Think I wrecked it

Princess78

What do you think my chances are after this?

Been meeting a guy casually for a few months. Were friends before anything happened but at the moment it's a "friends with benefits" thing cause he's just out of a relationship and doesn't want another one right away. But we get on really really well. We do have a lot of history. I was the first girl he ever told he loved and before this happened he texted to say that he'd wanted me for years and that wasn't about to change.

Anyway went for a drink over christmas and were talking about how his single life was going. And he said he'd kissed 2 girls and I was kinda joking that I was jealous cause he'd given one a rose. I wasn't really serious but he thought i was. Then he asked me if i'd been with anyone. I hadn't been but wanted to see his reaction and said yes and he asked me who what where when. I was a bit taken aback and asked him was he jealous and he said he was a bit. Then he said that this was dangerous if we were both getting jealous.

Anyway he dropped me home and just before I got out of the car I told him I hadn't been with anyone. But that it wasn't cause I was waiting for him, it was just there was no talent. He wasn't too impressed and said it was kinda underhand.

Fast forward to the Friday night. I was out with my friends cause it was my birthday. He'd actually said he'd pick me up the night before but when I texted him to ask him if he minded his reply was "I said i would so i will". If i'd had any sense at that point I wouldn't asked for the lift. But I got totally and utterly legless.

I am completly and utterly embarassed at what happened. I got him to drop my friend home, she lives 20 mins opposite direction, then I can't remember ANYTHING from the drive to my house.

I've apologised endlessly. He did text the next day to ask how I was but ever since he's been fairly distant with me. He replies to my texts but isn't really texting me.

I think he's just thinking i'm not worth the bother.

Any idea how I could fix this?

Femelade

Ask him what happened on the journey to your house.

vermont

Princess78, depends what you mean by 'fix'. D'you want him back as a friend or a f$ck buddy? It seems from your post that you want something more and he doesn't. To me, it's not that big an issue that you told him a little lie, you should be looking at his reaction instead. He didn't say 'oh we're getting jealous of each other, so let's get together properly', he basically said it in a way that sounded like he didn't like it. Therefore he's backed off.

Don't worry about the drunk thing, that's not why he's backing off. If you want to really know, you can confront him and ask him how he feels. Am pretty sure he'll say he likes you as a mate but doesn't want anything else.

So in answer to your q, you can probably get him back as a mate if you really want to, but not as anything else.

Move on. The f£ck buddy relationship is never equal. You're better off finding someone who wants to be your fella.

humanji

So basically, he kissed two girls and you kissed no one. And now he seems pissed off with you? He's in the wrong, not you. He should be apologising to you. If he doesn't then screw him, you don't need that sort of thing, so move on.

Princess78

Thanks for the quick replies!

Vermont: Thank you. That's exactly it. And you're totally right. I think I just needed someone else to say it to me.

dame

Princess78 wrote:

Thanks for the quick replies!

Vermont: Thank you. That's exactly it. And you're totally right. I think I just needed someone else to say it to me.

Hmm.....story is a little different on your other thread about this.
Can somebody please link these two threads for comparison? Right, now I should get back and do some study.

Black Swan

He is on the rebound and is acting accordingly. I would give him some space, be friendly, but consider alternative persons to date.