Problem with a Girl

LegacyUser

Ok, this might be a long one,

In July last year, my friend asked me to meet one of her friends. At first I was apprehensive, but I said yeah. Now I'd never met anyone before, and I get easily stressed out, so immediately I started stressing out. We began talking on MSN around then too and became quite good friends in my opinion. My friend who originally asked me, put me asked me to ask her to meet me in October, So I did. And I got an answer of 'OK if ye want' now immediately I was kind of taken back by that, as my friend had told me she really liked me and that she would say yeah. She was with my freind afaik, when she first asked me.

So eventually, we just forgot about that and went back to talking on MSN untill last week when I thought I would ask her to go to the cinema. In october when I asked her I was texting my friend about how to ask her cos I hadnt a clue.

This time I did it by myself and she said yeah, but she said she was very busy atm. I do believe her but, theres an element of doubt in my head, me thinking she is just trying to say no ina nice way.

Is this worth pursuing anymore or should I just settle for friendship, I really really like her and she dead cute. I'm 18 and she's 17, we have never physically met in person, but she works in the shop across from were I work and lives just up the road from me. I find it difficult sometimes to talk to her on MSN for fear of making an a$$ of myself.

What are peoples opinions?

Thank You

dame

What the hell?? If she works in the shop across from where you work then why don't you just pop in there for something on your lunchbreak, have a few words on any topic at all, introduce yourself if necessary. You'll soon find out if she's interested or not! I simply cannot understand why you haven't at least "accidentally" bumped into her at this stage. In my opinion MSN is for long distance....not just across the road at work and down the road at home....how can your friendship be exclusively through MSN when you're so geographically close?

LegacyUser

dame wrote:

What the hell?? If she works in the shop across from where you work then why don't you just pop in there for something on your lunchbreak, have a few words on any topic at all, introduce yourself if necessary. You'll soon find out if she's interested or not! I simply cannot understand why you haven't at least "accidentally" bumped into her at this stage. In my opinion MSN is for long distance....not just across the road at work and down the road at home....how can your friendship be exclusively through MSN when you're so geographically close?

I don't know tbh. I have like seen her about and she's seen me, but we havent talked. At first I didnt know where she lived, os thats whyw e talked on MSN. It sounds easy just going over and taking to her, but it did take 3 months to ask her to meet me and 2 months to get enough courage to ask her to the cinema. I am just very shy and I mean very, I mean I get embarrassed talking to her on MSN sometimes.

cork1

ya what dame said.plus the she can do is say no its def worth a try.

LegacyUser

cork1 wrote:

ya what dame said.plus the she can do is say no its def worth a try.

Yeah but then I could lose the friendship and I dont wanna do that, I'm fairly thin on friends as it is

Xylophonic

dame wrote:

What the hell?? If she works in the shop across from where you work then why don't you just pop in there for something on your lunchbreak, have a few words on any topic at all, introduce yourself if necessary. You'll soon find out if she's interested or not! I simply cannot understand why you haven't at least "accidentally" bumped into her at this stage. In my opinion MSN is for long distance....not just across the road at work and down the road at home....how can your friendship be exclusively through MSN when you're so geographically close?

My reply to this never came through, so I logged back in.

She does work across from me and I have seen her before and shes seen me. we don't know how we've never talked or met if even by accident. Its not that easy to go in to her cos it took me 3 months to ask her to meet me and 2 months to ask to go to the cinema and still do this day i get embarrassed on MSN. I am very very shy.

I am the OP btw!

limklad

Ask her to go to the cinema or for a drink.
She may be nervous too. So Go across the road and ask her out. You will regret it if you don't. If she turn you down you know where you stand and you can start to move on. Also apologies for not contacting her in person sooner. It will show respect to her.
you can do it buddy

dazftw

Honestly you should just go for it! Seriously I liked a girl awhile back and decided what the hell ill just go for it sure and see what happens, 1st time we met up I was soooooooooooo shy and like I stuttered so much but she always just smiled at me and called me lovely...

Anyways long story short I am going out with two months today and I couldn't be happier!

You said you don't want to lose the friendship? Honestly I think if she didn't have any interest in you she would have like blocked you ages ago?

Heres like a key thing that could prove she likes you!! Who talks 1st you or her?

If its her and you haven't confronted her yet, your missing out! SERIOUSLY

GO FOR IT YOU WONT REGRET IT

Black Swan

Problematic wrote:

Is this worth pursuing anymore or should I just settle for friendship, I really really like her and she dead cute. I'm 18 and she's 17, we have never physically met in person, but she works in the shop across from were I work and lives just up the road from me.

Drop in on her and say "hi"...? Chat a bit? Ask her out for a "friendly" coffee or lunch? Progress from there...

Red Alert

A lot of friendship (and by extension relationships) is in my opinion non-verbal communication, like vocal intonation, eye contact etc. I've also friends who I first met online and only later in person, so I know what you mean there about not wanting to lose the friendship you have with her. If you've been honest with her online about everything you have nothing at all to be afraid of - enjoy!

littlesurfer

Op, just go for it. If she says no i have a feeling you'd be able to stay out of her way for a while. But she's probably going to say yes. She knows what you look like if she's seen you around,. she told her friend she liked you, and She's still talking to you on msn.

I can tell you honestly that i've dated some of the more "aesthetically challenged and odd mannered" guys because they were confident enough to ask me out and I find confidence really attractive...

Xylophonic

I'm not in work again, untill Saturday so I could ask her then. i think I will just ask her out for lunch I guess!

sweet-rasmus

yes! even if you manage to to say "hi" and have a little chat in person, there and then. if you can do it on msn, surely you'll manage in person. and if you think she was trying to put you off by saying "busy", she may herself be nervous, or possibly she may be 'taken' at the moment, but i doubt she wants to avoid you; she would have stopped talking to you ages ago on msn if that was the case! good luck