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  • 04-01-2007 10:39AM
    #1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 257 ✭✭


    Hello,

    i went on a date last night with a lovely girl, hadn't really met her many times before but we had arranged it anyway.

    neither of us had done a proper slapup meal thing, so i took her to a lovely restaurant and got wine etc. smashing.
    we then went for drinks after and finished up late!

    anyway, she's kind of shy and totally not the "slapper" type. really my kind of girl, we spoke all night, no akward moments, laughing etc, and we have similar things in common.

    at the end of the night i didn't try to kiss her as it may have been innapropriate, but we got a taxi home and just before i got out i payed for the taxi and i gave her a kiss on the cheek! (was that not enough)

    after i sent her a text saying i had a lovely night and she replied saying she did to and thanks for everything and good night.

    now i don't know how you tell if they liked you or not, she's quite shy and i'd say she's nice to everyone!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,257 ✭✭✭✭Rabies


    Call here. Ask if her straight out if she wants to go out again. The answer you need is there.
    You got over the first hurdle of going out for a meal with her. Now all you need to do is ask her out again.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 24,631 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    Ask her out again. If she likes you, she'll say yes.

    EDIT: Beat me to it Rabies.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,257 ✭✭✭✭Rabies


    Sleepy, you snooze,you lose....
    He he.. I made a funny


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,361 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Rabies wrote:
    Now all you need to do is ask her out again.

    And if she says yes, then she likes you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,257 ✭✭✭✭Rabies


    Beruthiel wrote:
    And if she says yes, then she likes you.
    And if she says no, then hang up.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,518 ✭✭✭axer


    but ring her - don't text her!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,226 ✭✭✭Dan133269


    and congrats on having such a nice date! :)


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 12,989 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    Dan133269 wrote:
    and congrats on having such a nice date! :)

    Ditto! and well done on just giving her a kiss on the cheek, that's so sweet. I remember an ex of mine did that on our first date & I just melted because it was so unexpected & sweet :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 17,115 ✭✭✭✭Nalz


    miamee wrote:
    Ditto! and well done on just giving her a kiss on the cheek, that's so sweet. I remember an ex of mine did that on our first date & I just melted because it was so unexpected & sweet :)

    takes note


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,111 ✭✭✭tba


    Here is an interesting question, should you ask the question about the second date, (usually harder than the first btw) straight away or wait a while.

    Option 1
    Straight after the previous date
    "Hey we should do this again some time, you free this weekend?"
    This has the advantage of asking face to face.

    Option b
    Wait a day or two and ring them
    "I enjoyed the other night and want to up the ante a bit, when are you free?"
    This make it look like you know what you are doing.

    I'm not sure which is the better method, as I don't do this kind of thing very often.


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  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 12,989 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    tba wrote:
    Option b
    Wait a day or two and ring them
    "I enjoyed the other night and want to up the ante a bit, when are you free?"
    This make it look like you know what you are doing.
    No this makes it sound like you are waging a campaign of some sort against her!! :eek:
    'I enjoyed the other night and would love to do it again, are you free on Friday?' is much better :p

    Trilla I hope you have a big notebook :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,111 ✭✭✭tba


    miamee wrote:
    No this makes it sound like you are waging a campaign of some sort against her!! :eek:
    'I enjoyed the other night and would love to do it again, are you free on Friday?' is much better :p

    Trilla I hope you have a big notebook :D
    Thats just whats its like, Dating is like a war, each date is like a battle, you are in theory invading anothers personal space.

    In the inital stages of the campaign its all about intelligence gathering, finding out information such as current attachment status, phone numbers and the like are all cruical intel for the upcoming engagement.

    Misinformation,... in reality "I want to up the Ante" is what I am thinking but I wont say it out loud, also both parties circle the topic for a simple reason, knowledge is power. If you know you like somebody but they aren't sure you are in charge, once you reveal this fact you are a sitting duck floating up a river of **** without a paddle, waiting for their retailitory strike.

