Have I made a mistake?

bragan

I have just accepted a new Job.

I have been living in Dublin for 5 years-four of them, I was in college, and the last one I have been working. I have been living with my partner for a year, and we are very happy together.
I got offered a new job in my home county, up north. Its a good offer - a lot more money(which is very good, considering its much cheaper to live their), and the job is one I have always wanted since I started college. My partner is going to move up when he gets a job.

So life's great, right?

No!
why do I feel so apprehensive about it? I thought i was feeling so anxious and unsure because it was a big decision. But the decision is made, and I'm still not "Happy" about it. I'm scared and anxious. I'm worried I won't like the job. Just because I thought i wanted to do it, doesn't mean I will actually like it. What if I don't like the people, or what if i don't like living in my home town.....

Shouldn't I feel happy? Have i made a mistake? Is it normal to be overcome with fear like this?

aidan_walsh

Its simply apprehension about the change. Of course its normal to be scared when a change of this scale is taking place.

Drift

This is the job you've always wanted and its near home and you've always wanted that too so maybe you're feeling a bit apprehensive because you're afraid that you might not enjoy it as much as you thought you would and if you're not going to enjoy what you saw as your perfect path then you won't know what to do next? (its only an opinion I may be way off)

But my advice to you would be grab the job and move up there and give it a go. Only two things will happen: 1. It'll be all you've dreamed of which means you're sorted ... or 2. It won't be the perfect fairytale in which case you'll just have to do a little thinking and see what you can change to make your life better ... which isn't that big a deal.

I think the way you should look at it is as a great opportunity but even if it doesn't turn out perfect its not the end of the world you'll be able to decide what changes you want to make with a better understanding of what you want from life.

Beruthiel

bragan wrote:

why do I feel so apprehensive about it? I thought i was feeling so anxious and unsure because it was a big decision. But the decision is made, and I'm still not "Happy" about it. I'm scared and anxious. I'm worried I won't like the job. Just because I thought i wanted to do it, doesn't mean I will actually like it. What if I don't like the people, or what if i don't like living in my home town

Calm down!
You're moving out of your comfort zone, always scarey.
Life is all about change, if you don't take the odd risk then the alternative is to stagnate and never move. This could be the best thing to ever happen to you, you won't know that until you try.
If you don't like it, the sky won't fall in and you can always return to Dublin and find another job.
We never regret what we've done, only what we haven't

BoozyBabe

I've always wondered if your username was something to do with your homeland.

If so, howdy neighbour!!!

& if so, living up there isn't all that bad! If it doesn't work out you can always get another job.
Better that than always wondering about what could have been & whether or not it was a missed opportunity!!!!

tbh

bragan wrote:

I have just accepted a new Job.

I have been living in Dublin for 5 years-four of them, I was in college, and the last one I have been working. I have been living with my partner for a year, and we are very happy together.
I got offered a new job in my home county, up north. Its a good offer - a lot more money(which is very good, considering its much cheaper to live their), and the job is one I have always wanted since I started college. My partner is going to move up when he gets a job.

So life's great, right?

No!
why do I feel so apprehensive about it? I thought i was feeling so anxious and unsure because it was a big decision. But the decision is made, and I'm still not "Happy" about it. I'm scared and anxious. I'm worried I won't like the job. Just because I thought i wanted to do it, doesn't mean I will actually like it. What if I don't like the people, or what if i don't like living in my home town.....

Shouldn't I feel happy? Have i made a mistake? Is it normal to be overcome with fear like this?

My job involves me going to lots of different countries and working in lots of different companies with different teams, and everytime I go away somewhere I think "what if they don't like me? what if I can't do the job? what if they ask me loads of questions that I can't answer...etc etc" and you know what? everytime I go away, I have a good time, I really like the people I meet (almost without exception) and I'm always sad to go home. What you are feeling is totally normal, in six months you'll be wondering what all the fuss was about.

bragan

Thanks everyone. I'm starting to feel better about it.

And BoozyBabe, yes, my name is related to where I'm from;)

LundiMardi

i think it's normal.

I just accepted a new job too, more pay, more responsability. Even i'm not sure i made the right decision and it's only 10 minutes away from my current position.

So yeah, i can understand that you'd be apprehensive. But just focus on the positives, more money, better quality of life, doing what you love. It will all work out in the end, and if it doesn't, so what? You're not going to die!!! You can just move back and get another job.

Chill:)