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Problem with my g/f's new friend...

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,161 ✭✭✭af_thefragile


    This thread is back??

    Well for the update, the problem is sorted. My g/f gave out to the guy one day. He was goin on bout how he felt like he wanted her in his pants and all... My g/f had had enuf of it so she gave out to him well calling him a bastard who just wanted to take advantade of girl who doesnt get to see her b/f that often enuf.. and she went on for quite a bit (its been a while, dont exactly remember what she said, but she gave out well).
    After that he got a lil nasty reality check and he stopped hitting on her and its all fine now. Its been quite a while since that happened now. My g/f never flited with him. She just used to stay quite while the dude continued speaking ****. Then one day she finally spoke (after i had to push her a bit to make her realise she cant just stand there and listed to ****, she needs to speak out and tell him to stop).

    Now its all fine. Thanks you guys for yer advice!

    To cailinor, She had to go by the 1st way of humilitaing him... She was serious, she didnt make a joke out of it, neither did she did it in front of the whole class, but the dude was humiliated for a while. Now they still speak and are like friends, but he doesnt hit on her anymore.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,164 ✭✭✭hobochris


    thats good to hear...

    as late as i might be... my two cents on this would have been.. to say to your gf that you trust her but that you dont trust him and are scared of what he might try in your absense...

    the Punch in the mouth thing would be more of a thing if you found out she was cheating or something... i did it once...

    an ex from a while back was out in town with the girls, i went out with the lads... and our paths crossed.. she went to the bar, a guy came up to her, they kissed..i was more angree then hurt.. i walked up punched the guy in the nose(nearly broke my hand)... he fell back.. i took her drink outta her hand and threw it over him.. walked out while she looked on in shock... got back to my mates gaff and deleted her number...She called my phone the next day to explain... i told her "not to call this number again".

    but anyway glad to hear things didnt go that way for you..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,537 ✭✭✭Gyalist


    I've just found this thread and I must admit to smiling wryly as I read it.

    She tested you, and you failed. Don't for one moment think that everything's okay because it will happen again - if not with this guy, it will be another. One of the ploys that women use to manipulate their boyfriend/partner is to put him to compete against another man. She is subconsciously testing you for "alpha male" qualities and you failed.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,161 ✭✭✭af_thefragile


    To hobochris: Thats was pretty ****.
    I trust my g/f a lot. I know she'll never do anything like that to me. She's like only mine! :p And thats one reason why i really like her!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 643 ✭✭✭Beelzebub


    Gyalist wrote:
    I've just found this thread and I must admit to smiling wryly as I read it.

    She tested you, and you failed. Don't for one moment think that everything's okay because it will happen again - if not with this guy, it will be another. One of the ploys that women use to manipulate their boyfriend/partner is to put him to compete against another man. She is subconsciously testing you for "alpha male" qualities and you failed.

    Interesting insight!

    "Then one day she finally spoke (after i had to push her a bit to make her realise she cant just stand there and listed to ****, she needs to speak out and tell him to stop).

    The key here is that you had to push her, she wasn't doing it off her own bat.
    Like she didn't want to do it.
    Hopefully she's changed though and this won't happen again.
    If it was me I would have said something to the guy, made him an offer he couldn't refuse...short of actual violence mind...


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,623 ✭✭✭dame


    Glad to hear it's sorted af_thefragile. Best of luck for the future!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 301 ✭✭Sony


    Gyalist wrote:
    I've just found this thread and I must admit to smiling wryly as I read it.

    She tested you, and you failed. Don't for one moment think that everything's okay because it will happen again - if not with this guy, it will be another. One of the ploys that women use to manipulate their boyfriend/partner is to put him to compete against another man. She is subconsciously testing you for "alpha male" qualities and you failed.


    wow well said:D :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 956 ✭✭✭Mike...


    Shoot him


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,000 ✭✭✭spinandscribble


    Gyalist- dear god, what type of women do you date?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
    Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
    Have a nice day.
    Thaedydal


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,388 ✭✭✭✭r3nu4l


    OP, glad the problem is sorted out, if I were you I'd ignore anything after your own post #32 :)


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