Online Dating

Eglinton · 22-09-2006 10:22pm #1

As I'm sitting in for the first Friday night in probably the best part of a year, I was thinking about people who never go out at all and spend all their time on those online dating sites etc. There used to be so much talk about them, ads on the radio every minute of the day etc. Don't seem to hear much about them now? Does Bebo etc provide the sustanance for these socially starved poeple these days?

Thomas_S_Hunterson · 22-09-2006 10:28pm

Yup

/checks for comments

Trinity · 22-09-2006 10:31pm

Think when people get on those dating sites the whole idea is to go 'out' on a date and meet up.

I believe a few people off this site for example got together although i know nothing about bebo!

0utshined · 22-09-2006 11:47pm

I've known a few people who've used online dating sites and met people. It can work out though it didn't for my friends.

I'm not sure how you'd go about meeting someone on Bebo. I have met someone in real life and swapped Bebo addresses and hooked up after but I don't think that's what the OP meant.

Black Swan · 23-09-2006 4:57am

Although boards.ie is not a dating site, you can make friends, play a bit, and perhaps hookup for real, going from surreal to real. You can also stay in touch when away.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 23-09-2006 11:26am

If you think it's just for 'scoailly starved' people you have been woefully misinformed...

It's a social thing as well as dating. I joined one for a while, went to some of the events they set up, one or two dates. Made lots of friends but met the girlfriend independantly...

Larry David · 23-09-2006 11:40am

Ikky Poo2 wrote:

If you think it's just for 'scoailly starved' people you have been woefully misinformed...

That's just what the saddos who use them say.

Pigman II · 23-09-2006 12:36pm

I love this bit from LoG

Olive Kilshaw: Let me explain how a dating agency works. 95% of the people who come through our doors are weirdos. My boyfriend doesn't like me working here. It's not that he's jealous, I say to him, "You should see the state of some of them!" No, its because he thinks it's depressing for me.

Iain Cashmore: Did you meet him through an agency?

Olive Kilshaw: [laughing] No! I shall tell him that tonight, he'll bloody laugh! No, I met him at a friend's party. You see, you meet people through people, and thats what a lot of them haven't got... friends! And you have to question that, don't you? But enough about me, let's get you paired up. Miracles can happen you know!

Larry David · 23-09-2006 12:51pm

Pigman II wrote:

I love this bit from LoG

Olive Kilshaw: Let me explain how a dating agency works. 95% of the people who come through our doors are weirdos. My boyfriend doesn't like me working here. It's not that he's jealous, I say to him, "You should see the state of some of them!" No, its because he thinks it's depressing for me.

Iain Cashmore: Did you meet him through an agency?

Olive Kilshaw: [laughing] No! I shall tell him that tonight, he'll bloody laugh! No, I met him at a friend's party. You see, you meet people through people, and thats what a lot of them haven't got... friends! And you have to question that, don't you? But enough about me, let's get you paired up. Miracles can happen you know!

lol - kinda sums it up. I especially love this line:

"You see, you meet people through people, and thats what a lot of them haven't got... friends! And you have to question that, don't you?"

Main point, IMO. Anyone who needs to resort to Online Dating is socially inept, as they clearly aren't capable of meeting a partner through more conventional methods.

Sonnenblumen · 23-09-2006 2:08pm

Larry David wrote:

lol - kinda sums it up. I especially love this line:

"You see, you meet people through people, and thats what a lot of them haven't got... friends! And you have to question that, don't you?"

Main point, IMO. Anyone who needs to resort to Online Dating is socially inept, as they clearly aren't capable of meeting a partner through more conventional methods.

You sound like an old man! Whats wrong with twisting convention, may not suit you but you're hardly the yardstick? The results justify the methodology and if people wish to try alternative means, I'd be very shy to intervene or criticise.

May be I'm outside the box on this one, but I'm sure people have met their dream lover in many different ways. For far too long too many Irish have relied on being pissed in boozers or later at discos to make moves.

In Germany for example and this is not meant to be a reference point but 45%of married people met their Partner at Work/Office! Does this reflect poorly on them, is it a syptom of low level socialising, few friends etc etc ? Of course not, but some might....

Some of the biggest experts are assholes!

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 23-09-2006 3:52pm

Larry David wrote:

That's just what the saddos who use them say.

No, the saddos are the ones who sit in pubs every night getting pissed and calling THAT a social life.

Larry David · 23-09-2006 4:49pm

Ikky Poo2 wrote:

No, the saddos are the ones who sit in pubs every night getting pissed and calling THAT a social life.

I rarely drink, and I never go to pubs. Sorry if you though you got my number... But I do agree about saddos sitting in pubs every night.

bluto63 · 23-09-2006 5:21pm

People have different ways of getting in touch with other humans. Wether they be going to a club, sitting in a pub getting pissed together or meeting online, there's nothing wrong with any of it. The only "saddos" would be the ones who completely cut themselves away from social life. Maybe these people have a good reason, who knows....

lizzy_beth · 23-09-2006 5:46pm

If you work in a male dominated workplace (and are a guy) or a female dominated one (and are a girl) and are fed up of the pub/club scene then it can be a good way of meeting new people. Plus you get judged on your interests/personality rather than your looks. Anyway the main goal would be to meet someone I'm guessing?

