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Weird dream about father

  • 19-10-2006 11:24pm
    #1
    lost_for_words
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    My father died nearly eight years ago when I was 15 of a short term illness which was a result of years of drinking. A few weeks after he died I had a pretty vivid dream which regularly comes back to me.

    In the dream my father is in hospital but me and my family can't find him. Most of the dream is spent looking for him going up and down corridors asking people for help. Toward the end of the dream I find him in one of the corridors and he lies down on the ground. I know in the dream he is about to die and I got there on time so I lie down beside him and cuddle into him. Very soon after, he says to me that he's sorry and that he loves me (which he never said when he was alive), and then in my dream he dies.

    I've had similar dreams since but nothing like that one which woke me up once it had finished and at the time I felt very strange. It was a very intense dream and even thinking about it brings back how I felt at the time when I woke up.
    Did I fabricate this in my subconscious to make me feel better that I got to say goodbye (we never had a good relationship, and I wasn't there when he died) or was this dream something bigger than a dream? I've never told anyone about it before but I often wonder about it.
    Anyone have any ideas?


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  • #2
    kshiel
    Closed Accounts Posts: 994 ✭✭✭kshiel


    Sorry for your lost first of all. Dreams can be quite hard to understand. You seem to have a lot of mixed emotions in relation to you dad, which I assume would be quite normal. Maybe you are wishing that your relationship was better when he was here, and your dreams are a way of saying goodbye the way you would you have liked it to be.

    Dont beat yourself up about it, the best most people can do is deal with the emontions we have, put them in logical form that we feel comfortable with, deal with them and move on. Have you tried talking to your family, friend about it?

    None of us are experts here and I am certainly not but I always find that talking aloud, or writng it down (Like a letter) to the person, venting any misgivings etc, can help vent or understand whats going on inside.

    I wish you well.


  • #3
    Black Swan
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    lost_for_words wrote:
    Did I fabricate this in my subconscious to make me feel better that I got to say goodbye (we never had a good relationship, and I wasn't there when he died) or was this dream something bigger than a dream?
    Good guess. As good as any, and yours seems reasonable.

    Do you want them to stop? If so, you might try going to his gravesite by yourself on a nice day and have a chat with him. Yes, this sounds crazy, but just talking about it can sometimes help to resolve the grief you may still feel. And his gravesite is as close as you can get. Not talking paranormal here, just an opportunity to unburden feelings.


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