jealous friend

Rockstar*

Hi all, Im 24 and with my girlfriend 5 months-i love her with all my heart already.

Problem is her best friend just wont give me a chance at all, Ive met her a couple of times and she was so rude and unfriendly to me its unreal.Shes made it clear she doesnt want to know me which i cant do anything about so I try not to think about it.

Its starting to affect our relationship now though because shes been putting the guilt trip on my girlfriend for spending time with me and now ANYTIME she asks her to do anything my girlfriend just drops everything to go and do it. Ive been clever enough not to interefere so far but its pissing me off now having this jealous mate always on the scene. It actually feels as though shes competing with me for her affection and while Ive always been in agreement that she should spend as much time as possible with friends this one is taking the piss now.

Does anyone have advice on how to be with her when we meet next? I really would like nothing more than to get on with this friend. I just wish she could be mature enough to be civil with me and even try to get to know me

free2fly

That's a tough one OP. I can understand your frustration. And she is competing for you gf's affection. She's jealous of your relationship. But don't get down to her level. Be polite and civil when you see her. But I would talk to your gf about it if it's bothering you this much.

_blank_

Get one of your mates to score her, then she won't have any reason to be jealous any more.

m_stan

best advice I can give is to beat her with kindness. if you treat her and your g/f nicely, and don't let on how frustrated you are with this your gf will begin to see the issue and how nice and patient you are being. at that point she will either ditch her best mate or deal with the problem with her.

so keep it civil, be nice as pie, and don't give her an excuse to say 'i told you so'. you never know - she might realise that you are a nice guy and that you are no threat to her.

good luck

Rockstar*

Yeah I dont think theres much else I can do, I dont wanna put any pressure on my gf.

It also hurts a bit that her friends wont accept me because I know how important it is and for her sake alone I just want this to happen

Rockstar*

m_stan wrote:

best advice I can give is to beat her with kindness. if you treat her and your g/f nicely, and don't let on how frustrated you are with this your gf will begin to see the issue and how nice and patient you are being. at that point she will either ditch her best mate or deal with the problem with her.

so keep it civil, be nice as pie, and don't give her an excuse to say 'i told you so'. you never know - she might realise that you are a nice guy and that you are no threat to her.

good luck

Good advice-thanks

She's definitly not someone Id like my gf to go for a shoulder to cry on as it stands now either so hopefully there'll be no excuse for that!

This whole situation just sickens me cause Ive waited so long to meet someone I cared for like this again and now that I have , I suddenly have to deal with this immature friend. Its hard enough meeting the friends for the first time let alone having to deal with them making things so hard for you

jdivision

If you've got a best mate get him to come in to meet the three of ye one night. He doesn't have to try and score with her just chat to her, if on the other hand that doesn't work at least you can always talk to him rather than sitting there while they chat away half ignoring you. I was in london a couple of years ago and met my mate's girlfriend, she was lovely and we arranged to go out that night. Unfortunately her surly mate turned up, she had refused pretty much point blank to talk to my mate so he asked me on the qt if I could try and talk to her which i spent the night doing. It was hard work at times and not exactly what I wanted to spend a night in London doing but afterwards they were both really thankful. The surly mate was missing her boyfriend who'd been posted abroad and was basically jealous of seeing other people together. Has your gf's best mate broken up with somebody recently. Could be she's hating men for the moment.

Rockstar*

yes she broke up with someone a while ago but its not that she hates men she just doesnt like it that we're happy as far as I can see and thats why im more than happy to let them spend a lot of time together cause at least thats something she cant moan off about me and I hopefully look better in my girlfriends eyes for it:rolleyes:

Húrin

Again, I'm going to suggest that you try to set this angry lady up with one of your single friends.