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Girls who are taken and they're really close guy friends

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,778 ✭✭✭✭Kold


    I wouldn't overthink it til I had to.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 242 ✭✭planck2


    Lorax wrote:
    If fellas were doing that to my gf id kick their face in tbh, its not a "friends" thing to do, if it was they would do it to their male friends aswell as you..and I bet ya they dont

    excuse me, that type of behaviour is unacceptable in any way shape or form. I would suggest that any condoning of this type of behaviour merits a weeks ban.

    There are some people for whom hugging , holding a friends hand and a kiss on the cheek is
    perfectly normal.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 463 ✭✭greenkittie


    The first time my boyfriend met my best friend (who is male) it was my best friends birthday and i was a little tipsy and a little over excited so i was hugging him and kissing him when we out all night, my boyfriend just took it as normal and didn't complain :) love etc.


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 47,769 CMod ✭✭✭✭Black Swan


    Everyone is different. Talk with your b/f and share your feelings and observations. Find your mutual comfort level.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    Talliesin wrote:
    No, but they automatically fall into the category of someone with whom a relationship with myself (who is prone to express closeness to friends through physical contact) wouldn't work. And vice-versa (they would not be happy being in a relationship with me).

    I would be the same. I am an overtly huggy feely sort of person but I totally agree that if someone doesnt get this, then they are not a keeper in my book.

    K-


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,747 ✭✭✭MikeHoncho


    Strokes different folks for (words jumbled). Find out from your boyfriend where his comfort zone is. If he doesnt like it you can then either decide to respect his wishes or you can decide you are not going to work.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,896 ✭✭✭✭phantom_lord




  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,295 ✭✭✭Acid_Violet


    I'm in exactly the same situation to this extent; two very close male friends (though most of my friends are male anyway), we hug a lot and I'm very touchy feely with one in particular. It's probably quite flirty and we've all liked each other at one stage, mainly at the formings of our friendships, but we're good friends and I trust them with my life.

    I've no problem with it anyway because that's just me, I'm cuddly and flirty to an extent and honestly I think that if you've no ulterior motives and they've no ulterior motives then it's all ok. Many times the friendship between the lad I'm particularly 'comfy' with, so to say, has been brought up and implied as something more by many others, as has happened with the other lad too, but my stance would be very self-assured that there's nothing wrong with what I'm doing. It doesn't affect anyone negatively and if it did I'd be more sensitive about things.

    If YOU PERSONALLY are uncomfortable with it though or doubt their intentions then you know what to do. If it hurts anyone or annoys your boyfriend and you really dislike it then you know what to do.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 45,643 ✭✭✭✭Mr.Nice Guy


    Being touchy-feely is one thing, but repeatedly kissing a woman who is taken seems to me to be behaviour more suited to this guy.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,806 ✭✭✭Lafortezza


    FuzzyLogic wrote:
    Both guys fancy you.
    Yep, the pecks on the cheek , hand holding and so on is them trying to see if there's a chance it's reciprocated. Not much chance of it causing a problem since if they're called on it they just say that they're being affectionate with a platonic friend.

    When girls and guy agree that they are nothing more than just good friends it's the guy who's thinking "good friends unless there's a chance of more."


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