Do I go back with him?

anniething

Has anyone ever been in this situation before?? Advice needed

miles teg

the title indicates you've already broke up with him but you're post suggests otherwise. Could you clarify as this would change the advice I'd give

Kell

anniething wrote:

I am scared that it will all backfire in my face as there are alot of things he needs to improve on. Has anyone ever been in this situation before?? Advice needed

If you want to stay with your partner, you need to change your thinking on him. It is unfair of you to say that he needs to improve a lot of things. Depression often robs the sufferer of the ability to improve their lot and if they do, progress is slow.

YOU have to decide that you are prepared to wait a long time for change and even if there is change, will he be what you want in the end? Why wait to change someone into something you want as opposed to going and finding someone you wanted in the first place?

Personally, if you are not happy with your lot (which you're not) go find someone else that makes you happy as opposed to expecting someone to change for you.

K-

anniething

I did go about finishing it with him, he persuaded to give him another go. I must say he is making a huge effort but I fear it will be an effort and that won't be the real him.

Kell

anniething wrote:

I did go about finishing it with him,

At the end of the day, dont let his depression cloud your judgement of what you should do. You have a choice- end it, or dont. There is no need to give it any further consideration and at the end of the day, would you rather a little over a year of wasted time or a little over 2, 3 years of wasted time?

K-

shapez

How long has he been suffering from depression? And, if you don't mind me asking, why is he suffering from depression?