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Meeting new people

  • 14-03-2007 05:56PM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36


    Hi all,

    I moved to Ireland in September'05 and I am currently living in Navan. I am not people shy at all, but I seem to find it very difficult to meet new people in this country.
    I have noticed some cultural differences, but nothing quite major. But the tiny differences I did find seem to make it impossible to make new friends.. I know friendships take time and all, but people have to start somewhere?

    Joining some sort of course might be start, but I can't find something with people my age...only younger or older (I'm 27).

    Any tips?
    I'd hate to be lonely the rest of my life :o
    And flying back home to meet up with my friends there is getting a bit expensive :D

    Anyways...looking forward to saturday, everybody is friendly on st. patricksday so at least I will have one good day haha

    Thanks


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 166 ✭✭bragan


    You know, there has been so many of these posts over the years, and people always have the same replies - join a club or society, etc. But I have found myself in a similar position, I finished college, all my friends moved away and I was left pretty much on my own, and it's not easy to make new friends. At work there is a set number of people, so not much luck there, clubs and society's - hard to find one to join that interests you or has people your age, going out/Pub/ etc- people would think your strange in that situation. I think when college is over, it is much harder to meet new people. In college, you are constantly meeting new people, and you get used to that. In the work environment, that doesn't happen so often, and a lot of the time the people are older or whatever. it's harder to make new friends than people realize.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 Siska010


    I'm sorry, I know there must have been more posts like this before. But it was also kinda nice to just write the frustration off :o

    And you're right, it is a lot harder then people think. A lot of people have known each other for years, specially in places like Navan and the smaller towns. So, I'm just an outsider trying to get in somewhere, which is obviously not going to happen.

    But I'm not giving up just yet :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 36,634 ✭✭✭✭Ruu_Old


    Theres plenty of Navan people that post in the North East forum. I'm sure someone will have some suggestions for you. Come over and say hello. :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,150 ✭✭✭Floppybits


    Siska, I was in the exact situation you described a few years back when I moved to England with work. I found things were ok when I was in work but after that I was on my own. What I did was I got a part time job in a bar at the weekends. Before I knew it I had loads of friends and had a great time over there and ended up living there for 4 years. You need to do something like that, joining clubs are ok but you only get to go out with those sometimes. But you get a part time job where you can get to meet other people I think you will find it easier to meet people.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 Siska010


    I had a part time job at a community center in Dublin for a little while, but my worse fear came true...even though my English is grand, I didn't understand drunk Irishmen :P hehehe so it was kinda horrible. Funny, but horrible ;)

    I am trying to find a job a the moment, but I seem to be very unlucky.

    Thank you for you reply :) Like I said before: I'm not giving up just yet!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,150 ✭✭✭Floppybits


    I have trouble understand drunk Irish people as well and Im a native.:D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 21 Daithí Locha


    Go salsa dancing, a great way of meeting people!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    Floppybits wrote:
    I have trouble understand drunk Irish people as well and Im a native.:D

    Schorry? I dlidgent geh dat.

    Hmmn, getting to know people in a strange town/country. OP, where are you from, are you male or female and do you socialise with your work colleagues?

    K-


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 Siska010


    Kell wrote:
    Schorry? I dlidgent geh dat.

    Hmmn, getting to know people in a strange town/country. OP, where are you from, are you male or female and do you socialise with your work colleagues?

    K-

    I'm female, originally from Holland, now living in Navan and trying my best to find a job, but didnt find one just yet ..


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    Siska010 wrote:
    I'm female, originally from Holland, now living in Navan and trying my best to find a job, but didnt find one just yet ..

    Hmmn, a truly undesirable place to be, not specifically location wise. Are there any mates here for you at that moment or entirely at home?

    OK slow process and it will be difficult not to come across as desperate, but if you are graced with good looks, as a lot of dutch females are, should not be too much of a problem.

    Go to the more "locally" type pubs in the town and talk to the barman/woman. They in turn "Should" introduce you to people at the bar, obtain numbers and go from there.

