Fellings that wont go away

LegacyUser

I met this girl through work a while ago and we ended up getting together at a friends house party and after that we got together. I knew she had plans to travel etc and she didn't really like Ireland as it was a bit expensive. I dont know what it is, but i just can't seem to forget about her no matter how hard i try. I think about her all the time and have being for the last several months and more. Where still in contact through e-mail which probably not the best idea. The time we spent together was great and we always had a laugh and enjoyed each other's company and i know she really liked me and told me so many a time. The time then came for her to go and i was hurt and it was hard but i thought i would forget about her shortly afterwards and move on, but thats not the case.

I know you will probably say that i should tell her how i feel and see what she says, but circumstances have changed and i dont know how she would react even i did tell her. I have thought about ringing her and telling her how i feel. I have never been in love so i dont think its love
1) It could be love
2) I could be smitten
3) I'm finding it hard to let go because i have strong feelings for her.

I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on what to do or if you have been in a similar situation yourself male/female and how or what did you do to move on

Rb

Have a read of this.

LegacyUser

Don't get caught up in the semantics of whether it's love or not. "Love" is just a word. And it's not even a word that everyone uses for the same thing. You know how you feel, and you know how important it is, and that's what matters.

So with that in mind, I'd suggest that you mention to her that you're still thinking about her in that way. It will help you to start getting over it to know that she at least knows the nature of your feelings if not the depth. And to know that there's nothing else you can do.

metaoblivia

Am going through a similar situation with a boy right now. I've basically been hung up on him since August. He called me for a date, and we hit it off well. He went back to school and we maintained a relationship through email. I went up to see him, at his request, first week of September, and, very long story short, he panicked, and we didn't see each other. It ended right there, needless to say. He had just been dumped by his girlfriend of 6 years a few months earlier, and hasn't been able to move on from her. So it's a situation of, I'm hung up on him, and he's hung up on his ex. And I realize that being in a relationship with him wouldn't be fair to me for those reasons. But I can't help the way I feel about him.
Additionally, I can't fully cut him out of my life as our families share the holidays together, so some form of decency and contact is required. In fact, I spent Christmas Day with his entire extended family. He's very nice to me, and actually still has feelings for me. But if he tried to pursue that or me, it would just complicate things further right now.
I've been out with other boys since, but nothing's come of it. I know one shouldn't compare, but you really can't help it.
What I've tried to do is keep contact at a minimum. Normally I would say, cut the person completely out of your life and occupy yourself with other things. But since that's not an option in my situation, we exchange emails every now and again, and maintain a friendship of sorts. I go out with other people and don't lock myself up at home. I tell myself that if it's meant to be, it will happen, and if it's not, something else will come along.
Best of luck to you!

The_B_Man

hey, im a girl and i met some fella at some party. i told him i was goin away in a while. i also told him that i like him....
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time has passed. its nearly time for me to go away. i told him AGAIN that i liked him.....

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the day is gettin closer. told him i like him again.
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im goin away... he still hasnt made a significant move on me. mustnt like me. right so, Australia here i come! phwoarrr giz a roide there surfer man! huh? wat irish fella???


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