Drinking in Bars Alone

MementoMori

I was wondering what people thought of someone drinking in bars/pubs alone?

BrandonBlock

I think if your about 70 and its your local bar then yeah its grand, but if young people are doing it thats sad.

445279.ie

Spent 2 weeks of every month in Dublin alone a couple of years ago and used to go to the pub alone. Never had a problem (and I'm a girl!!!)

Can't see the problem with it really.

runswithascript

I think it's kind of sad, not sad mind in the throw-a-bar-stool-at-that-sad-git-way, sad in the hope-he-doesn't-go-home-and-kill-himself way. Why were you out on an adventure tonight, lone ranger?

I've drank alone at home far too many times which is probably worse.

Alessandra

I've done it in Germany. Great way to meet people and settle into a new town tbh. So long as it isn't your only source of meeting people and you aren't an alcoholic...

Red Hand

I can't see the attraction. Guess I'm not that socialable?

runswithascript

Jeremiah 16:1 wrote:

I can't see the attraction. Guess I'm not that socialable?

Oh the ironing

monkeyfudge

You're never alone if you have an imaginary monkey as your best friend.

We go drinking all the time.

It's not weird or anything.

445279.ie

monkeyfudge wrote:

You're never alone if you have an imaginary monkey as your best friend.

We go drinking all the time.

It's not weird or anything.

Maybe that's only funny cos I'm drinking alone at home at the moment!!

deecom

Nothing wrong with it at all, a quick pint a chat with random people seems fine to me, in Ljubljana i did it all the time people in this country seem to have a problem with it. In some ways i miss the bar culture of europe, love Ireland and all, but people have set ideas of what going out here is. Just my 2 cents, off to Frankfurt at the weekend can't wait!!

runswithascript

I don't think he's talking about just one pint though.

deecom

Well maybe its a culture problem then, the binge culture. TBH i'd watch a football match or rugby (have got really into it!!) and have 2 drinks, 3 max. I don't see a problem or think its weird to do that.

445279.ie

me too. Go out and watch a match and have a pint per half

JIZZLORD

if you're of the certain age where you know most of the people who freqent the place it;s grand but i'd never go and do this. even when i'm in the pub by myself for a few min before my friends arive i always feel nervous and paranoid that people would think i'm odd or something.

Kold

Sometimes when I need to get outta the studio I take a sketchpad down to a bar and have a pint for meself. Never really do it past 8 or 9 when people start coming in.

The Hill Billy

There's nothing like the peace & quiet of sitting on a high stool for an afternoon with just a few pints & the day's papers for company. (Bar must be quiet though.) Perfect chill out time.

I also wouldn't be averse to going into a busy bar of an evening & doing the same if I just fancied a couple of drinks & my own company.

petes

Nothing wrong with a few pints in your own company.

robinph

The issue of people feeling weird about going to a bar alone is more to do with the type of bar that you are going to than anything else. Some are perfectly OK to sit in for hours chatting away to whoever happens to pass you by or reading the paper in peace. If your trying to head out by yourself to a crowded pub with loud music blaring though then it's a different matter.

stovelid

I really like watching a game or having a pint in the afternoon with a book or paper sometimes. I wouldn't really stay out for more than a few by myself though.

JohnK

I dont see the problem with it but maybe thats cause I do it myself

JayRoc

MementoMori wrote:

I was wondering what people thought of someone drinking in bars/pubs alone?

I'd often have a few pints in the local on my own with a paper or a book, but it'd generally be during the day, and I don't think that's really what you're talking about?

I'd say sitting at a bar all night drinking alone with nothing to read would be a bit weird, all right, but I guess a lot of it depends on the type of bar

petes

robinph wrote:

The issue of people feeling weird about going to a bar alone is more to do with the type of bar that you are going to than anything else. Some are perfectly OK to sit in for hours chatting away to whoever happens to pass you by or reading the paper in peace. If your trying to head out by yourself to a crowded pub with loud music blaring though then it's a different matter.

Thats exactly it.

runswithascript

What about guys that hang out at the strip joint all the time by themselves? We've all got a friend like that, they go there for lunch, they're eating at the strip joint, they leave the strip joint, go home to their wives smelling of greasy strip joint food and greasy women - is that weird?

r3nu4l

I remember one summers evening I was sitting alone, drinking a pint in 'Howl at the Moon'. I was actually waiting for my girlfriend and her work colleagues at the time but because I was waiting over 30 minutes at this stage, I guess it appeared that I was drinking alone/ on my own.

So, after a while a girl approached me and asked if I would like to sit with her and her friends (all ladies). I thought to myself, damnmit, if only I'd known when I was a single man that drinkning alone in a bar can make hot women approach you, I'd have been drinking alone every night

Of course, I thanked her and told her she was very kind but I was waiting for someone

Mossy Monk

nothing wrong with it

petes

dusf wrote:

We've all got a friend like that,

I don't.

Hail 2 Da Chimp

dusf wrote:

What about guys that hang out at the strip joint all the time by themselves? We've all got a friend like that, they go there for lunch, they're eating at the strip joint, they leave the strip joint, go home to their wives smelling of greasy strip joint food and greasy women - is that weird?

Whoa whoa! Lets not say something we'll regret!

Unpossible

petes wrote:

I don't.

sounds like you might be that guy for your group of friends so

dusf wrote:

they go there for lunch, they're eating at the strip joint, they leave the strip joint, go home to their wives smelling of greasy strip joint food and greasy women - is that weird?

Sounds like a classy guy

BoozyBabe

It's something I notice if I'm out & see someone sitting alone.
I don't particular think it's sorrowful or anything, I just think it takes a bit of courage to do it, as I never could

I'd feel everyone's watching me for being a loner!!!

