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Lying & Cheating Girlfriend

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,287 ✭✭✭davyjose


    OP, I'm crushed for you mate, I really am. You have to ask yourself can the relationship ever survive with what has happened. I'm assuming not. right, well move on. Walk away, be strong. DO NOT ask her 'why?' Or 'how could you?' Or 'Did you love me.' She must have loved you, but she has problems.
    You don't. Take the pain, suffer, the very worst bit is brief. Enjoy the things you've missed all these years. You are a good guy, and you will get a normal happy functioning relationship one of these days. She ... she may end up with this guy (prepare your head for that - it happened me), she may suffer too, but ultimately until she will not find happiness until she gets fixed. I know it's not always helpful to think in these ways, but in your darkest hours remember ... you WILL come out the cleanest from this. You Win! Good luck mate.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,845 ✭✭✭py2006


    U---known wrote:
    no reason. i pretty much spend all week with her except for work. during the weekends i go home alot since my da died recently and i like being home for my family. This is when i leave her on her own and stuff happens etc etc

    Well that just made the whole thing a hell of a lot worse! Not only is she cheating on you over a period of time she also does it when your comforting your family through a grieving period!

    She really does sound like a great girl! :mad:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,375 ✭✭✭padser


    dont let her guilt trip you into thinking its your fault in any way shape or form. Just put the chin up, tell her it's over....and leave it at that.

    Tough couple of months ahead of you, but will be worth it in the end!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,304 ✭✭✭✭koneko


    So sorry to hear about your dad, this is the last thing you need to be worrying about right now. You were faithful and cared for her and you deserve better than this. At the very least, I'd suggest taking a break for a while so you can think this through on your own, without her giving you puppydog eyes and lying to you to get you to stay and manipulating you into staying, it is a decision only you can make. Best of luck.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 423 ✭✭Petey2006


    U---known wrote:
    no reason. i pretty much spend all week with her except for work. during the weekends i go home alot since my da died recently and i like being home for my family. This is when i leave her on her own and stuff happens etc etc

    Dude, what more of a reason do you need? It's bad enough that she cheated on you. But she did it at a time when you were at home with your recently bereaved family, that's just horrible. As much as you love her, she has shown you little respect in cheating on you. Let her go.

    I've been cheated on before, myself. Not nice at all. But she got an instant dismissal for it.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'had a chat with all my mates last night and i have decided to finish it. There is a good chance that has had been with at least one other guy. It looks like she didn't want to finish with me because of our mutual friends and my family (who she knows really well). I think that I'm going to go head to Australia with one of my mates. Probably in about 2 months (we talked about it last night). i'm starting to get closure on this....'


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,128 ✭✭✭dellas1979


    Fair play to you.

    Yeah - she probably still wanted to be seen as a nice person with your family and mutual friends after all the hurt she caused. Little manipulative, but I see why.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 565 ✭✭✭free2fly


    Best of luck with everything OP. Getting away will help you to heal.


  • Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 35,948 Mod ✭✭✭✭dr.bollocko


    Fair play to you for having a mature attitude about this. You asked her for the truth. You turned to your friends for help, and you figured out an exit strategy.
    OP for president!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 621 ✭✭✭Magic Pips


    Fair play to you for having a mature attitude about this. You asked her for the truth. You turned to your friends for help, and you figured out an exit strategy.
    OP for president!

    agreed, enjoy the new lease of life that you will find soon!:)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,881 ✭✭✭Mighty_Mouse


    It looks like she might be pressing the self destruct button of her relationship
    making excuses for her!!

    If were me. Would completely blank her from my life without explanation for at least 2months. Gives you head space.
    Also If she stays looking to get back after that time then you know she might of meant the bs she's spouting now in a panick.
    If it were me...........then that would be further opportunity to tease her with the prospect of "getting back together"..........before .........another blankety-blank ..........with the postcard of you and a stripper in OZ to say hello!!


    My bet is if its being going on for ages then she's lining up her exit strategy. All you can do now is keep your dignity. A 5 year relationship is a killer to exit. But solely think of whats best for you.

    Also the blankety blank without excuse or explanation will be pretty cruel on her........2 birds one stone. !

    Also man, remember women can lie better than blokes. I actually think some women could pass lie detectors they get so convinced that they're telling the truth.

    You dont want this girl in your life. Ce'st finito!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'Well - U could just roide her for the next couple of months ;
    afterall, 'd baby gravy' has to cum out somehow or other.

    Then - go to Australia and send back some nice
    pics of U with your new Australian g/f.

    Not a bad plan.'


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