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is it really over???

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,193 ✭✭✭[Jackass]


    My ex-girlfriend cheated on me by sleeping with someone. She was on a night out and was supposed to come over to mine after but went home instead...I later found out when i rang her she was really drunk and also found out after the break up that when i was talking to her that night, they were in bed together while she was explaining to me why she couldn't come over.

    :( I loved her, and I know she loved me, but f*ck it, once you're betrayed it'll never be the same again because the seed of doubt is always in your mind.

    Also OP, I don't know if you know what it feels like for someone you care about to do that to you, but I'd rather someone smacked me in the face several times with an iron bar than experience that again. Physical pain dosen't even compare to emotional pain.

    Once you cheat, the relationship is f*cked, end of story.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 10,921 ✭✭✭✭Pigman II


    advice on how he could start to get over this
    Why should he get over it tho?

    He's right to stay rid of you. Do him a favour, stay clear. Stop clinging to some idea that you'll get things back to the way they were just to make yourself feel better and instead let him get on with his life with someone else who's better than yourself.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 126 ✭✭haunted-room


    Nick wrote:
    My ex-girlfriend cheated on me by sleeping with someone. She was on a night out and was supposed to come over to mine after but went home instead...I later found out when i rang her she was really drunk and also found out after the break up that when i was talking to her that night, they were in bed together while she was explaining to me why she couldn't come over.

    :( I loved her, and I know she loved me, but f*ck it, once you're betrayed it'll never be the same again because the seed of doubt is always in your mind.

    Also OP, I don't know if you know what it feels like for someone you care about to do that to you, but I'd rather someone smacked me in the face several times with an iron bar than experience that again. Physical pain dosen't even compare to emotional pain.

    Once you cheat, the relationship is f*cked, end of story.

    Damn!! How could someone lie in bed with the guy she is cheating with and talk to you on the phone at the same time:confused:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,266 ✭✭✭Steyr


    Most guys could probably forgive one transgression, but you transgressed more than once.

    No no no not me, if a GF id that to me she would be out on her arse so quick she would be on fire like the shuttle on re-entry, she was fully aware of what she did yet she did it and not once but more than, no offence OP but if you were my GF and i was this poor chap id have kicked your ass to the kerb half a second after you tellin me, no questions asked, you knew what you did and now you gettin what you deserve..Hoe.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 162 ✭✭dr_funkenstein


    hey

    I was in the EXACT same boat as Nick.. going out with my g/f for 3yrs, was in the process of buying a flat together. i live in the uk but went to dublin for the weekend to see my family, she stayed here and went to a party on the sat night. talked to her on the phone and everything seemed grand. she got drunk and slept with a workmate.

    gutted.

    ah yea, its such a horrible thing to endure and feel. i would not wish it upon anyone. and once its happened, its all over.

    he is right to be rid of you, as nothing good can come of it, especially seeing as you've done it more than once. both of ye should move on.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 744 ✭✭✭cold_filter


    I know from my own experience of cheating on someone that it takes them a longtime to get over it and from my own experieince of being cheated on.
    At the moment he's trying not to have emotions cos he's afraid of getting hurt again. your going to have to give him the re-assurance he needs that this is not gonna happen again, this may get on your nerves and you may get sick of it. When you go out it will play on his mind that you might be cheating especially if the other guilty part is in your social circcle . Just be patient it will take tim and effort from both of you but if both love each other your relationship can be saved.


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