I also wonder what the point is.
But I guess that's prob because I only drink to socialise, I'd never think of drinking otherwise, so if I've no one to talk to in a pub, I don't see the reason for me being there.

I suppose others are different though.

runswithascript

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2e9pBuR-e8

Chris Rock on strip joint addicted guys.

petes

Unpossible wrote:

sounds like you might be that guy for your group of friends so

I wish. The amount of money it costs to go in to these places. Have been in one only a couple of times. Mate and I got chucked out once because we didn't want to dance with any of the girls. We just wanted more beer.

crosstownk

Hill Billy wrote:

There's nothing like the peace & quiet of sitting on a high stool for an afternoon with just a few pints & the day's papers for company. (Bar must be quiet though.) Perfect chill out time.

I also wouldn't be averse to going into a busy bar of an evening & doing the same if I just fancied a couple of drinks & my own company.

Yeah totally agree. I'll often slip into the local for a pint or two and read a newspaper - perfect for unwinding.

Oriel

Absolutely nothing wrong with it.
And the poeple who think there is something wrong with it are probably the ones who go out with about 10 mates, get drunk as a poet on payday, then start fights, and end the night off with a punch up in Supermacs.

Dirk Gently

depends on the pub. A quiet pub not full of couples is grand. I've done it loads of times when I was around town on my own and wanted to watch a match or even just read the paper in peace. Will probably be doing it tonight when I sneak off work early to watch the Ireland game. Nothing better than a pint of guinness, a match on the big screen, a sexy bar girlie to flirt with and no one burning the ears off you with their problems.

sioda

Another fully fledged member of the daytime paper pint and maybe even a toastie.

Have no probs sitting in a local bar at night but would feel a little strange in a inner city pub on my own at night

John Mason

there is nothing better then getting the paper and going to a pub, having a few pints reading the paper, with no-one annoying you - pure bliss

Miguel_Sanchez

Ah yeah have a pint by yourself, read the paper, chat with whoever's around and the saunter off into the night with Frank Sinatra music playing on the soundtrack.

"In me you see a man alone
Drinking up Sundays and spending them alone
A man who knows love is seldom what it seems
Only other people's dreams."

marcphisto

sioda wrote:

Another fully fledged member of the daytime paper pint and maybe even a toastie.

Hmmmmmm, one of lifes most simple pleasures

Mrs_Doyle

I don't even like being left alone at the bar while my friend/partner goes to the loo, so I definitely wouldn't go the the pub alone.

Miguel_Sanchez

Mrs_Doyle wrote:

I don't even like being left alone at the bar while my friend/partner goes to the loo, so I definitely wouldn't go the the pub alone.

Jaysus, a psychologist would have a field day with your abandonment issues!

Mrs_Doyle

Jeff_Lebowski wrote:

Jaysus, a psychologist would have a field day with your abandonment issues!

I know. Whenever I am left on my own in a bar I pretend to be totally fascinated by an imaginary text I have just received on my mobile.
I just stare at my phone intensely, praying that no one will come over and talk to me, unless they actually already no me.

boneless

I do it regularly. Pint, crossword... lovely! A person needs peace sometimes and Dublin has some nice qiuet oasis of pubs left! Long may they last.

Oriel

Mrs_Doyle wrote:

I don't even like being left alone at the bar while my friend/partner goes to the loo, so I definitely wouldn't go the the pub alone.

I wouldn't leave me alone with your boobs either.

Kingp35

I dont have Sky Sports in my apartment so if I dont want to go home to the parents house I will go over to the pub to watch the game and I will have two pints, one for each half. I dont see any problem at all. Anyway there are usually a few others in the pub watching the game as well that you can have a drink with.

Sleepy

Perfectly happy to sip a nice pint of plain with the Times or a decent book. Can be a very relaxing way to spend your time and occassionally you'll encounter some interesting people while doing it

John Mason

Mrs_Doyle wrote:

I know. Whenever I am left on my own in a bar I pretend to be totally fascinated by an imaginary text I have just received on my mobile.
I just stare at my phone intensely, praying that no one will come over and talk to me, unless they actually already no me.

get yourself on a plane and head off to back packing around the world for a year by yourself, and you will realise it's other people who make you miserable, that if you are just by yourself you would be so much happier

hullaballoo

I drink in my local on my own a good bit. It helps that I work there too, so if I really need someone to talk to, there's always the staff, or the locals I get on with (some of you will know that "the locals I get on with" includes very few people).

Since I started doing that, I've no problem doing it elsewhere too. You have to sit at the bar though. It's weird if you sit on your own at a table with all the empty seats around it.

The only time I feel sorry for people drinking on their own in a pub is when I know they don't want to be drinking on their own (the ones who check their phone every 3 seconds, and then pretend someone texted them. It's always funny when you see them decide that they're too cool to write back.)

crybaby

never really do it myself, i can sorta understand why people do it though, personally though if i wanted a drink by myself i would prefer just to have it at home although i can defintley see why a married person would do it or someone who lives in a flat with others etc.

Rabies

I work in a bar and now and again when I'm on a break I will go to a bar near by and have a drink and shot. I would know the bar staff so I not really sitting there with no one to talk to.
Although, last saturday night I finished work at 3am instead of the usual 5:30am. So I pulled up a bar stool and had a few drinks and shot or two with the manager. 3hrs later I drunk and doing the stock take. Not sure if my counting was the best but it got done :d First time getting drunk when not out with people....

Agamemnon

Nothing wrong with going for a few pints alone when things are quiet. You're never alone for long anyway - I always chat to the bar staff or meet someone I know.

Borzoi

sioda wrote:

Another fully fledged member of the daytime paper pint and maybe even a toastie.

Bliss on a Saturday afternoon! Her shopping, me enjoying myself