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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    tbh wrote:
    Of course the sub-text to what ol' black-and-white k-man is saying there is

    Lifes actually fairly straightforward and black and white if you choose it to be. Thinking for someone else or making assumptions on their behalf (when it comes to dating or not as the case may be) is where most people fúck up.

    Simple rule of thumb when it comes to dating. ASK THEM OUT. Feel the fear and do it anyway or spend a lifetime wondering about what you never had.
    Silly Girl wrote:
    I'm probably better off forgetting it

    :rolleyes: See? This poor blighter has now started to convince herself out of it instead of having the nerve to just ask him out.

    Dearie- its not rocket science. Your world will not cave in if you ask him. There will be no tsunami's. The revolution will not be televised. Honestly- this is only as difficult as YOU are making it.

    K-


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'kell, it's really not as simple as you make out, when the guy is so so quite and so easily intimidated. I told myself I wouls stop liking him after new years eve cuz i just dont get ffedback but istill realy like him. I know he doesnt like me im sure i know 100% that he doesnt, my new question is, how do i either make him lik e me or how do i ger over him. im very drunk excue the bad lanuguge or grammer i dunno'


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    Unregreg wrote:
    'kell, it's really not as simple as you make out,

    Things are as simple or as difficult as you choose them to be.
    Unregreg wrote:
    I know he doesnt like me im sure i know 100% that he doesnt

    Have you asked him? Dont be afraid of making yourself look like an idiot to get what you want. BTW. Have you actually asked him out yet?

    K-


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Well, I haven't ...actually... asked him out as such.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,324 ✭✭✭Alter-Ego


    Unregreg wrote:
    I told myself I wouls stop liking him after new years eve cuz i just dont get ffedback but istill realy like him.

    Ya can't just make yourself stop liking somebody, you like him and thats gonna be hard to escape
    I know he doesnt like me im sure i know 100% that he doesnt, my new question is, how do i either make him lik e me or how do i ger over him.

    You can't know until you ask him. and if he doesn't like you, you can't really make the guy like you.

    Two options, adjust your body language around him to make it obvious that you like him

    Or..

    Just tell him, by text or even better face to face.

    If he doesn't like you, its really not the end of the world. (He probably likes you tho;) )


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'You just have to tell him straight.

    He is more than likely afraid of ruining what he may have worked up to if he thinks he is too forward.
    By you letting him know, you will relieve the worries he may have.

    He probably does not have a lot of confidence either, but when he has a few pints on him, is a bit more open towards you hence the hugging etc.

    All you have to do is just let him know.'


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 105 ✭✭comad


    Without going into details, I was in a similar situation, really liked this girl so I asked her out. sent her a simple text her asking here out. She said no in a very nice way but the rejection feels better than regretting


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,790 ✭✭✭cornbb


    comad wrote:
    Without going into details, I was in a similar situation, really liked this girl so I asked her out. sent her a simple text her asking here out. She said no in a very nice way but the rejection feels better than regretting

    Same happened here. Agree 100%

    OP, you sound as shy as the guy you describe. Maybe he's in the exact same situation as you. Send him a text if you are too shy to speak to him. For the love of God, do it right now! Best case scenario, you start a beautiful relationship. Worse case scenario, at least you tried and will feel better for doing so. If you leave it be and try to forget about it you will always wonder "what if", believe me.

    We all want to hear the outcome of this btw ;)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    Unregreg wrote:
    Well, I haven't ...actually... asked him out as such.

    Well then. Time for the three step plan-

    1) Remove finger from rear end
    2) Ask the person out
    3) Deal with the consequences

    There is no other way about it my dear.

    K-


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 61 ✭✭Skiesonfire19


    Advice?

    Grow a pair and do something about it! Is the word 'no' really so hard to hear?

    Skies


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'Well I was in a similar situation, liked a good friend of mine, debated whether to tell him or not. I got mixed advice on boards. He is a really quiet guy, don't think he's had a girlfriend (that said I haven't had a boyfriend before this either). He's not that flirty and quite hard to read.

    So anyway I figured I'm not gonna get over this unless I say something. If rejection meant closure then I was prepared to deal with that.

    I told him, he said he'd prefer to remain friends and didn't want things to change. He was really sound about it and things weren't awkward at all.

    About a month later he told me he actually did like me and that he was just surprised that I'd said something and didn't really know how to react.

    We're now going out. I'm so glad I said something. I do think the advice of 'It's better to regret doing something than doing nothing' is good advice to take.

    You're obviously driving yourself crazy. I think you're best off saying something. Rejection is better than not knowing what could have been. Believe me!'


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