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Friend/boyfriend

  • 29-09-2006 12:18am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Longterm poster going anon for this. A good friend of mine who had been in a relationship for 2 years broke up with his girlfriend 2 months ago, since then he has been enjoying being single, had a few one night stands etc....

    I like him a lot and am really tempted to try something with him, whats the best way so that if he isnt interested our friendship wont be totally ruined?

    Am I stupid to even think about it?


Comments

  • #2
    Motley Crue
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,382 ✭✭✭Motley Crue


    go for it, see what happens


  • #3
    Black Swan
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 47,528 CMod ✭✭✭✭Black Swan


    So soon after the breakup he will be on the rebound. May not be a problem for you being his friend, then again who knows?


  • #4
    kittenkiller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,433 ✭✭✭kittenkiller


    I'd give him another few weeks.
    After 2 years of being in a relationship he's probably looking for something light at the moment.
    Play it by ear I guess.

    You could always just flirt a bit and see how he reacts at first and gauge your nest move from there.


  • #5
    secret_squirrel
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,357 ✭✭✭secret_squirrel


    What kitten said.

    The last thing you want to be is the rebounder


  • #6
    Ruu_Old
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36,634 ✭✭✭✭Ruu_Old


    Let him enjoy his time alone, I think you answered your own question. He is having one night stands etc, so I would guess he is not ready for a relationship right now.


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  • #7
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,661 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    Has he ever shown any interest in you?

    Definately give it a while more before you think about making any moves. I'd recommend being subtle about it (a little bit of flirting here and there) and seeing how he reacts, rather than straight out asking him out.


  • #8
    Bob the Builder
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,919 ✭✭✭Bob the Builder


    Faith wrote:
    Has he ever shown any interest in you?

    Definately give it a while more before you think about making any moves. I'd recommend being subtle about it (a little bit of flirting here and there) and seeing how he reacts, rather than straight out asking him out.
    Yah, I agree. he will have more time to grasp what your at, and make a mature decision if your "just dropping the led slowly". If you make a straight move, there could be major consequences. Good Luck in whatever your decision


  • #9
    I Shot J.R.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 38 ✭I Shot J.R.


    If you think he has shown an interest in you, then just organise to bring him out on the beer to find him a real woman, then SURPRISE It's you! See what happens and if it goes pear shaped, blame it on vodka/wine/bacardi/gin/whiskey/jaggermeister/tequila. Don't blame it on them all though, last thing you want him to call you is "my mixy drinky luvy friend who wants my ass"!


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