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Travelling first time with boyfriend...

  • 06-03-2007 5:49am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I've been going out with a guy for almost 6 months. This is the longest either of us have ever been going out with someone. I mentioned going to asia for a month with a few friends in Sep+ I said to him, I'm not even sure if they'll go etc (did this before+ I ended up going to other places by myself). However, he said 'I'll go with you'. This sort of surprised me.. (yay, he can see us together then).. I'll must mention it again to him some time. I'd love if he went. But I was just wondering, what are people's experiences, with travelling with their boyfriend/ girlfriend for the first time? + I think we're fairly solid... I've never liked anyone so much before. I'm 21, he's 19.


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  • #2
    tbh
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    Traveling stresses out the little fractures in a relationship. If you go together and the relationship survives it doesn't mean that you'll be together forever. However, if you go and break-up, it just means that it was probably going to happen anyway. I know that's probably not hugely helpful, but just my experience. Whatever will happen, will happen. Don't worry too much about it, just try to enjoy it.


  • #3
    HelterSkelter
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    I would not recommend going away with friends and your bf together, especially for your first time to go away with him.


  • #4
    Zambia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,333 ✭✭✭Zambia


    travelling123 wrote:
    I've been going out with a guy for almost 6 months. This is the longest either of us have ever been going out with someone. I mentioned going to asia for a month with a few friends in Sep.

    Its a month , worse that can happen is you break up on route.

    Best is you have a great time

    Lets face it your both quite young , a month of your lives is not gonna ruin you


  • #5
    LegacyUser
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    HelterSkelter wrote:
    I would not recommend going away with friends and your bf together, especially for your first time to go away with him.

    May I ask why you wouldn't recomment it? Thanks (oh+ me+ my bf might be going up the country just for a weekend in a few weeks time, without my friends)

    ... My friends are dead cool... there would prob be 3 at the most... we're all (+my bf) totally laid back+ love the same things... same good music.. adventure... jungle treking, surfing etc... we all get along


  • #6
    Talliesin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,314 ✭✭✭Talliesin


    There aren't that many times you get to go away though. The chances of your friends getting irritated by your boyfriend, your boyfriend getting irritated by your friends, or you getting irritated by either or both because you are in the middle is quite high.

    It's natural to want to go off and be romantic since you're with your bf in a new place.

    It's natural to want to paint the town red because you're with your friends.

    Combining both can be less than easy. All the more so if you haven't had a romantic trip with just the two of you yet.


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  • #7
    HelterSkelter
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,585 ✭✭✭HelterSkelter


    travelling123 wrote:
    May I ask why you wouldn't recomment it?

    People assume that their bf/gf will get along with their friends but people can be very different on holiday, even friends who you think you know well. There is a chance that one or more of your friends will not get along with your bf, or your bf not liking one of them. Or your friends might be jealous you brought him along, or might be pissed off as they don't want a couple tagging along. When I was single I went away with my friends and one of my friends brought his gf. It was a complete disaster, she almost caused a huge split in a group that always got along no problems on holiers.


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