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 23-09-2006 5:49pm

Larry David wrote:

I rarely drink, and I never go to pubs. Sorry if you though you got my number... But I do agree about saddos sitting in pubs every night.

Never said you did, just a general comment.

It was why I joined them. I was sick and tired of going out with people who's idea of a good night out was cramming as much alcohol down their throats in as short a time as possible and then boasting about it.

Larry David · 23-09-2006 7:11pm

Ikky Poo2 wrote:

Never said you did, just a general comment.

It was why I joined them. I was sick and tired of going out with people who's idea of a good night out was cramming as much alcohol down their throats in as short a time as possible and then boasting about it.

Good point. I only ever looked at it like "Olive Kilshaw"'s perspective.

theTinker · 23-09-2006 7:32pm

I met an online person before, myspace was used.

Just joined because my friend told me to so she could add me to her profile. Anyways added a couple of irish people with interests like mine or people i thought were funny. After about a month of chatting with her, we met up and we have become good friends now. Its just a different way. Its great for me because i HATE clubs/drinking scene which is of course a huge part of irish socailising. The people on it can be very individualistic if you get me(not sure thats a word but it sounds like what i mean :P)

For dating purposes, its the same as i see, Like you automatically scan people for things that you have in common. A Friend of mine met someone from HotOrNot, Turned out a nice guy, and she obviously got to find out alot him through msn chatting before even meeting him.
Seems better to me than walking up to a stranger whos pissed hoping she/he doesnt shoot you down before he/she gets to know you and then trying to see if you two are remotely interested in each other.

ircoha · 23-09-2006 10:19pm

People,
People who need people
Are the luckiest people in the world
Where children needing other children
And yet letting our grown-up pride
Hide all the need inside
Acting more like children than children
Lovers
Are very special people
They're the luckiest people in the world
With one person,
One very special person
A feeling deep in your soul
Says you are half now you're whole
No more hunger and thirst
But first be a person who needs people
People, People who need people
Are the luckiest people in the world.

So if online dating makes it happen, good.

Heyes · 23-09-2006 10:26pm

ircoha wrote:

People,
People who need people
Are the luckiest people in the world
Where children needing other children
And yet letting our grown-up pride
Hide all the need inside
Acting more like children than children
Lovers
Are very special people
They're the luckiest people in the world
With one person,
One very special person
A feeling deep in your soul
Says you are half now you're whole
No more hunger and thirst
But first be a person who needs people
People, People who need people
Are the luckiest people in the world.

nice

Larry David · 23-09-2006 10:53pm

ircoha wrote:

People,
People who need people
Are the luckiest people in the world
Where children needing other children
And yet letting our grown-up pride
Hide all the need inside
Acting more like children than children
Lovers
Are very special people
They're the luckiest people in the world
With one person,
One very special person
A feeling deep in your soul
Says you are half now you're whole
No more hunger and thirst
But first be a person who needs people
People, People who need people
Are the luckiest people in the world.

So if online dating makes it happen, good.

ghey.

ircoha · 23-09-2006 11:14pm

Larry:
from this post by you:

Main point, IMO. Anyone who needs to resort to Online Dating is socially inept, as they clearly aren't capable of meeting a partner through more conventional methods.

Also by you elsewhere on this forum

Hey,

I'm 27, and have been playing guitar for 15 years, and am very competent. I am looking for a Folk Group to play guitar and sing with, around the Northside of Dublin. My influences are mainly Jazz, Blues, Metal & Rock, but I also like a lot of Dylan & Arlo Guthrie, etc, and would love the idea of singing and playing with a group of guitar players and singers with some nice harmonies!

Anyone got any suggestions?

Cheers!

Sonnenblumen · 23-09-2006 11:52pm

Hey, look whats that caught in the benchvice? Well its a pair of..........

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 24-09-2006 12:54am

Larry David wrote:

ghey.

Grey...?

Ba_barbaraAnne · 24-09-2006 1:03am

Larry David wrote:

lol - kinda sums it up. I especially love this line:

"You see, you meet people through people, and thats what a lot of them haven't got... friends! And you have to question that, don't you?"

Main point, IMO. Anyone who needs to resort to Online Dating is socially inept, as they clearly aren't capable of meeting a partner through more conventional methods.

And what about people who, for one reason or another have lives that make it very difficult to actually get out and socialise?... Single parents and home carers for example. I was looking after my kids and my elderly father when I joined a website to make some friends and it was the best thing I ever did!

Now I'm able to get out and about more, and I have a nice lot of friends that I met through a website to socialise with. I would never have met any of these people through ordinary social contact so feel really lucky to have met them first online.

And doesn't boards have regular meet ups? Are we all 'saddos' because we use the internet as a communications tool?

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