Boyfriend stamina issue

LegacyUser

I have a bit of a dilema. I have been going out with my new boyf for about 4 months. we have a great sex life but i have one complaint. we do loads of diff positions but when hes on top he gets kinda tired and wants to change position. i love when hes on top tho. he is not a overweight or weak or anything so i dont understand why he has little stamina. he is my first real partner - so i dont really have much to compare to - is this common? any tips to help.

d-redser

Maybe he just doesn't like that position and is counting down the minutes untill you change and get into a different one?!

onemanband

Is he resting on his hands when on top? He will find it much less tiring if he rests on his elbows. Also he can stand at the edge of the bed/sofa/table whatever and youre on your back. Also instead of balancing on his toes on the bed he can be on his knees. Much less tiring.

Get a copy of the Kama Sutra and get experimenting.

LegacyUser

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onemanband wrote:

Is he resting on his hands when on top? He will find it much less tiring if he rests on his elbows. Also he can stand at the edge of the bed/sofa/table whatever and youre on your back. Also instead of balancing on his toes on the bed he can be on his knees. Much less tiring.

Get a copy of the Kama Sutra and get experimenting.

he is resting on his hands most of the time and his elbows sometimes. he says it feels great when on top but he just gets tired after a few mins. dunno if he is on the tips of his toes or not - cant see ;-)
thanks for the tip on the edge of the bed - mite try that.

but is it a common thing for fellas to get tired like that?'

warrenaldo

try the end of the bed thing - its very good.

Gordon

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You don't need to keep posting your post - post it once and it goes in a queue for a mod to take a look and approve it. Your post will be approved when a moderator sees it so there's no need to post the same thing twice. Thanks.

biko

tipsplease wrote:

dunno if he is on the tips of his toes or not - cant see ;-)

Made my day that comment!
OT yes, it can be tiring be on top. I find it better to vary lying on top and straightening my back so my upper body is upright, if you know what I mean.

Try sites like snip

randylonghorn

tipsplease wrote:

he is resting on his hands most of the time ....
but is it a common thing for fellas to get tired like that?

Yes.

I was never good at press-ups!

Advice re: elbows, him standing at edge of bed, etc. all sound. Experiment! But experiment in a light-hearted way, rather than getting ultra-serious about it, and making him feel that he is not up to expectations.

Nevyn

That last link had bobbies in it.
try this one http://www.sexualpositionsfree.com/

ferdi

how is your stamina OP?

you better be prepared to get up and grind if you expect him to nail you to the wall.

its all about teamwork, help the guy out any way you can...u gotta make him want to stay on top....do what needs to be done.

Carrigart Exile

ferdi wrote:

how is your stamina OP?

you better be prepared to get up and grind if you expect him to nail you to the wall.

its all about teamwork, help the guy out any way you can...u gotta make him want to stay on top....do what needs to be done.

Gotta agree, why don't you get on top and do some of the work

Miss Fluff

tipsplease wrote:

I have a bit of a dilema. I have been going out with my new boyf for about 4 months. we have a great sex life but i have one complaint. we do loads of diff positions but when hes on top he gets kinda tired and wants to change position. i love when hes on top tho. he is not a overweight or weak or anything so i dont understand why he has little stamina. he is my first real partner - so i dont really have much to compare to - is this common? any tips to help.

Need more info tbh. You say he gets tired being on top. How long for?:p

Either,

a. He's a lazy b0ll0cks and wants you to do the most of the work.

b. You are being sinfully lazy and because you like him being on top you want him to stay there and do the business for as long as possible.

ferdi

there is more than one way he can be on top...he dosnt have to be supporting his whole weight with his arms...get creative.

King of Kings

Miss Fluff wrote:

a. He's a lazy b0ll0cks and wants you to do the most of the work.

my thoughts exactly.
A bloke i cannot imagine saying "Sorry love I'm wrecked you get on top" . he just sounds lazy. After all most guys will jump through hoops at the chance of having sex so he seems to have issues primarily laziness and/or taking you for granted

kraggy

onemanband wrote:

Also instead of balancing on his toes on the bed he can be on his knees.

Who the fook balances on their toes? that'd be excruciating!