    I will admit that the wait is usually miniscule, but it is that tiny moment of vunrability that scares the living crap out of people, a moment of sheer panic.

    I could write a whole load more metaphors about air bombardments and setting up beachheads but I will let everybody insert their own jokes here.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 257 ✭✭oceansize


    tba wrote:
    Thats just whats its like, Dating is like a war, each date is like a battle, you are in theory invading anothers personal space.

    In the inital stages of the campaign its all about intelligence gathering, finding out information such as current attachment status, phone numbers and the like are all cruical intel for the upcoming engagement.

    Misinformation,... in reality "I want to up the Ante" is what I am thinking but I wont say it out loud, also both parties circle the topic for a simple reason, knowledge is power. If you know you like somebody but they aren't sure you are in charge, once you reveal this fact you are a sitting duck floating up a river of **** without a paddle, waiting for their retailitory strike.

    I will admit that the wait is usually miniscule, but it is that tiny moment of vunrability that scares the living crap out of people, a moment of sheer panic.

    I could write a whole load more metaphors about air bombardments and setting up beachheads but I will let everybody insert their own jokes here.

    You are crazy! But in some way correct.
    I'll wait a while, i wont text her this morning coz she's probably still in bed. The fact that she's a little bit shy probably means she wont text me right?

    I'll set up my archers on the hill!

    What are the signs that i can read?
    At dinner she was smiling and talking (i payed for the lot, she was trying to pay half but i said no way!)
    when we went to the pub she was sitting next to me on a nice lounger seat, and she was kind of facing towards me, then in the next pub she was playing with her hair alot when i shee was talking to me...

    im retarded at this stuff =)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,111 ✭✭✭tba


    Woooooo!!!!!!!


    Shhheeeeee lliiikkkkkkeeesssss yoooouuuuuuu!!!!

    Yeah seriously, the hair thing is a dead give away.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 257 ✭✭oceansize


    The only thing that puts me off a bit was,

    We were in the taxi and just as i was getting out i said "thanks so much i had a great night" and kind of moved my head really quickly in to give her a quick kiss and she kind of turned her cheek a little bit as to say kiss me on the cheek. So maybe it was just quick or something i dunno, but she was sitting facing me and playing with her hair, and smiling and laughing and all that nonsense ;-D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,947 ✭✭✭D-Generate


    I always wonder how we get conceived with this kind of inaction. Just straight up ring her and ask her out again. Fortune favours the brave and all that! No one likes someone who pussy foots about.
    Why do nice guys finish last? Because bad guys are the guys with teh confidence and cockyness that girls love. You don't want to be a nice guy and awkward....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 17,115 ✭✭✭✭Nalz


    miamee wrote:
    No this makes it sound like you are waging a campaign of some sort against her!! :eek:

    ah your just being dramatic there now!
    miamee wrote:
    Trilla I hope you have a big notebook :D

    oh tis big nuf now be jaysus. fine size I tell ya


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 257 ✭✭oceansize


    D-Generate wrote:
    I always wonder how we get conceived with this kind of inaction. Just straight up ring her and ask her out again. Fortune favours the brave and all that! No one likes someone who pussy foots about.
    Why do nice guys finish last? Because bad guys are the guys with teh confidence and cockyness that girls love. You don't want to be a nice guy and awkward....

    Well thats that down the pan then, i was the nicest guy ever last night, i told her i was afraid of flying and that i have all sisters and no bros etc...

    oh wel, she was lovely tho!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 62 ✭✭dooloo


    ah just send her a text! ask her out again for saturday night and if she's anyway interested she'll be able to make it. if she makes up a stupid excuse and makes no effort to rearrange then forget it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    oceansize wrote:
    Well thats that down the pan then,

    I take it she refused the second date?

    Would have been nice to here a success story for once.

