Meeting people online

LegacyUser

here's the story:

I have recently contacted someone online, from a legitimate dating website.

we have been talking to each other on msn, and we really get along

The problem, I am faced with is whether she thinks of me as a friend or more.

And the main question is

When do I suggest we meet up?

or do I suggest this.

I do not want to ruin this

louisecm

If you met her on a dating website then I'd be fairly certain she's looking for more than friendship - suggest it. If she says no then you know where you stand and you can either carry on as friends or spend your time looking for someone who is looking for the same thing as you.

LegacyUser

'If you met on a dating site then I'd imagine that's what she was looking to do, meet someone.

I did this about 5 years ago, communicated via MSN for 7 or 8 months and finally she decided to come here from england for a weeks holidays. She relied on me to arrange reasonably cheap accomodation for her and over she came. We had exchanged photo's but had not spoken on the phone or anything.

She came over and we spent the week doing the tourist thing. It was great and we got on great but I think the minute we met in person we both instantly knew there would be no romance.

She was a lovely person, relaxed, funny,was nice looking, had a nice body and had lots of interests but she simply was'nt the type I found sexually attractive and likewise she didnt see me in that light. It was no big deal, neither of us had to spell anything out, you could just feel it or rather the lack of "it"...no spark...no sexual tension...

We enjoyed our week together, she want home to england and we kept in touch over the phone for a few months. Then it petered out as we both met other people and moved on in our lives....

I dont regret meeting her...It was an enjoyable and worthwhile week.

I say meet up with her, give it a try...you have nothing to lose...Who knows? It may be fantastic for you both...'

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Ask her out.

I bet it's very romantic being asked out over MSN aswell.

John Mason

When do I suggest we meet up?

or do I suggest this.


you need to ask her out before she gets bored and someone else asks her out. all you have to say is "do you fancy meeting up for a coffee on saturday"

Ruu_Old

Another question you have to ask yourself is, do you want to be more than friends? It doesn't have to be anything serious the first time around, as irishbird said. Ask her out for coffee or a bite to eat. Good luck with it.