Friends cancelling plans

Faith

Anyone else get extremely annoyed about this? I have plans to go to a party tonight, meeting at 8.30 and my friend who I'm going with just announced that she doesn't want to go. Thankfully, I know a couple of other people going, but I find it incredibly irritating when people cancel plans at a moments notice, not taking how it affects you into consideration. Inconsiderate and selfish is what it is!

/rant

NoDayBut2Day

Yeah, I don't like it either.
At least they call you and let you know they don't want to go opposed to just standing you up.

johnny_ultimate

Yeah it happened two days in a row a few weeks ago. It can get extremely annoying. I'd have no problem if people phoned a little in advance, but when two of ye are sitting in the pub waiting for the gang to arrive only to phone and find out "Oh yeah we're staying in. It's too lukewarm" it is irritating to the extreme.

Rhyme

To be honest, it doesn't bother me a lot. Sure its annoying but they probably have a reason and you can't exactly force someone to leave their comfortable house. Giving no reason at all can get old after the 30th time but ultimately forgiveable.

A little notice can go a long way.

Reganio 2

Happend me on Junior Cert. night 2 years ago planned to go to a mate's house 6 of us all ready to go (had to get the bus) we ring him to tell him we are on our way. He then tells us that he is in the point. Bast@rd we then had nothing to for the night. What was worse was that he arranged it and was making sure we were coming for the 2 weeks leading up to it.

Heyes

It absolutaly wrecks my head. If they give you a bit of notice then its grand, you can make other plans but when its an hour or so before your meeting, i get so peeved :mad:

Ruu_Old

Heyes wrote:

It absolutaly wrecks my head. If they give you a bit of notice then its grand, you can make other plans but when its an hour or so before your meeting, i get so peeved :mad:

Oops, I guess you didn't get the voicemail I left.
It doesn't bother me a whole lot as I normally would think something more important came up for the person in question, if it happened more than a few times I would start to question it.

Paddy_Irishman

Reganio 2 wrote:

Happend me on Junior Cert. night 2 years ago planned to go to a mate's house 6 of us all ready to go (had to get the bus) we ring him to tell him we are on our way. He then tells us that he is in the point. Bast@rd we then had nothing to for the night. What was worse was that he arranged it and was making sure we were coming for the 2 weeks leading up to it.

Maybe he knew what he was doing? Sounds like a nasty prank to me .

Ye cancelling is annoying alright. Thing is, not much you can do about it. Would have sucked if you were left without anybody to go to the party with though! Maybe they knew this and knew you wouldnt be by your self. That said, still the decent thing to do would have been to ring you and tell you that they were not going.

Heyes

Ruu wrote:

Oops, I guess you didn't get the voicemail I left.
It doesn't bother me a whole lot as I normally would think something more important came up for the person in question, if it happened more than a few times I would start to question it.

Grrrr, yeah you brat :mad:

pbsuxok1znja4r

It does indeed suck when this happens. Thankfully I only have at most one or two friends who would ever do this kinda thing. What's almost more annoying is chronic lateness. Especially when they continually assure you they'll be there in 10 minutes and it still takes over an hour for them to get there. Just admit you're ages away, ffs.

0utshined

This wrecks my head. It's even worse when they're like "I'll be there in an hour" or "I just need to do X and I'll be there" and then compleetely faking. If you don't want to do something it's okay, I can handle it. Just fúcking say it.

I'm thinking of one particular friend now who used to do this a lot and I don't let it stop me having an awesome time. The last time three of us were just going to kick back in my place and have a couple of beers. My other mate turns up and we had a couple and we were texting the other guy to find out where he was. Get a text saying "I'll be there in a while". I can read that guy now and thought "fúck that" and called a taxi straight off. By the time I got a text saying "I can't get over to yours tonight", myself and the friend who bothered to turn up were in a club having a great time and it just got better from there.

He missed out and we let him know how much fun we had next time we saw him. Surprisingly he hasn't bailed on a night since then...

What I'm saying is this : Don't let your friends lameness stop you from having an excellent time.

0utshined

Paddy_Irishman wrote:

Maybe they knew this and knew you wouldnt be by your self.

They were going over to his house and he was in the point despite arranging for them all to go there on their Junior cert night! They were left all dressed up and nowhere to go.

Nah fúck that guy. If someone wants to do that I don't need to know them. Whatever about not showing up when they should, if they arrange a party for a big occasion and then just ditch ye all without even saying anything in advance you are better off without that person. Reganio 2 I hope you made it clear how annoyed you were and dropped them. That is not a friend.

abetarrush

hate this

or they can't say no, so say defo, then think of an excuse and cancel at the last minute

tut tut

Lust4Life

What's even worse... a co-worker yesterday invited me to go out with her and her friends and it sounded like a lot of fun. but I had pland already so I declined.
Then I get home from work and find out my original plans are cancelled.
And of course I didn't get my co-worker's phone number.
Now I get to listen to how much fun my co-worker had last night!

Grrrrr!

me and the biz

grrr friday night me and a mate were to go to a gig.. get a text a short while before saying he couldn't go because he had to work. I can't find anyone to go at such short notice so missed it. I mean concert tickets don't come cheap.. It was the fact he knew about it for so long and didn't bother to book it off work or swap the shift. And his attitude aswell. When I text "what am I going to do then?" he didn't reply so I won't be bothering anymore with him.

LundiMardi

One time i was chatting to a friend on the phone, we said we'd go cinema or something so we both agreed ''see ya in an hour''...