Best to balance on knees, elbows and part of his body weight with chest on chest which increase intimacy as well.

And tell him to go to the gym.

Marksie

tipsplease wrote:

I have a bit of a dilema. I have been going out with my new boyf for about 4 months. we have a great sex life but i have one complaint. we do loads of diff positions but when hes on top he gets kinda tired and wants to change position. i love when hes on top tho. he is not a overweight or weak or anything so i dont understand why he has little stamina. he is my first real partner - so i dont really have much to compare to - is this common? any tips to help.

I take it you are meaning missionary position? supporting his wieght on his arms to avoid putting his weight on you, is causing strain. is he actually not tired but may not be the best position for you and him to do in terms of sensation?. Or is it his hips that are getting tired? If as you say you do various poistions, its not uncommon to swith from one two another and back again perhaps going through a sequence and back again..

try putting cushions under you to raise support your back and raise your hips.. it menas he will be able to use his knees tio support himself as he moves as well. THis may take some strain off as well as giving deeper sensations, You could also throw your legs over his shoulders.

Is the issue is strain, let him lie along. then his hands can do other things

if he is getting out of breath, then is he simply just going at one speed,... fast....Fast and hard is only one tiny way of doing things.

try using smaller, slower deep and shallow thrusts. Take it slowly and use some imagination in trying varying the speed and depth.

junior_apollo

King of Kings wrote:

my thoughts exactly.
A bloke i cannot imagine saying "Sorry love I'm wrecked you get on top" . he just sounds lazy. After all most guys will jump through hoops at the chance of having sex so he seems to have issues primarily laziness and/or taking you for granted

Deffinately not true - A lot of guys feel like they need to support their weight with their arms so as not to "crush" the girl [although in reality this aint gonna happen] and although this isnt difficult to do - doing this for 10/15 mintues or more depending on how many times ye do it etc can have ya feeling like you've been to the gym for the last few hours...

I'd have to agree with most of the peoples comments though on raising your position with pillows/cushions, try the end/side of the bed, my favourite has to be the legs over the shoulders though and this will also help him out as although he'll prolly still be using his arms your legs will also be taking some of the weight and you get the added bonus of deeper penetration if your able for it.

Either that or just leave that position until later in the encounter and that way he wont need to keep it up forever either.

cedar

when Im on top,I usually come too quickly(find it most arousing) and like to change poisitions a few times so the sex lasts longer,maybe its just me..

Kell

If you have your hands flat on the bed, it increases the tax on your arms and your arms get fatigued quickly. If you hands are fists, the tendons etc in your arms arent used as much. Have a gander at how his hands are positioned next time he is on top.

K-

wyndham

Try puting your finger somewhere about his person.

junior_apollo

Kell wrote:

Have a gander at how his hands are positioned next time he is on top.

K-

Ya coz the main thing on your mind when your getting rode would be ... "I wonder are his hands out flat or has he properly tightened the muscles in his fore-arms"

PS. If this IS the case then there's a lot more wrong that just the position!!!...

Nevyn

There is not such thing as average whe it comes to sex there are too many varibles.

junior_apollo

Ya... Main consideration... how much has he had to drink... more he drinks longer he can last... can go for bloody days! lol

Kell

junior_apollo wrote:

Ya coz the main thing on your mind when your getting rode would be ... "I wonder are his hands out flat or has he properly tightened the muscles in his fore-arms".

It might just be on your mind if someone has prompted you to look for it.

Would you have looked for the clitoris had one of your mates not told you what fun he had with his missus when you were a spotty teenager?

K-

Nevyn

shellie11 that discussion is not a Pi and woudl be more suited to the S&S forum.

shellie11

Thaedydal wrote:

shellie11 that discussion is not a Pi and woudl be more suited to the S&S forum.

Sorry i was just asking a question

Talliesin

kraggy wrote:

Who the fook balances on their toes? that'd be excruciating!

The effects of the tension in your calves can be quite good. It isn't easy to do for too long though.

Like most posting so far, I'm inclined to suspect that it's a matter of what way he's positioned above you, rather than his being positioned above you.

Does this seem likely, OP?

LegacyUser

Buy him a gym subscription and go together. You wont have any stamina issues then...you'll just be asking him to stop pounding you so hard