confused about sexuality...

LegacyUser

OK, here goes nothin....

Im a young guy, 17. I'd call myself straight, I love girls, and have always been attracted to em, am the first lad in the group to point out some fine girl out in the street or whatever, but, basically...I love huge penises and muscular torsos.

I know this seems like trolling, but I swear to god it's not! When watching porn I tend to look for big penis sites just as much as straight porn. Ive never had a crush on another guy, and Im not turned on by any other body parts other than the ones mentioned. Ive told nobody about this, nobody.

I basically dont have a ****ing clue about this like...are other straight men into it but simply would never say? Opinions?

BuffyBot

You're making the assumption that people are either straight or gay, and nothing falls in between.

Although most might never admit it, threads here in the past prove that you are far from alone in being "straight" and admiring male body bits.

Don't label yourself. Just see what comes - you might not be bothered with them in 6 months, and you might be more interested. Who knows..

LegacyUser

i am the exact same as you op. i find that if im watchin porn i always look for the penis. i get very turned on by the sight of one. even when i masterbate i am starting to think about them. i think that over the next while i am actually going to have to see what its like in person. it could be the best thing that i have ever done, who knows.

Shellie13

OP maybe you're just admireing the physique not actaually attracted to it?! Could it be that its nearly envy or something to aspire torather than actually turned on by?!

Then as Buffy says plentya space in between there yar only young yet cud have some great times aheada ya;)

LegacyUser

BuffyBot wrote:

You're making the assumption that people are either straight or gay, and nothing falls in between.

Agreed. Personally, I am very dubious of the rigid categorisation that people seem so obsessed with. I think that rather than labelling people as straight / bi / gay, we should just see people as sexual beings, with individual preferences ... some have broader preferences than others, some peoples preferences change over time, some people like to experiment from time to time ... and so what, once we're talking adult, consensual, and no-one is getting hurt.

I suspect that what goes on in peoples minds, even when they see themselves as "belonging" to one of the given categories, is a lot less rigid / narrow than those categories suggest. I know that's true for me, and for a couple of mates who I've ended up having this discussion with (admittedly after a few pints, or alternatives!).

OP, I think you're quite brave to be admitting this to YOURSELF, let alone anyone else ... many guys repress these kind of questions, and that's not healthy (I believe there's a lot of truth in the old saying about many homophobes being people who have questions about their own sexuality, and don't want to admit it / hate themselves for it).

MAYBE you're potentially less-than-100% "straight" ... or MAYBE you just admire / get turned on by the type of bodily "perfection" you would aspire to in yourself, as previous poster mentioned. One way or the other it's no big deal ... unless you listen to the outdated society norms that tell you it's a big deal.

I would suggest relaxing and taking your time figuring out what makes you tick. There's no rush, there's nothing to be worried about, and there are no "wrong" answers.

In the meantime, mate, enjoy the scenery, enjoy the porn, and don't give yourself RSI !!! ;-)

~nop~

I'd say op that you're simply admiring these as they can relate to you, just as a straight woman might admire Angelina Jolie and think about her while continueing to be attracted to men.

There is much less chance in society really for a man to admire other men without being classified as "gay", but in all honestly women do it all the time quite openly, including admiring other womens boobs, bum etc, and even thinking about them afterwards. During porn you're not just checking out the girl, you are looking at the man (I don't want to say here that you aspire to be, but you get my drift).

And then again as many people have pointed out there are many in betweens to straight and gay.