I get to the destination, wait 40 minutes and decide to give him a call.... ''oh sorry man completely forgot''.... .. you FúCKTARD!!!! How do you forget within the space of 30 minutes or so?????

Reganio 2

0utshined wrote:

They were going over to his house and he was in the point despite arranging for them all to go there on their Junior cert night! They were left all dressed up and nowhere to go.

Nah fúck that guy. If someone wants to do that I don't need to know them. Whatever about not showing up when they should, if they arrange a party for a big occasion and then just ditch ye all without even saying anything in advance you are better off without that person. Reganio 2 I hope you made it clear how annoyed you were and dropped them. That is not a friend.

Yes your right it was at his house. I wouldn't have mindedso much if it was at someone else's house but he arranged was talking to us every day to make sure we were going and dosn't even ring us to say he is gone to the point we had to ring him. It was not just some bloke that invited us to a party he was a mate and had knew me for 3 years and 2 of my mates all his life. Now that you mention it I have not talked to him in the 2 years since then and neither have my mates.

Dont worry I think he got the picture that we were pissed at him with the 100's of messages we left on his phone shouting abuse at him:D . It was all right we managed to make a night out of it and apparently he got in a fight on the way home....Ahhh good times:D .

NoDayBut2Day

I dated a guy once who's mother would always cancel our plans. It was irritating to the extreme. He would call me 15 minutes before he was scheduled to meet me and say he couldn't go... because his mom said so. :rolleyes:

Heyes

NoDayBut2Day wrote:

I dated a guy once who's mother would always cancel our plans. It was irritating to the extreme. He would call me 15 minutes before he was scheduled to meet me and say he couldn't go... because his mom said so. :rolleyes:

please tell me you were a kid at the time ?

Ruu_Old

NoDayBut2Day wrote:

I dated a guy once who's mother would always cancel our plans. It was irritating to the extreme. He would call me 15 minutes before he was scheduled to meet me and say he couldn't go... because his mom said so. :rolleyes:

:eek: How old was he?

NoDayBut2Day

Ruu wrote:

:eek: How old was he?

We had just graduated high school. We were both 18 years old. It was crazy.

Donald-Duck

NoDayBut2Day wrote:

I dated a guy once who's mother would always cancel our plans. It was irritating to the extreme. He would call me 15 minutes before he was scheduled to meet me and say he couldn't go... because his mom said so. :rolleyes:

Sounds like someone I know...except hes 17

NoDayBut2Day

Well, if the kids are under the age of 18, I can see why the parents feel like they can step in and interfere with the relationship. Doesn't make it right.. but still they feel like they're being "parents."
I guess in my situation, because he was still living at home, the mother felt like she could continue to control his life. Hopefully he's past that stage now, but somehow, I seriously doubt it. I have a feeling it's going to be like this for a long time.

abetarrush

My parents havent really had much control over me since i was about 16 and start workin and got all independant

I worked every saturday 8-5.30, and that changed me so much

Oh yeah, im a rebel, shwerrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

cournioni

Happened to me twice. Both times she lied. Got one back on her there last week. Still another one to even the score up!

abetarrush

PORNAPSTER wrote:

Happened to me twice. Both times she lied. Got one back on her there last week. Still another one to even the score up!

Hi-ohhhhhhhh!

neoB

I can't say it always bothers me. Just sometimes, especially when I am reallllly looking forward to whatever is going on. But I understand things happen or peoples mind changes(mine does a lot!). What can you do?

orangerooster

abetarrush wrote:

My parents havent really had much control over me since i was about 16 and start workin and got all independant

Oh yeah, im a rebel, shwerrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

"Whateva I do what I wan" (hope you saw that South Park)


In any case it used to happen to me and a few others in my group until we called the other people in the group until we confronted them a few weeks ago, they havent done it since. Its very annoying when it happens though.

NoDayBut2Day

orangerooster wrote:

"Whateva I do what I wan" (hope you saw that South Park)


In any case it used to happen to me and a few others in my group until we called the other people in the group until we confronted them a few weeks ago, they havent done it since. Its very annoying when it happens though.

At least they stopped though.
Going to talk to them is actually very admirable. It opens good communication lines and it shows that you're concerned about them and the friendship you have with them.

DonkeyStyle \o/

I love it when people cancel plans... it's brilliant.

Miss Fluff

I do it fairly often.
I cannot STAND organised fun.

Mrs_Doyle

I can go one better, not only do I have a firend who will cancel at the last minute, she refuses to go along with anyone elses plans to begin with.

In other words, unless the outting was her idea, she won't be there, and when the outing is her idea, you better follow her demands to the letter - or she will cancel on you for being "awkward".


*Note to self - much question my choice of friends!

Siogfinsceal

it drives me mad. A former friend always did this she would arrange to meet me and then not show. What she never seemed to realise was that if I had been relying on her to turn up I would have been sat on my own somewhere like a spanner.
Another mate I have always does it you have to take everything with a grain of salt unless she is standing in front of you theres no guarantee she is going to be there

Tar.Aldarion

DonkeyStyle \o/ wrote:

I love it when people cancel plans... it's brilliant.

I hate it when a girl gets all stroppy and melodramatic when I have to cancel plans and she doesn't take into consideration how going would have affected me.

/rant.

abetarrush

Miss Fluff wrote:

I do it fairly often.
I cannot STAND organised fun.

Well sayin "lets go to town tnight" is hardly set in concrete

Wha do you do when u cancel plans?

ThrownAway

If there's one thing I've learnt in life so far - never trust/depend on anyone .....EVER.