    Kinda in a similar way in that I have bought a house in a small town and know no-one. But then again, I am the sort to invite myself to peoples houses armed with bottles of wine, but the previous advice has also worked.

    Or, what are you doing this weekend? ;)

    K*-

    *Messiest hangover yet. My arse has dropped out like a rusted, broken exhaust pipe.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 Siska010


    lol

    thanks for the advice :)
    this weekend: paddy's day! so...me = drunk :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    Siska010 wrote:
    this weekend: paddy's day! so...me = drunk :D

    Thats not what I meant :mad: ;)

    K-


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 Siska010


    I know ;)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,128 ✭✭✭dellas1979


    Why are you in Navan?

    Ok, I mean, why not - im sure its a lovely place, but its not exactly the most centralised place or a bigger place to find jobs....why not go to one of the cities?

    How did you end up in Navan?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    Siska010 wrote:
    I know ;)

    So are we getting a room? :eek:

    K-


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 35 fallout_girl


    plenty of jobs for dutch speakers in Dublin and working for one of the multinationals means you will definitely meet a lot of people.

    I can say that from experience (not irish meself :) ) and i met almost all of the people i know in work or through people i met in work...

    not that i necessarily promote working for multinationals but places like ibm, xerox or ebay/paypal have sports & social clubs through which you can meet people.

    and you also get to have a job at the same time!! :eek:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 Siska010


    Kell wrote:
    So are we getting a room? :eek:

    K-

    Nah, sorry


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 Siska010


    plenty of jobs for dutch speakers in Dublin and working for one of the multinationals means you will definitely meet a lot of people.

    I can say that from experience (not irish meself :) ) and i met almost all of the people i know in work or through people i met in work...

    not that i necessarily promote working for multinationals but places like ibm, xerox or ebay/paypal have sports & social clubs through which you can meet people.

    and you also get to have a job at the same time!! :eek:

    I used to work in Dublin, for a callcenter, but I don't have car and I don't feel like taking the bus up to Dublin every day :/

    Thanks for the advice though :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Why don't you actually move to Dublin? The rent is high a lot of the time but there are places that are quite reasonable too. It just involves a bit of shopping around. You could commute back and forth from Navan until you find a great place. That seems like a lot of hassle but wouldn't it be worth it in the long run? Try Phibsborough/Glasnevin - rents are more reasonable there than down in the southside. And it's on the Navan bus route. I lived in a lovely house in Phibsborough - superb location too - and I was paying €416 per month. That was only last year.
    As for a job: Google is supposed to be a fantastic place to work. And they always seem to be looking for people. They're located off Pearse Street. Bit of a trek from Phibsborough area I know, but not that much of one. Phibsborough's on several bus routes to the southside - in particular the number 13, which would bring you as far as the Merrion Square area, only a short walk from Google.
    Ok, I'm jumping well ahead here and being very specific, but worth considering - don't ya think?

    Anyway, best of luck...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,001 ✭✭✭MojoMaker


    Siska, get the hell out of Navan for starters - it's one of the most depressing towns in Ireland. Move into the city and start having a life rather than just existing.

    What in God's name took you to Navan in the first place???


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36 Siska010


    MojoMaker wrote:
    Siska, get the hell out of Navan for starters - it's one of the most depressing towns in Ireland. Move into the city and start having a life rather than just existing.

    What in God's name took you to Navan in the first place???


    Property prices :D

    And besides that, I'm from a big city myself and I don't really miss Dublin.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,249 ✭✭✭sofireland


    MojoMaker wrote:
    Siska, get the hell out of Navan for starters - it's one of the most depressing towns in Ireland. Move into the city and start having a life rather than just existing.

    What in God's name took you to Navan in the first place???

    Are you speaking from Experience?

    I live in Navan, and find it not as depressing as Dublin. Don't get me wrong i love the city life, but i like Navan, nothing wrong with it in my view.

    It takes time to meet new people in general, Quinn Direct are opening up in Navan this year with their European insurance centre or something so that could be something.


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