what should I do?

Dap Daddy

Hi I have been reading this forum for a while but this is my first time posting and im just hoping for abit of advice.

Ive being going out with an amazing girl for the last 6 months. Its been great but yesterday she said she wanted to break up as she needs some space to sort things out, she said the usual break up stuff,” its not you its me” etc. I’m still head over heels about her and even though I knew if we broke up it would be hard I had no idea I would feel this heart broken. I know she need time and space to sort herself out but the taught of losing her is tearing me up.

I know I have to give her the space but I need some help on coping with it. Im just a wreck at the moment, I can’t eat or even think straight I just keep getting upset over and over again. Has anyone got any advice? Should I just try move on, wait around for her,try fight for her?

I have found advice given on this forum great and I would be grateful if I could get some help

humanji

To be honest there's nothing you can do. It's up to her to decide how she wants things to work out. Just take things easy. You're not the only one in a position like that and it's not the end of the world (and what's not to say she won't come back to you!). And try to keep yourself occupied!

Femelade

oh god, i remember that feeling and i feel so sorry for you. It is such a horrible sickenind feeling i know, but i does pass...eventually. Continue giving her the space, because that is probably all she needs...she could very well feel the ssme way about you and might not have had that before..that can scare people at first.
If its a case where this break will never end, you will just have to deal with it, without getting angry with her, which will prob be one of your first reactions...but it doesnt work, or help.
Like Humanji says, keep yourself occupied..go out with a few mates and try to have some fun...things will fall into place one way or another..

whiskeyman

Move on man. Don't wait for her. You have to live your own life too.
I know it's tough, and it will be hard, but you need to find your own ground yourself too. You must have been happy before you met her.
Like Humanji said, try and keep your mind off her. Go out with friends, play sports, keep up hobbies or get more, focus on your job perhaps.
You sound like you're taking it too hard and this post may be of help. http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055035778
Similar situation as the guy realised he put too much emotional attachment into her. You need to get happy again, and you *will* find it without her. That's a promise.

One more thing. And this is probably the hardest to do... you have to cut all contact with her, for your own sake. Seriously. Delete phone and email address. A small message to or from will only cut you up even more. This is so true in the short term and when the heartache is terrible. Hopefully, time (that is the healer) will allow you to make contact in the longer run, but once again, don't 'wait'. Live your own life and enjoy every second of it.

Best of luck!

kryan1

humanji wrote:

To be honest there's nothing you can do. It's up to her to decide how she wants things to work out. Just take things easy. You're not the only one in a position like that and it's not the end of the world (and what's not to say she won't come back to you!). And try to keep yourself occupied!

First of all like to say sorry and totally understand what ur going thought. Its not easy. So what i did in this situation is, deleted her num, as when ur drunk and all that u will send a txt saying how u love her and all that and that will make her turn against u even more, so try and not contact her at all. let her do the contacting, and when she does it will mean that she has sorted out what ever it was she needed sorting. As humanji said, keep ur self occupied, d last time this happened to me, i spend a forturn on building a pc which kept me occupied for a while. Best of luck with it, hope she comes back to u.

Dap Daddy

Cheers for the replies they've helped sort out my head abit

shapez

Time to pick up the pieces and trudge on again. It's a nasty feeling but life goes on and it's too short.