    K-


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,111 ✭✭✭tba


    OK here is another question regarding how long to wait. You ring (its the sensible thing to do) and it rings out, no busy tone, no chance to leave a voice mail, no clumsy call rejection sound. (this happened to me about an hour ago..

    Number 1 how long do you let it ring?
    Number 2 when should you try again?
    Number 3 How many times should you try ringing before you send one last text and forget about it?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,525 ✭✭✭vorbis


    the problem wasn't you being nice. Theres nothing wrong with that. What was a problem was your lack of confidence in making a proper move. At some point, you should have kissed her properly as in make out.

    Come on man, you spent hours chatting with this girl, that kind of move on your part would be the least that would be expected. She was probably left wondering why you didn't. Also personally, I would have accepted her offer to pay half. Sometimes paying for everything can feel like you're buying her company but thats just me.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 257 ✭✭oceansize


    Kell wrote:
    I take it she refused the second date?

    Would have been nice to here a success story for once.

    K-

    No not at all, i havn't spoken to her since she text me back saying she had a lovely night, i just havn't txt her or anything yet!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 257 ✭✭oceansize


    vorbis wrote:
    the problem wasn't you being nice. Theres nothing wrong with that. What was a problem was your lack of confidence in making a proper move. At some point, you should have kissed her properly as in make out.

    Come on man, you spent hours chatting with this girl, that kind of move on your part would be the least that would be expected. She was probably left wondering why you didn't. Also personally, I would have accepted her offer to pay half. Sometimes paying for everything can feel like you're buying her company but thats just me.

    Now i feel confident! NOT. I should have yes but if i went to make a move on her and she rejected it, the night would be over right!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 232 ✭✭kryan1


    oceansize wrote:
    Now i feel confident! NOT. I should have yes but if i went to make a move on her and she rejected it, the night would be over right!


    Mate just go a do it, ring her and ask her out for the second date. God if u were up for it and she was 2, ice skating is good fun, also it takes away from the norm... go do it as her out again... best of luck


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,850 ✭✭✭Cianos


    Just give her a ring dammit and ask her out again. Do it. Do it.


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 12,989 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    oceansize wrote:
    Now i feel confident! NOT. I should have yes but if i went to make a move on her and she rejected it, the night would be over right!
    Look you kissed her on the cheek so she now knows
    a) you don't find her repulsive
    b) you might actually like her
    c) you are a gentleman & not only after 'one thing' :D

    so you need to ask her out again SOON before the good feeling/adrenaline from last night's date is still fresh in her mind. K? Good luck :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 257 ✭✭oceansize


    miamee wrote:
    Look you kissed her on the cheek so she now knows
    a) you don't find her repulsive
    b) you might actually like her
    c) you are a gentleman & not only after 'one thing' :D

    so you need to ask her out again SOON before the good feeling/adrenaline from last night's date is still fresh in her mind. K? Good luck :)

    Why doesn't she ring me eh! hehe.

    Do i call or text. if i text she knows what im saying, if i ring and theres no answer, when do you ring again? she doesn't wanna see 4 missed calls on her phone!!!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,619 ✭✭✭Fast_Mover


    oceansize wrote:
    she doesn't wanna see 4 missed calls on her phone!!!
    Then you don't call her 4times!!:rolleyes: :)

    If it rings out theres nothing you can do about that. She'll get your missed call and it up to her to ring/text you back, as it's only manners to do so anyway!

    Now would you ring her god dammit!!:D Good Luck!


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  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 12,989 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    oceansize wrote:
    Why doesn't she ring me eh! hehe.

    Do i call or text. if i text she knows what im saying, if i ring and theres no answer, when do you ring again? she doesn't wanna see 4 missed calls on her phone!!!

    Well ring her this afternoon if you can. If she doesn't answer (she may not be able to in work) then leave it til this evening when you know she'll be off work & at home & try again. If she misses your call it is really up to her to call you back...after 2 missed calls from anyone I'd ring them back!


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