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Having trouble stopping drinking

  • 05-01-2007 03:33AM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 269 ✭✭


    Ok heres the deal, im 23 and ive been drinking since i was about 11 fairly regularly (at least once a week) anyhoo over the past few years my abuse has gotten much worse to the point whered id easily be able to consume a full litre of whiskey in a night and not have it bother me, plus not so much in the past year but i was pretty heavily into drugs for about 2 years and now im basically in tatters health wise.
    its gotten to the point where if i have one can i have diahorea and any more and im in and out of the toilet all night.
    so i've decided to stop drinking (i stopped the drugs about a year ago) and to try get healthy as ive part of a college course to complete so i need my head in order for the next few months.
    im finding it very difficult to cut it all out (i have done so but...) its kinda gettin to me when i go out, i was always known as the fun drunk guy and now if i go to a pub sober ill spend the whole night getting progresivly more bored and pissed off as drunk people knock into me claw at my girlfriend and i've nowhere to sit.
    i gave up drinking for about a year and a half over my junior cert and again for about 6 months with my leaving cert but then i used to just stay in or go over to a friends house for videos but nowadays most of my friends will be in the pub plus i want to go out with my girlfriend and theres no reason why just cos ive decided to stay sober she should.
    i know ive gone on a bit here an i know im the arcitect of my own misery but any help (please refrain from snotty bitchy comments please) would be appreciated
    to sum up my problem is.

    if i keep drinking im gonna get sicker and if i stop drinking im gonna get boring.

    Thanks!


Comments

  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,257 ✭✭✭✭Rabies


    Join a club, get a second set of friends. Give yourself outside activities that don't involve your regular drinking buddies.
    You have stayed off drink before, now you need to try and extend the duration.
    Check out the Fitness forum and ask the guys there on ways to improve your health and get your body back in to shape before drink damages it too much.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,981 ✭✭✭Caliden


    There's a such thing as control. Where you can have 2/3 drinks on a night out and still have a good time.
    You don't have to drink everyone under the table and be steaming drunk to have a good night out.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,257 ✭✭✭✭Rabies


    Caliden wrote:
    There's a such thing as control. Where you can have 2/3 drinks on a night out and still have a good time.
    You don't have to drink everyone under the table and be steaming drunk to have a good night out.
    Go to an AA meeting, tell all the people there exactly what you have said here. See what kind of response you get.

    There is such thing as control, but something else has taken it. I'm sure it isn't as easy as just stopping at the drop of a hat.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 52 ✭✭seanogal


    I have been through exactly the same as you described.I did the alcohol programme in St Pats a year ago and thankfully am still sober.We were told that giving up alcohol on its own was not enough,a whole new way of life was needed.Without this total change,relapse is almost inevitable because resentment sets in and the boredom factor plus old habits are very strong.Action is needed apart from staying off drink.Avoid places like pubs where the temptation is huge.There is very little in pubs to attract the nondrinker.You must find new places to go ,new people to meet and new interests to keep you occupied.A year ago I thought life was over but now I have a new enthuaism that I would not have thought possible.
    Some years ago I tried the way you are trying now.I stayed sober for 13 months,hated every day of it,took no further action as in new interests or getting outside support and eventually relapsed.I was much worse then which is always the case.Somebody advised going to AA and I fully support that idea.You will meet a whole new bunch of ordinary people just like you who understand your problem fully.will give support and advice and provide new friendships.Non alcoholics do not understand and their advice is usually unhelpful however well intentioned.Good luck and keep us informed as to your progress.Hope this is helpful


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,585 ✭✭✭DublinWriter


    Caliden wrote:
    There's a such thing as control. Where you can have 2/3 drinks on a night out and still have a good time.
    I think you completely misunderstand the nature of alcoholism.

    That's like saying to a pyromaniac "its ok to have 2 or 3 matches".

    OP - congrats on confronting and tackling the problem. That initial step can be the hardest.

    I think giving up drinking is only the part of it. You have to change your lifestyle too. If that includes avoiding pubs completely then so be it. Only in Ireland would the option to never to set foot in a pub again be likened to losing a limb.


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