No Feeling

LegacyUser · 18-03-2007 12:21pm #1

When having sex with my girlfriend ( 1st sexual relationship) i get little or no feeling until i cum. She says she enjoys it but i dont feel anything. She is on the pill so no condom involved

Am i weird or what am i doing wrong

wexford12 · 18-03-2007 2:00pm

Sounds a bit strange to be honest that you have no feeling.I do remember i was seeing a girl who was very slim and some positions it would feel very hollow inside dont know why have you ever had sex before or was she the first if you have no feeling if you or her masterbate you i would get it checked

LegacyUser · 18-03-2007 2:09pm

'What i mean is i dont get great pleasure or anything like it from sex.'

wexford12 · 18-03-2007 4:47pm

Oh right so you mean you get no pleasure out of it but you can feel it how old are you dare i say maybe its because its a female your having sex with maybe men would turn you on more and you dont know it yet.And i am been serious lots of men dont know they are gay till later in life .

syberspud · 18-03-2007 5:19pm

No pleasure from sex? That is strange...

limklad · 18-03-2007 8:20pm

syberspud wrote:

No pleasure from sex? That is strange...

Stranger things have happen. Women not enjoying sex :eek: it a bigger issue for them than men.

OP. Good news is that your girlfriend is enjoying it.

Don’t worry, It only your first. I sure there is an answer for it. If you masturbate - Do you get any feelings!!

hunnymonster · 18-03-2007 8:31pm

Sorry, I'm stiil a bit confused. Is it an emotional or physical sensation you're missing.

Stark · 18-03-2007 8:52pm

It's not uncommon for first timers to not enjoy sex. Have yourself and your girlfriend been at it long? As you work on improving the sex, especially giving attention to the whole experience (not just the jackhammer bit

), you should start to enjoy it more. The most important thing is getting yourself in the mood. Pay particular attention to the foreplay. It's very hard to feel physical sensations if you don't feel comfortable, relaxed and "turned on". If you're new to it, feeling comfortable and relaxed will come soon enough with time.

wexford12 wrote:

Oh right so you mean you get no pleasure out of it but you can feel it how old are you dare i say maybe its because its a female your having sex with maybe men would turn you on more and you dont know it yet.And i am been serious lots of men dont know they are gay till later in life .

I was going to say "dare i say maybe its because you'd be more turned on by a much older woman dressed up in stilhettoes walking across your chest while you're strapped to the bedposts wearing nothing but a nappy" but that would be equally unhelpful. Sex is not as black and white as "you had sex with a girl and didn't like it? Then you're not straight".

Wibbs · 18-03-2007 9:13pm

Stark wrote:

It's not uncommon for first timers to not enjoy sex. Have yourself and your girlfriend been at it long? As you work on improving the sex, especially giving attention to the whole experience (not just the jackhammer bit ), you should start to enjoy it more. The most important thing is getting yourself in the mood. Pay particular attention to the foreplay. It's very hard to feel physical sensations if you don't feel comfortable, relaxed and "turned on". If you're new to it, feeling comfortable and relaxed will come soon enough with time.

Couldn't have put it better myself. OP you're obviously having some feeling or you wouldn't be achieving orgasm. The chances are you're missing the nuances of feeling because you're too hyped up. It will get better.

Sex is not as black and white as "you had sex with a girl and didn't like it? Then you're not straight".

Exactly. If that were true then I suspect some of the women I had sex with were lesbians...:D

limklad · 18-03-2007 9:14pm

OP, Ignore the bull ****ters about the Gay comments. They are just having a laugh at your expense and also ignore comments if a guy put his penis your arse and you get an erection. This is because there is pressure on your colon. Get sweeping brush and stick it up there and you get an erection. Just google it, if you do not believe me. Everybody know what turn them on, male, female or both.

I forgot it could be nerves on your part, wanting to satisfy your girlfriend or other physiological reasons. With more experience you know more.

oleras · 19-03-2007 4:56am

limklad wrote:

if a guy put his penis your arse and you get an erection. This is because there is pressure on your colon. Get sweeping brush and stick it up there and you get an erection.

Some sound advice there !!!! :rolleyes:

OP, How is the foreskin dept ?

limklad · 19-03-2007 12:42pm

limklad wrote:

OP, Ignore the bull ****ters about the Gay comments. They are just having a laugh at your expense and also ignore comments if a guy put his penis your arse and you get an erection. This is because there is pressure on your colon.

I was tried when i sent this is should have read:
If a guy put his penis your arse and you get an erection. This is because there is pressure on your prostate allowing you to achieve a erection. Many male survivors of rape though they were gay after the rape as they had a horn during the rape. This led to unfortunate incidents..

Talliesin · 19-03-2007 8:19pm

Yep, the chances of this being about sexual orientation are pretty much zero. If you were gay you'd still have a good chance of enjoying the sensations for precisely the way people have said (if in the opposite way).

And it's extremely common for the first experiences of intercourse to be relatively unenjoyable for men.

Best thing is to build up your repitoire of things you do enjoy apart from intercourse. It's like cross-training, the more you build up experience in one thing the more it helps the other. This tends to be mentioned a lot in terms of how it applies to technique, but it applies to enjoyment also.

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