers,, not just members of the pump and squirt brigade who wouldnt know one end of a woman from the other.

and of course all women are virgins for them and suddenly when they do "put out" turn into porno supervixens as if by magic.

Heads up own arses i think the term is

runswithascript

marksuttonie wrote:

DUSF:
If that is really your attitude and not just either a troll, 12 or still a virgin, then you are in for one very very sad life indeed.

Jesus man, grow a pair already. I'm just saying what alot of other guys are thinking and not saying, oh no wait they are saying it too. Look I don't think it's fair it's just the status quo. What is it your period or something?

Marksie

dusf wrote:

Jesus man, grow a pair already. I'm just saying what alot of other guys are thinking and not saying, oh no wait they are saying it too. Look I don't think it's fair it's just the status quo. What is it your period or something?

Oh do grow up!

I always advocated that masturbation was healthy, but now i see that doing it too much leads to serious damage.

Nevyn

And it will never change while people spout such rubbish esp if they do not beleive it.

Marksie

Thaedydal wrote:

And it will never change while people spout such rubbish esp if they do not beleive it.

of course there is a fourth possibility we have not considered about the attitude.
and that is, the lady in question having spent one night, has no intention of wasting her time with a second night. it is there for an ego defense mechanism

Nevyn

True but idiots who thing that way are usually so closed minded they are so bad in the sack as to make it not wroth the effort.

runswithascript

ho ho ho, oh the ironing.

Marksie

dusf wrote:

the ironing.

Probably not something you see as suitable for men i guess.

Oh and one thing:

dusf wrote:

grow a pair already

and

dusf wrote:

What is it your period

are not compatible withing the same individual, i suggest you check up on basic human physiology, it may help you if you get lucky in the future.

runswithascript

Thanks for the tip, Mary.

faceman

Everybody does it. Sex is good.

biko

Of course it's ok. Come back to my place and we'll have a glass of wine and talk about it.